Expectations from relationships....

Our Expectations from Relationships

Namaste everyone, 

In today's world people expect a lot of things from other people(the ordinary foolish ones )  whose expectations they never  bothered  or even tried to fulfil  but expected full commitment from others as their  right..

This thought keeps disturbing me ,"I am never good at meeting my own expectations from me but quite exceptional at meeting expectations of others from me.Strange but true..😂😂.."

Life has been quite strange as far as distribution of equal responsibilities on  expectations  of people from each other ..Everybody will agree on the fact that people usually expect more but put least efforts in fulfilling  other people's expectations.....

A relationship  is responsibility of both the individuals involved..but over burdening any one is not at all justified..but we forget that this overburden will eventually result in frustrations ,anxiety and disspointments..These are no healthy or positive signs for a longlasting  relationship..I wonder why people donot  value their relationships and continue to devalue them.. never prioritise them..and more importantly continue to take them for granted...as if the other partner is their some kind of emotional slave or something similar..

In this illusion that all relationships will somehow continue as the  other person is ordinary, weak and a  emotional fool ... despite of you being selfish ,indifferent , disrespectful and ungrateful.. even  very very important and strong relationships end or lose their charm and eternity...

Dear readers,Pardon me if I sound rude..but I personally donot want anybody to misuse their relationships in any sense...Because we donot have any idea about how severely we are damaging the self esteem and confidence of our weaker counterpart...How come people that love us the most, care for us the most and prioritize us before their ownselves..??We end up hurting them badly...just because ,We  donot care...and take them for granted...🤔🤔😕

 Am I selfish????

Namaste everyone,

 I am definitely getting underwhelmed about life... Simple simple Life's expectations  can not be met for ordinary people like me in a relationship..Am I acting selfish by having these expectations?Why me?? Don't  know the answer....There are so many Questions bothering me today..I am figuring out life by looking for answers of following questions:

1.Is it wrong to expect love from people we love?

2.Is it wrong to expect respect and trust in a relationship?

3.Is it wrong to expect commitment in a relationship?

4.Is it wrong to have a special space of only the two individuals involved in the relationship?

5.Is it wrong to have your own space in life?

6.Is it wrong to not agree all the time?

7.Is it wrong not to compromise all the time?

8.Is it wrong not to say sorry  without your fault?

9.Is it wrong to have friendship with other people ?

10.Is it fair to leave everybody else in the world for the relationship?

11.Is it not wrong to be conditional in a relationship?

12.Is it not wrong to take only financial benefits from each other in the name of a relationship?

13.Is it not wrong to abuse your fellow partner?

14.Is it not wrong to use your partner as a ladder  towards success?

15.Is it not wrong to keep reminding your partner about his or her weaknesses?

16.Is it not wrong to demotivate or stop your partner from pursuing his or her career or dreams?

17.Is it not wrong to do all the things you never want or expect your partner to do?

18.Is it not wrong to be never bothered about how your partner feels or is going through?

19.Is it wrong to force your opinion on your partner all the time?

20.Is it raising your own opinion,likes or dislikes wrong in a relationship?

21.Is it wrong for a partner to expect the highest priority in other partner's life and vice versa ?

22.Is it feeling emotionally  dependent on your partner  wrong?

23.Is it asking for equality wrong in a relationship?

Am I acting Selfish if I raise these questions in a relationship..?

Dear readers,you can easily figure out these are obvious questions that come into our minds when something  is really wrong in a relationship..Answers to these questions can simply guide us,when in doubt.. As ordinary people,  these relationships are  very  important to us..They are our everything..And walking out won't be easy for us..but reciprocation of feelings is a must in a relationship..This is not definitely too much to expect from a relationship. When we are not able to feel the vibes  and everything appears selfish and conditional,for how long a person can single  handedly drag the relationship that has turned into a burden way before  we even realized or sensed..Keep asking yourselves  these questions when in doubt..Asking for atleast same feelings,respect trust and care is not acting selfish.. These are the foundations of a healthy relationship...Please don't undermine yourself and donot force yourself or your uninterested partner into  relationships..Love and trust binds two people together..Honesty and commitment  helps to continue..If there is love but no commitment,respect and honesty in a relationship,that relationship is destined to mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically hurt people and is destined to fail..So whenever you are in doubt keep looking for answers for the above questions and donot drag yourself  into depression from a failed relationship..

Look for the red flags and make yourself  strong enough so that you can handle whatever comes your way..All relationships are not good and worth it..But this is also true that all relationships are not  destined to fail..Pure people still exist..True love still exists..and fully committed, honest and trustworthy people also exist ,they may be  very rare but they exist 🥰🥰... Please,Please...Don't rush into a relationship only for the sake of being  in a relationship..

Communication gaps.. in Relationships..

Communication gaps in relationships..

Namaste everyone,
I was thinking today ,many a times in relationships especially in grown ups or adults , we people reach a stage where we have nothing to say or tell to each other..we  try  to block all communication  channels with each other....

I know this does not just happened in a day or so.. reasons can be small or big..and problems can be both sided..but this is what is exactly happening ???Initially  even if we get annoyed for any thing mostly those were little little things  ,we will get angry or sometimes simply acted  that we are angry..we tried to talk ,hum baat karte the,ek doosre ko manane ki koshish karte the,baat kiye bina toh rah hi nahi sakte the but as relationships  get older with passing days , months and years people become so insensitive  to each other , what the other partner thinks(woh kya sochte hain),How the hell they actually Feel not pretend *kaisa feel kar rahe hain) ,What is actually bothering them( koi  baat unhen bother toh nahi kar rahi...),What are the reasons for them to  feel low..(woh kyun low feel kar rahen hain..) All this  usually the other partner fails to recognize..Reasons can be manifold..*iss baat ke reasons kuch bhi ho sakte hain..)I am not saying the other person will be  completely  at fault..but how come as partners,  people who have been  in solid relationships  fail to understand and feel what the other partner is going through..
Why the hell we start taking our partners for granted..as if they are there  and won't go any where..but this  total lack of compassion is further increasing  the communication gap between the two partners.. and weakening the relationship  to the extentthat nobody cares about each other (ki kisi ko koi fark hi nahi padta..)
If one one partner realizes the other one is in some sort of emotional trouble, than  half the problem is solved ..they can easily motivate and  comfort their partners ..so that one of the partner who is feeling  low whatever may be the reasons can restart..Although it happens very rarely. The communication gap becomes so wide  that people simply stop bothering about each other..they simply donot care..
Actually I personally  feel if one of the partner is not working  this is quite disturbing and saddening for them...one partner who is working  is busy but the other one is in emotional  turmoil..he or she might start feeling lonely  and depressed... they dont see a path ahead..because if  ordinary people are usually so much  emotionally  invested in their partners..this insensitive  behaviour  of the other is mentally  not acceptable  to them.. and  one more thing is that,  they donot have the guts to say  any thing..We should never forget communication  is the basis of every relationship. we should talk and express our feelings to each other..relationship  is not a  one day game.You did everything  right it's done for few days or months ,it's  not like that..everyday we have to conduct it in a manner cordial  for both the partners..

First.. we have to  make each other feel wanted  loved and important.. 

Second most important thing is , I always emphasize  on nurturing our own selves.. to become better joyful human beings so that ups and downs of relationships  does not affect us much..In every kind of relationships we have to give each other space ,everyone knows this fact.but we fail to understand the underlying importance of the fact that we as individuals  have to nurture our own selves in this space of ours.This is not only important  for our own personality development  but also help us to maintain a healthy relationship..We have to overcome our insecurities and then only we are able to communicate  to each other as equals..In addition as we are confident and happy individuals  we can be great partners and understanding of each other will be strong. Even if most of the ordinary people like me have not started nurturing  their own selves,they can start now..😊😊
Dear readers ,please donot have these feelings that doing something  that makes ourselves happy and joyful  is a selfish act..only happy and contented humans can be better contributors to relationships  and to the society  as a whole..this is my personal thinking..Hope you can relate with this..
😊😊😊

Why to Force Someone To Stay?

Forcing Someone To Stay.. 

Namaste everyone, 

Dear Readers Reading my blog..

We all need our relationships as a backbone of our lives, we simply can not do without them...but things are not always as they appear...This is 100% true that we can not do without our relations... Relationships are our strength and inspiration for moving forward in life but broken relationships  also have huge negative impact on emotional well being  of simple ordinary people..who  are very much emotionally dependent on them..
But the thing is forcing people to continue a relationship  is a absolute disaster..we do not only do to ourselves  but to the other partner  as well..
It is absolutely  fine to make certain compromises or adjustments to make a relationship  work..but when such a stage comes ,when any one of the partner  has to compromise his or her self respect that too multiple  times just for the sake of continuing  the relationship is not at all acceptable..

If love ,care ,trust and respect are not naturally  part of a relationship and we all the time have to force things to happen...something is definitely  wrong...
Everything is so natural and easy in a pure relationship.. Loving ,caring ,respecting  and giving importance  to our partner can not be dictated  or forced ,it very naturally flows through ,if both the partners  are  totally committed and are in love..
"Forcing  someone to stay..even after knowing that what are the feelings  of the other is hurting our ownselves  more and more.."
In a forced relationship we expect things that can not be fulfilled obviously because there are no real feelings and as a result  we continue to become more and more emotionally weak..
There is no love when everything is pretended and artificial ..
Forced relationship results nothing more than disappointments,agony ,depression, hate and sadness..because person who is forced into the relationship  will never be able to meet the emotional expectations of the other..
Further disturbing our mental peace...we are expecting a person to take care for us,noticing  our little little things,respecting us ,trusting us and valuing us but we very well know that he or she does not even love us in the first place..Isn't it worst possible behaviour we are doing to ourselves...🤔🤔🤔
Forcing people into relationships is like  polishing and painting a fully rotten thing.. It may look good for sometime but eventually things will clear up..We have to get over our own insecurities and somehow gather courage to move out of a forced relationship..This is for our own protection..because forced relationships usually  turn abusive either  emotionally  or may be physically  as well.It may appear tough initially, but it is for our own good...
Neither we should be part of such a relationship nor by any means force others to be a part of it...This failed relationship will bring absolutely no happiness to any one involved..so accepting the real feelings of each other as they are and not forcefully is the only solution..
Nobody can make another person love or trust or respect the other person..if he or she does not have those feelings naturally...He or she may pretend it but those pretensions and of course the relationship will be shortlived and very painful...Accepting the truth is the only way out..It will be definitely difficult for one of the partner whose feelings were true..but with time this walking out will truly be beneficial for both the individuals involved...
Dear readers,although we ordinary  people are very much involved in relationships as they are very important for us,but once repeatedly knowing the disinterest of the other and his or her indifferent behaviour and real intentions, it is our responsibility towards our ownselves to get over it and start afresh..I know it is not easy but staying in such a relationship is even worse..We have to come out of it somehow..A failed  relationship is not the end of everything...In my personal opinion it's definitely  a God's way of protecting us..😇😇

Coming out of a Failed Relationship."I Hate You and I Mean it.."

" I hate you and I mean it.."

Namaste everyone,

Getting  a failed  relationship out of your life and especially mind is not at all easy for people who were actually into the relationship with full commitment and honesty..They find it the hardest to accept that the relationship is over or does not have any significance for the other and therefore needs to be ended..

Giving your 100% in a relationship  is not at all wrong but in addition , expecting honesty and commitment is noway a crime or asking way too much..

"Relationship is a living thing that feeds on love ,care,trust, honesty,commitment and respect..In absence of any one of the above requirements it will sooner or later die..."

Once admitting that the relationship is over physically  it still takes a lot of time to get over it emotionally...

 Reminding ourselves how  badly the other person hurt you ,that too multiple times  and over quite a long period of time..only because we became so ignorant  or I should say we refused to see the reality in the name of our love and importance of the relationship for us..but now that we know that there is nothing left in the relationship we must keep reminding yourself loud and clear that you simply cannot stand your partner who failed to  continue a pure relationship due to whatever reasons and tell him or her ,"I hate  you and I mean it"..

"From now onwards I can not allow you to take over my feelings and  throwing  me in the depression of unworthiness and insecurity.. Whatever excuses you gave and how badly you played with my emotions can never be justified by any dumb explanation..So so..so...I hate you and I mean it.."

Dear readers, coming out of a failed relationship is not a failure of life..It is actually a blessing in disguise that protected us from any further damage both emotionally and sometimes physically as well..Don't be emotional fools..As I say being  emotional is not a problem  but being a emotional fool is definitely a problem..We ordinary people are emotional and tend to act foolish many a times acting emotionally..Coming out of a failed and broken relationship is not easy..But keep reminding yourself  how badly the other person used you, hurt you, insulted you and made you feel insecure,  underconfident and unwanted..

With passing days ,you will surely feel thankful ,Yes ,you read me correct ,thankful to the hurts done to you so that you became stronger and more confident as a person..There are no insecurities now..There is no sense of unworthiness as you were forced to feel as a result of the relationship that lacked integrity ,honesty and of course purity..Give a thought...🤔🤔

 Why can't we agree to disagree??

Namaste everyone,

In our day to day lives,we have a lot of disagreements with people around us, be it our closed ones also but that noway means that we hate them as well..This thing or I should say thought is not as simple as it appears..

We usually mix disagreements with hate  and disrespect or sometimes even disregard for each other...but the thing is ,

If I like red and you like blue...It noway indicates that blue is  a  bad color and I should start to hate you ,because you donot like what  I like..This simple thought helped me identify a major reason that acted  as a deterrent in relationships...

As partners or as any two individuals it is a 100% possibility that our point of views can not fully match..We will  agree on somethings and disagree on others..We  actually fail to  respect or even recognize each other's opinions and try to force our's onto them...This forceful behaviour can last for sometime...but its not healthy,it's not legitimate.. It is in fact disrespectful and even sometimes disturbing for one of the partner and he or she starts feeling underconfident and insecure because their opinion doesnot matter and  even if they gather courage to express it ,It results in a rift or a bad fight or quarrel between the two individuals...

It is the  trait of some dominating individuals that they want their opinion only to matter without even giving slightest regard to what their partners feel and want to say..

To agree on each other's disagreements is not that difficult, if we  respect and trust each other completely..It is but obvious that one person's insecurities regarding disagreements on a particular thing results in a quarrel or  I should say some kind of rift between  the two individuals...

Dear readers,I personally feel we should give full freedom  to our partners to express themselves fully.. so that we very well know what is exactly going on in their heads and how exactly they are feelings..What is  our partner's view on a particular thing that affects our lives is definitely important..So how can we ignore it or even disregard it...One important point here is that if we are giving enough space to our partner's point of view and respect it ,the same behaviour is also expected from them as well...Because in relationships everything is mutual...The responsibility of the past ,present and future of a relationship lies on the shoulders of both the individuals and noway on any one of them...

I have seen a different  side of many people in relationships, because usually people fail to acknowledge or understand other person's feelings and fears...

Dear readers,Why can't we act as support system for our partners or for that matter everybody we come in contact with..

Always give enough space for even your naturally introvert or under confident  partner to flourish.. Act  as a positive support,be real and respectful....With unconditional support and love, you can definitely make your some how weak partner do wonders and achieve his or her dream..Be a constant support system...This is what is expected...

The irresponsible behaviour of one of the partner be like 

1.Taking the other for granted..

2. Misunderstanding  the other all the time..

3. Disrespecting  the other partner..

4. Occupying the personal space of the other forcefully..

5. Giving zero or very very little importance to other's point of view..

6. Prioritising yourself on your partner..

7. Giving high importance to your career and goals and giving  negligible importance to your partner's ambitions and regarding them as useless..

8. Not  trusting your partner..

9. Not  asking for your partner's choice or opinion or like or dislike..

10. Taking  decisions that affect both the partners without other's consent and sometimes even knowledge..

11. Forcing your superiority on the other in terms of finances,looks or any other stupid reason..

12. Using   your partner as a ladder for growth instead of a support system and even failing to recognize and acknowledge..

13. Making  fun of the weaknesses of your partner publicly instead of correcting him or her privately..

All the above mentioned acts  of  one of the partner result in resentment and in my personal opinion a kind of emotional abuse  people do to their partners..

Dear readers,Please accept your partners with their weaknesses and strengths..Create enough space for both of the partners to flourish and prosper in a relationship..Disagreements on things can not or I should  say must not be the reason of a failed relationship.. Disagreements are point of views..They are not judgements for parting ways..Opinion of both the partners should be equally valued..then only a  healthy relationship can survive the ups and downs of life..This is actually the only way out for the prosperity and mental well being of both the partners and for the success of the relationship as a whole..Think about it..🤔😊💞

Why We Should Walk Away From a Failed Relationship?

Walking away from  a failed relationship...

Namaste  everyone
We are ordinary  people and never even had enough guts to really express our feelings to the world...or even to our closed family members..We are the typical  introvert types...I  personally  feel this  is nothing to feel sorry or feel underconfident about it..
This was our nature..we were never good at expressing what we really feel  and were never able to ask for what we really wanted....
But one thing we were always sure of, "We always have been pure and totally committed  to our relationships..."
I was never able to find answers to questions of relationships  failures..of people who were once deeply  involved and committed or may be appeared so..or were fooled or were  rather in a relationship for some selfish  reasons.....No body can guarantee  the success  or failure of relationships,if any one of the person in the relationship  has something fishy or any  selfish motive for coming into a relationship... 

Most importantly  the failure of relationships  can be clearly  attributed  to the fact that one of partner has no intentions left to nurture  the relationship and other partner being emotionally  more attached continues to give more than 100% to balance the deficit created by the other  uninterested partner.
The thing is weaker person in a relationship who somehow  wants to continue the relationship  because of being  truly involved and never had enough courage to walk away ....
Walking away is never easy for weak people  because their feelings are absolutely  true..and moreover they feel so underconfident  about themselves that they are not able to handle rejections ...
Walking away and getting  over a relatioship that failed definitely requires courage beyond words...specially  for people who even have failed professional  lives as well..
The main point here is for walking  away from a relationship  that failed due to whatever reasons, you once felt as if that relationship  was your only world and you  never imagined  life beyond  that...
The only way for walking   away is through some kind of distraction ..The distraction is the saviour here...otherwise we will get overwhelmed  with emotions and memories  from the past that were actually fake and meaningless..Actually when our love changes into an addiction, we also do not come to know unless the other person shows his or her true colors..Most importantly we ordinary people keep on giving more and more chances even after multiple  betrayals  and insults...
In addition to that we ordinary ones are so so committed and invested so much of our lives and emotions that walking away or getting  over it seems impossible..
 I know  totally getting over anything to which we are so much emotionally  involved  requires  great deal of motivation  and self belief...Starting  life all over again without someone  whom you disillusioned as your life is of course   very difficult..
Dear readers , Please do not continue any relationship because of any of your own emotional weaknesses..Be true to yourself..stop  compromising your self respect for selfish and fake relationships...They donot deserve  your lifelong true and pure emotions..It's  not worth it..Life is important.. and people that truly love you unconditionally should be part of it and definitely  not those for whom you are fulfilling  some of their vested interests...Those people for whom your emotions never had any vàlue..never respected you  never trusted you..should never be part of your lives..
Start  finding  ways , start investing  in yourself, start giving  yourself love and respect  you truly  deserve..Donot let others define your worth on the basis of a failed relationship...
Losing a person who truly loves  you is a loss  that can not be filled easily..but  you didn't  lose any body,  the relationship  was  definitely  not true..It was fake and never deserved  your true and pious  feelings..It is definitely  the loss of the person who despite  of being in a relationship  doesn't  give his or her 100%...and was never truly committed...

Disagreements in relationships..

Namaste everyone,
In our day to day lives..we have many confrontations with people around us, be it  our family members, friends, kids or colleagues or anybody that we come in contact with..It is not necessary  that we will be agreeing  with other people's perspective and opinions about things happening around us all the time..
Disagreements are bound to happen because we all are  totally different  individuals..And This is absolutely fine...but things get out of control when people force their point of view on others and want others to agree forcefully and when they don't, they end up abusing each other or insulting each other and finally hurting  each other badly..
Mostly dominating people can't handle disagreements.. They even want  everybody  around to agree  with them all the time..
In relationships  this dominant  behaviour will definitely  create unrest in the mental peace of the other partner..
Usually ordinary, simple people in relationships continue even with the dominant  behaviour of their partners out of love or sometimes  due to their own insecurities  and underconfident behaviour.. but things  get out of control  and one of the partner starts hurting other partners self respect and self esteem..
Even after they say sorry,that sorry is unable to pacify the other  because the person actually never meant it but just said it for the sake of saying..Mostly people donot even bother  to say sorry for their insulting behaviour to the other..They donot bother what the other person felt and how badly it affected their self respect..
There are even certain shameless traits of people who say sorry..but on the other hand continue  with their abusive and insulting  behaviour  as well...
Ordinary people fail to see a way out of such a relationship...Only because they donot want to loose their partner or sometimes because of their own emotional and financial  insecurities..
Saying Sorry  without actually  feeling it  will definitely  be never enough..because when one  of the partner says sorry for a thing done either intentionally  or unintentionally, it soothes the other partner  who is hurt..and creates a trust that this hurtful behaviour will not be repeated..but not everybody is lucky enough to get partners  who  never intentionally want to hurt their other better half ,but due to any reason if they do so..their heartfelt "Sorry" is  definitely  enough..if  and only if it is really said from the heart and in future the mistake done or that particular abusive or disrespectful behaviour is not repeated..

Agreeing to each other's  disagreements  and accepting  each other as  we are...is what is all that is expected from a true relationship..
But the reality is people disagree with each other and want the other to always agree but they themselves  are not ready to accept  the other partner with his or her disagreements..
Dear readers, in true and healthy  relationships  both the partners are equal..Point of view of both the partners  matters equally.. Disagreements will happen,rather I should  say if there  are absolutely no disagreements something  is definitely  wrong...🤔🤔
If we respect  each other we will definitely   respect  each other's  perspective and thought process ..In a relationship we have to give each other enough space ..We can not simply overpower each other's  thought process  or force them to agree with us all the time..Nobody is perfect..not all relationships  are similar..No individuals nor their situations are similar....but if  the relationship  is pure and true,we only need to give our partner respect, care, trust and love..
I always give more priority to respect ,care and trust even over love...Some readers will find it strange because  they will give the justification  that love itself should be given the first priority..But I personally  feel relationships that lack respect,care and trust can never ever survive  for long..These relationships  are fake and with time love between the two also diminishes..Love might be there in the relationship but the foundation of the relationship is weak and little ups and downs of disagreements can easily disturb it to the core..I personally feel  their love was not more than a mere attraction...
Love can never ever survive  without respect and trust...Please nurture your relationships  with respect, trust ,care and lots and lots of love..This is the only essence  of life...because without our loved ones life appears to be empty and purposeless..💞💞

Mental barriers in carrying on in a relationship..

Namaste everyone,

We are simple ordinary people but we do have a clear understanding  of relationships...Everything for us  in a relationship is clear and pure from our side... and all we expect from our partner is pure love and commitment, nothing else..

There is a pure connection or a hidden chemistry or in simple words I should say a  understanding in two individuals that can not be explained  to others...Even little fakeness can not exist in relationships that are pure from the heart.. 

Relationships can be flawed at various levels for the society..The  two individuals involved appear to lack compatibilty,may belong to totally different backgrounds, may not match in looks, can have different  personalities. But one thing is sure if their love  and commitment is pure.. Relationship will be able to overcome all odds no matter what and survive successfully. 

One thing that bothers me a lot is since ordinary people who are 100% committed towards any relationship they are involved in..little  infidelity, little discrimination, little disrespect... disappoints us to the core..

It is our expectation that how we  feel , others should also have the same feelings  and even the intensity of commitment should also be the same..With time however, we have very well understood that this is  next to impossible...

This  some times creates mental barriers for ordinary  people to be part of a relationship..Because sometimes our expectations from the other person are way too high then the normal..In the initial days of a relationship  it is too early to judge a person and declare a 100% match or not.. There will never be a 100% match and 100% compatibility but with time if we see 100% commitment and 100% honesty then only its a possible match worth it..

Some people especially  the introvert ones fear getting into relationships despite of the fact that they are badly in need of a person to be on their side to support them,to take care of them,to love them and to make feel important  and worth it..They create so many mental barriers  in the form of high end expectations that too in very initial stages of a relationship..And sometimes they start doing the opposite by undermining themselves so much that they donot feel themselves as fit for any relationship due to their own insecurities and fears ...

These barriers does not make any sense once we find the right people and when they become  part of our lives.. all insecurities, all fears and all negativity simply vanishes..Life  starts appearing beautiful and worth it only when we ourselves start believing that we also deserve happiness,we are also worthy ,we also have a dream, we  can also achieve  what we dream for..and added to this love, support , care and trust of our loved ones on us works magic...🥰🥰😊

Dear readers, Please get over all your mental  barriers  they are definitely not real..They are simply our insecurities haunting us to deviate us from  living a life we always dreamt of ,we definitely can achieve what we want with continuous hardwork and self confidence...As far as relationships are concerned, donot jump into relationships, take your time..Expect things in a relationship that you are also willing to give wholeheartedly and with immense purity...After that if things go wrong due to whatever reasons, Please simply walk away...

Ordinary me...

Namaste everyone, 

I failed several times that too pretty miserably,I felt helpless ,I lost hope,I cried as well...But I realised even after this my dream is still the most important thing  for me..It is my identity, infact my dream is the only thing I proudly call as my own..I can not do without it..So I continued.. because this is the only way out...

"I waited for me , I did not come...After years, I came..Torn,Underconfident ,Insecure,purposeless.."

This was me ,years ago when I  knew something was really not right ,I was losing me ,My identity, My confidence..and still kept ignoring those very strong signals  of ever diminishing self worth and on the way I  kept compromising my self respect ,financial independence and confidence..for things..and people..and feelings that were obviously not long lasting..What was wrong with me...

Nothing  is forever.. Nothing is permanent, not even feelings or people very very close to us..Priorities change there is nothing wrong in it ,Problems  in relationships arise when it makes people to compromise their personal space ,value and financial independence. but still many people are somehow blinded by whatever  stupid reasons they give and finally end up broke both emotionally and financially..

Ordinary people find it extremely difficult to again even have a conversation with people whose true self has been shamelessly revealed.. This world ( our family ,our friends or any relationships we are involved in )  altogether suddenly become a totally different place if we fail to agree and adjust all the time...🤔🤔🤔🤔

Walking alone is not that bad,at least you need not seek approvals with each  forward step..There is no fear of judgements..You are 100% responsible for yourself and your actions...You are not dependent..You have your own pace and you need not be answerable to anyone..This is good..Really good...

Dear readers ,we ordinary ones were never that super talented, confident, outspoken or extrovert or even the lucky ones .We were the simple ,silly ordinary ones..I donot find it bad unless at some point of time we realise we  have to carve our way out in much much harder way then some others..( I am here noway demeaning the successful ones as I very well know everyone has their own share of struggles).

I am saying it's more difficult for ordinary ones is only because we ourselves spend years altogether only for the simple  realisation that our dream is also important and more importantly achievable...🤨🤔

 

Everything was  about you... 

Namaste everyone,
Relationships that fail miserably definitely hurt people.. "Why  Relationships that were once so much cherished fail???😕🤔"
Something is obviously very very wrong...But when it comes to human emotions we all usually neglect a lot of( red flags)things that are actually  going wrong...

We ordinary  people are in relationships out of pure love and care but sometimes our best is not enough for the other..because  may be their expectations from us are way different  from  what we do for them or may be vice versa...
But usually relationships fail because any one of them acts so selfishly that he or she begins to even compromise  other's respect, trust and emotions badly with each passing day but definitely without a slightest of regret...and "Everything was about you" these thoughts keep haunting in the minds of the one who is still very much involved and still truly in the relationship..
Using people in the name of relationship is such an emotional exploitation  we do the other that  the damage caused can not be even measured and it takes a lot of time to heal, sometimes months, sometimes years and sometimes almost a life time...

How come people become  so insensitive to other person's  emotions and feelings with whom they were once in a relationship is beyond my understanding...
Sometimes one person hurts the other so badly that things can not be reversed and damage caused is permanent, in that case it is pretty understandable that people  can not stand each other,that is fine..I am myself in favour of that...but how can any person be in a relationship  where everything in the relationship is about a single person..and nothing is mutual...

Actuallly it should be not even you and me ,it should be US in a relationship.... How come only one person's wishes,desires,aspirations ,feelings,wants and career matter but the other has a place of just nobody who is somehow dragging the relationship  out of love for the other even after knowing that his or her thoughts and feelings have no place in  the relationship..but he or she is continuing because due to any possible reason, they don't want to loose the person they love...

When one person confronts the other after a lot of emotional turbulences ,when questions are asked  there are no answers ....consider the following  pointers..

Dear readers ask these questions to check  that are you part of really good relationship..

1. Why was my opinion unimportant all the time?

2.Why was left alone when I needed you the most?

3.Why were you not part of things or events or days which were very important to me?

4.Why was I always  the one to say sorry even mostly without my fault?

5.Why was I  never as important  as you were to me?

6.Why was I your last prioritiy?

7.Why was  me ,my feelings, my achievements, my failures unimportant to you?

8.Why was I always the one who was adjusting, adapting and compromising?

9.Why was I abused and insulted in front of others?

10.Why were you not even willing to give your time and attention whenever I felt low?

11.Why you were never bothered that I stay or leave?

12.Why you were not even true to me in any sense?

13.Why you used me?

The answer  to the above questions is all the same that , "Everything was about you"

Trust, the soul of a relationship..

Namaste  everyone,
Relationships are one of the most important part of our lives..like food,water and shelter..We love our relations,we cherish them ,we all live for our relationships..we are emotionally dependent on our relationships..
Love,respect and trust are the pillars of any relationship..be it between  adults or between  a parent and a child or between friends..or between any two individuals  who want to collaborate for any smallest
purpose..
Trust is the soul of any
 relationship...
Love is the thing that binds two individuals but without trust it will be all fake and acompulsive..
Relationship with total trust on each other gives immense positive energy and confidence  that the two individuals can carry on in a relationship  no matter what...
Distrust in a relationship clearly indicates there is something very wrong in the relationship, the base  of the relationship  itself is flawed.. A weak foundation  can not handle a strong relationship.. Without trust the delicate strings of a loving relationship  can be easily disturbed  or even destroyed..
Trusting your partner is not a responsibility  but the basis of a strong lifelong  relationship...
Not trusting your partner  is not only embarrassing  but also totally desrespectful for the other partner..
Trust is not something  that you have it on your partner  one day not on the other...
A trustful partner is definitely  a gift of God that not everybody has...A trustful, loving and caring partner is not in the destiny of everyone....
As a relationship  grows... trust is also developed  in a relationship with true feelings ,honesty and commitment..
It's not  developed in a single day...but once you are committed  to a relationship not trusting  your partner is not acceptable..Here I am not telling to trust  your partner  blindly and keep on ignoring all the red flags in relationships..but mostly what happens is people distrust their partner because they are themselves  insecure..Their insecurities are the main reason of not trusting  their own loving partners..Their insecurities become so much  that when they turn into their own weaknesses , they start acting against their own partners..and finally against  the relationship itself...This results in distrusting the other,insulting them ,abusing them  and finally ending a relationship  without any real reason..

Regretting our whole lives for a failed relationship  only because one of the partner was never emotionally secure to trust the other and destroyed the whole relationship along with the pure emotions of love...is  definitely  a loss for  both the individuals in a relationship..

Because insecure partners neither trust their partners nor their love.
A relationship  flourishes on the contributions of both the partners...It is also the responsibility  of both the partners  to make each other feel secure and confident about each other and responsibility  of the relationship should be on the shoulders of both the partners and not any one of them...Moreover it should  not be the case that  we should keep on proving  ourselves all the time..There  should be no need of that all the times...We should be asking questions to each other,We should be accountable to each other...We  are definitely  answerable to each other in a relationship..
"What others say or perceive about our relationship does not matter,only what we feel about each other is really significant and nothing else..."

Dear readers,Trust your partner ..This definitely  strengthens the relationships..It gives the other partner a great sense of respect  and emotional security..Talk with each other..and overcome your insecurities by talking to each other.. When in doubt  ask your partner  first..Donot jump to conclusions..and do things that can cause permanent  damage to your relationship...
True Relationaships are extremely  rare..It's  not that one goes and another comes...True and pious love  relationships  are definitely  the rarest  ..Please  donot loose them on some silly misunderstandings..Clarify things ,ask questions ,get answers..But donot take hasty decisions  of ending up on a bad note...atleast donot abuse each other and give  chance to the other one to atleast explain his or her stand ..Afterwards the decision is absolutely yours.. 💞💞

I love you...

Namaste  everyone,
I love You....
These three words are the world's  best three words for everybody in this world..
These words contain the power to genrate immense  happiness and content in any individual..This feeling  of being  loved is ecstatic,no words can explain it...
I love you... these pious  words should be said with utmost responsibility ,sincerity ,honesty and commitment...because these words that bring immense  emotional satisfaction in one's  life can also easily devastate that person if said without purity..
Love is something that we feel every moment ,it not only gives us happiness  but motivation  to live ...to achieve our goals and follow our dreams with much more intensity and zeal because  we want to achieve  everything for our partners or loved ones..
Love is something  we ordinary  people live for as we donot  have anything else..
Everybody  knows the importance  of love in our lifes and the feelings  associated  with them..love brings changes to our lives..sometimes positive  sometimes negative...
Love is a purity of feelings..Love is bliss..It is something  to which our soul feels connected...Being loved takes us to cloud nine.. To have someone  who  really loves you is a real God's  grace and can not be  replaced by anything in this world...
Dear readers,falling in love is easy ,but keeping up with Love is a responsibility that needs to be fulfilled  with utmost sincerity  and honesty  each and every moment...
Love motivates us to carry on because we have someone who really loves us no matter what..
Love is definitely  not something to be taken for granted because it  involves people and their intense emotions..
Life without love lacks meaning ,achievements donot make any sense  if we do not have anybody to share our happiness  and sorrows  with..Love is everything  for any emotional person..
Nowdays people  contaminate  this pure feeling  with infidelity , disrespect and distrust...
Finding a loved one who really loves is a real gift of God..but people  sometimes  simply donot care and make other materialistic  things their priority  over love..
I know keeping  on in Love is not at all easy..but it is definitely worth it because you are doing it for someone  who really loves you..
Love should not be under the bondages of any conditions like:

• If you change  for me ,I will love you .
• If you become  successful, I will love you.
• If you change your habits, I will love you.
• If you change your looks , I will love you.
• If you leave your parents and friends ,I will love you.
• If you leave your career ,I will love you..
• If you have money , I will love you..

No conditions  can ever define a relationship.. Changing a person for loving them doesnot make sense..It is forcing someone  into a relationship ..It appears as if
"If you stop being you, I will love you.. "
This is also true that people do change and sacrifice  a lot for love ..but they  do it out of love and not as a condition  to continue  the relationship..
Love is to accept  our partner  with all their negatives  and positive..
Nobody is perfect...Love should complete both the partners..Love is not 100% compatibility , it is  100% commitment  and honesty..
In Love we do not bargain that you give this  and I will give you that..
Love may appear senseless  and stupid to others but for the partners involved  it is definitely everything...  Please donot lose pure love just for small pleasures of cheating or being dishonest or even being disrespectful  to your partner...It will not take you anywhere..In the end you will be left alone with absolutely  nothing...💞💞

Expectations...the real culprit.

Namaste everyone,
Expectations are the real culprit  in any relationship.. As long as our expectations  are met or I should  say we keep on meeting  other person's  expectations  everything goes well in a relationship... Nobody even bothers  or even pays attention  to the fact that many a times people's  expectations  from their partners are unreal or way too much for a normal person..More importantly  people expect things from their partners ,which they are not even willing to reciprocate...
Relationship are so important for every human being in this world that sometimes we are ready to even compromise  our priorities, our interests,our ego,our career and sometimes even our self respect  for the sake of continuing  the relationship...
Giving our best in a  relationship and sacrificing  our own priorities  is common in a healthy  relationship ...After all a relationship is all about love , care ,respect,trust and sacrifice...Most people do it willingly  and happily...
The problem arises when we expect all the wrong things from the wrong person...Mostly ordinary  people are very wrong in judging  people.. Expectations  doesnot make any  sense in the following  cases:

• If we expect true love from a person who doesn't even love you..
• If we expect truth from a person who lies so easily all the time..
• If we expect  loyalty from a person  who has cheated earlier also...
• If you expect a person  to give you the first priority who never ever gave you any priority..
• If we expect  respect  from a person  who has disrespected you publicly..
• If you expect care and attention from a person who is least bothered about you..
• If you expect a person to understand your silence if he or she never even bothered about what you told them directly..
• If you expect a person to stand by your side who was never present in your difficult times...
• If you expect emotional support  from a person who is not even bothered about how are you..or how are you feeling?
• If you expect a phone call from a person who never even bothers to reply to your message or even never calls  back even after seeing your missed call..
• If you expect a person to share  his or her real feelings with you but he himself never shares even little little things with you..
• If you expect a person to not have any secrets between you and him but has himself kept everything password protected..

The list is endless.. Evidently the thing is expecting wrong things from the wrong person....The success of a relationship  is dependent on both the partners..not one..If one is willing to go beyond limits  for the success of a relationship  but  for the other, relationship itself is not of much importance..or rather takes it so lightly or for granted..that relationship can be dragged but not for a longer period...and is definitely  not healthy for the one who is totally involved  or I should  say emotionally dependent  on the realationship..
Dear readers,Relationships are a thing to be cherished and loved.
Relationships are not burdens..I personally  feel they are the gifts of God for us..without them we feel incomplete and definitely  lonely..we should  nurture them with love ,respect and care..but definitely  not at the cost of losing our selfrespect.. The total ignorance  of one of the partner or using people in relationships  is not at all acceptable...

Relationships are our strength or weakness???

Relationships are our strength or weakness??

Namaste everyone,
We are surrounded  by so many different people in the form of various relationships
all our lives..we love and care for them and of course they also love and care for us..
Parents, siblings, grandparents,teachers  friends ,neighbours ,our uncle, aunts and cousins..(there can be many more for some people)These all relations  play a very important role in creating an environment  in which normally people spend all their lives and create  the basic foundation  of  our adult lives..
We feel happy ,we feel loved,we feel protected, we feel secure,we dream big things..In most middle class families people have all these relationships and are quite close to their families..
I am not saying all people have very good big families but just telling usually people feel loved and safe in their big or small families..and in our childhood  times ,we donot know what exactly  relationships  are or even what  is the importance of having healthy relations. But when we become adults from where the hell does all kinds of insecurities related to relationships ,money ,career and our ownselves start dominating us..
We no longer feel comfortable  with many people, we are not confident  about our looks, our career profiles,our marksheets ,our bank balance,our social status ,our jobs , our relationships ..we lack trust ,we feel insecure..
The thing is as grown ups we are expected to be responsible and there is no question about that ,we as adults should act responsibly ..but we feel weak and can not even gather the confidence  of telling people what we exactly feel because we are grown  ups ,we have to face it.."jo relationships  hamari strength  hote hain woh hamari weakness ban jate hain.."
So many new relations get added to our lives like girl friends, boy friends ,husband,wife , kids , in-laws, colleagues,and many more friends..I personally think what exactly happens is
 " we ourselves start a competition  of proving ourselves to all the relationships around us of our worth..and when we fail we  start feeling depressed  and insecure.."
Of all the relationships  that we have nurtured so far very few ones need any certificate  from us for  being the best or very successful, they are there for us no matter how  we are( although  they do wish for us to be happy and successful)
They love us and accept us the way we are, they are our real strengths..We donot need to prove the whole world our importance , we can not be the  good or best for everyone..
But the thing is usually  ordinary people fail to recognize  this due to their own  insecurities and trust issues..Performing better in life should be everybody's aspiration..but as we are doing it for our loved ones and family ,Our family and relationships  act as a support system and the ultimate source of strength for us..as I personally  feel and people can relate with me , if we are doing something  for our family or  for that matter any body we really love,we are filled with a different  kind of energy and zeal..I donot know about the results,but we do try to give our best..and that is what matters  ..its our intentions that really matter for our those relationships  that are the basis of our lives..
Have we ever wondered  that do our looks really matter for our family,jo hamare liye sabse important hoti hai,toh phir hum apne looks ko le kar itna under confident  kyun feel karte hain.. Actually if  we pay attention our insecurities  are actually mindgames that stop us from achieving  our goals by making us weak mentally and hampering  our confidence levels.
We have to perform in our respective  lives by using our strong relationships  as a source of strength..and all other things do not matter...at all..
When we start  doing things like this ,all clutter of unwanted expectations  from people that donot matter is removed from our minds.and when there is less clutter there will be more performance.. one  more thing not everybody will be happy with your success but of course most people  will be happy or not even affected by your failure..then why the hell do we carry the extra luggage of performing for them.. or proving something to people that donot  really even matter..
Dear readers, use your full potential  ,do work hard but with happy and contented  minds ,without any insecurities and pressure and with the mental and moral underlying  support of our loved ones..😊😊😊

Everything is mutual in a relationship..

Namaste  everyone,
Relationships are an  important part of every human beings life.
But don't know why and when they start becoming an emotional burden on the two individuals involved..
We keep on ignoring the signs that something is wrong ,something is lacking..The imbalance  in relationships  is definitely  caused  because either one of the partner  has taken all the load to continue  the relationship and the other one has definitely  started taking the relationship  for granted  or has no more feelings left for the relationship  or the other partner..
The thing that everything  is mutual  in a relationship is true to the core..and lack of any thing that is not mutual be it love ,care ,time, trust and most importantly respect will definitely leads to a failure in relationships.. Intially people usually find themselves  very happy, secure , respected and very  important  for the other..It is obiviously because both the partners  give 100% attention to each others needs and feelings..Moreover  they are mostly ready to sacrifice  their  own priorities  for each other ..They do it happily  and willingly  without any pressure or unease.
We fail to recognise that how can a relationship continue if the burden of its well being is purely on one of the partner's shoulders and the other is least bothered about the partner as well as the relationship..With each passing  day it becomes extremely  difficult  for the partner still fully emotionally  involved in the relationship  to carry on.. Because  there is no reciprocation of feelings from the other...
"A relationship  is a plant that feeds on mutual love,trust  respect and care..The plant becomes malnutritioned  with feedings only  from a single partner.."
How come emotional  expectations of one of the partner be met if other partner doesn't  bother or is least affected..The sole purpose of a relationship  is to make both the partners  feel loved ,respected and emotionally  secure..and not emotionally  dependent weak   and insecure.. Relationships  are our strength, they drive us through life's thick and thin with ease , happiness and comfort..They are not burdens definitely..If we are feeling like that..and fulfillment of each other's  expectations  from us appears to be a burden  there is definitely  something  that is not right.
This reasons  of disinterest of one of the partner or further both the partners being unaware of  little little things that matter for each other  is earliest sign of downfall of a relationship..
Things that give the other partner immense  happiness when no longer matter  for the other, It is definitely  a wrong sign..Because we can not be ignorant  to each others feelings and expectations if love and respect is there.. but  this is also true that most of the times if one of the partner decides  to carry on without any expectations the relationship simply lingers  on..but without any soul..
With due course  of time this concept of only one partner  carrying on, only leads to further bitterness ,disrespect and discomfort..One sided relationships are noway a healthy option..but sometimes  for ordinary people to gather courage to come out of a relationship is very difficult..
Emotional turmoil is not easy for anyone..Nobody can simply  live without love care and affection..It's  absolutely human  to crave for love,  care and a family.We have look for the red flags in relations and can not by any way  ignore them..Its not  that all relationships are bound to fail..Its our pure intentions towards the relation that will further decide that relationship  will survive or not ..  It is the responsibility  of both the partners  to take  care for each other's feelings and nurture the relationship and if you are not willing to take responsibility  of the other  as a  partner ,just stop continuing  to take advantage of other person's  feelings for you..
Feelings are definitely  pious, we shouldn't  hurt each other in any possible  way..Not everybody  in this world is blessed enough to get into real and pure relationships and people..In today's  world it is extremely  difficult  and rare..
Dear readers,please value your partners and relations..because our mere ignorance  or sometimes our own selfishness can also result us in  the failure of a relationship..Just trust,respect  and take care of your loved ones and please  do not take them for granted..I am not at  all in favour of continuing a abusive or dishonest or disrespectful relationship.. but give  your best to continue your real relationships and give value to your  loved ones..
At least your silly  faults or by noway your selfishness  be responsible for the failure of the relation..🥰💞

My below post further describes why people start taking others for granted??👇👇
https://myheartfultalks.blogspot.com/2020/06/why-people-take-others-for-grantedwhy.html

Fake relationships....

Namaste  everyone,
We are ordinary people and are often heard saying all relationships  are fake...My personal view on this also has been the same..
People betray others,take advantage  of others, manipulate them, use them and finally throw them out of their lives when they find ordinary  people  no longer useful..
These things are quite common in today's  world..and everyone  has faced this in one way or the other..but the point here is who should  be held responsible for these betrayals...obvious answer is the one who betrayed, cheated  or used the other one..
But my thoughts  deep within think  "Yes" the betrayer  is responsible..but but but..the other ordinary person  is no less responsible.. You will be  annoyed  with me listening  to this but let me give you my point..
We are simple, ordinary people that want serious  and pure relationships in life and  always strive for that..We always give our more than 100% to make the relationship  work...but in all this we give ourselves  completely..and keep on giving so much space to the other partner that the other partner starts  taking us for granted..we are even ready to give our own breathing space ,we reveal our weaknesses  to them..we become totally vulnerable  in front of them..we become totally  emotionally  dependent upon them..
We can not imagine life without them..we become ready for sacrificing  anything including  our ego for the relationship  to somehow work..I am not saying  there should  be any ego in relationships..It's  just that people keep on taking us for granted and for the sake of continuing  the relationship we continue to tolerate..usually ordinary people want to continue a relationship once made and want to give more then 100% to somehow continue it..but in this process we ourselves become so weak and vulnerable that even after recognizing flaws in the relationship and the partner we just can not gather the courage to end it ..
They keep playing with weaker person's  emotions ..and ordinary people allow them easily because  they are themselves  insecure  deep within..only for the sake of relationship that was actually  a fake one..we continue to make efforts to  continue  it somehow..
We  ordinary ones gave all the strength to them  because  of our own weaknesses,we  ourselves gave right to them to treat us badly or the way they want it to be ...with no revolt or even sign of annoyance from our side..That makes us so underconfident...that the other so powerful..
There is no equality  in fake relationships, there  is no mutual respect , no love ..nothing ..but the fake relationship  continues   because the ordinary  one is too weak to  end it...
Giving your everything  to a relationship  is not at all  a bad thing..everyone is actually  needs a relationship   that is pure to the core and we do   live for each other in  pure relationship.. but not by using the other  and throwing him or her out when they no longer suit you...is not at aĺl acceptable..We ordinary  ones have to  overcome our weaknesses  and strive for equality  and respect in relationships...otherwise continuing  the relationship will be burden than an asset in life... 
"Please ,please , donot jump into relationships  to hide your insecurities  and weaknesses...first overcome them  and then think of being in a relationship... Relationships  should be our strengths  for life not weakness.."

Relationships without Respect..2

Namaste everyone,
This is my second post regarding Respect in Relationships...I donot know whether I am totally correct  or not..but I do truly feel that how can you sustain a relationship without respect for each other???..You love a person but you can not give the due respect to him or her..this thing appears silly to me..We may not like a lot of things about  each other,but somehow you decided to be part of a relationship..If you are losing respect for each other,it is certain that sooner or later the so called forced relationship  will find its way to the end..What is expected of a partner  from the other is you should not hurt the dignity of the other.. especially  in front of others..some people think atleast you should act respectfully in front of others..I do not see any justification  in this also respect is something  you have to give at all times..its not that  something you have to act or pretend to do...If one person cannot  give respect to the other individual as part of a relstionship just  walking  away is the correct choice...because this disrespectful  behavior  is not a one day thing it happens over and over again without any apologies  or regrets..
People hurt others without any justified reasons, reasons  are endless..but the abuse continues. Disrespectful behaviour starts with one individual's self proclaimed thought of superiority over the other..which is noway healthy for any  realationship..A healthy relationship is made from equals and not from two different  individuals  with one having an assumption of being someway somewhat superior to the other with the exclusive rights of hurting the other,insulting him or her in any possible  way, making them feel insecure, feel inferior..
Disrespect and any kind of abusive behaviour is unacceptable, everyone preaches that..But what is the way out..because relationships  usually  donot break on any particular day's behaviour..they break when  abusing the other becomes the part of everyday life,in endless different ways ..
Now comes the reality check, who gave this unlawful inhumane right to one person to hurt other person's dignity over and over again..continuously from  days months and years..The answer is obviously the weaker person ,due to their whatever personal reasons or weaknesses  they  kept tolerating the nonsense abuse of the other..The weak declared  themselves  helpless idiots who have nowhere to go ,so continued this fake relationship..due to the fear of society or financial constraints  or any other reason..but accepting abuse of any kind  can never be justified  by any damn reason.. I do agree  with the fact that compulsions are there but they never give the other person  right to treat others disrespectfully..
Atleast we shouldn't  encourage  this kind of behaviour against  anybody including our ownselves...We have to raise our voice against this  unacceptable behaviour before it creates never dimininishing scars in our lives,leaving us weak ,underconfident and insecure individuals..that forget to live life and simply continue to exist without any aspirations or dreams...
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Relationships without Respect..1

Namaste  everyone,
Relationships are easy to make...I am focussing here on relationships  between grown ups..We as adults sonehow  feel attracted towards eah other and fell into relationships..I am not saying all relationships  can be disastrous  to  everybody's personal well being..but they can be... if there is no mutual respect among the two..I am not at all gender biased... Attraction happens..and is of course inevitable..
I feel  relationships  fail mainly because  people  do not treat their better halfs with equal respect...Problems arise if any one of partners starts dominating the relationship because of the following possible reasons:

1.May be he or she is more qualified  or earns better and the  other partner earns less or does not  earn at all.
2.May be because  any of the one has better looks.
3.May be because the one of the partner belongs to a better family background..
4.May be because one of the partner 's nature is as such.
5.May be because  one of the partner is deeply inecure and dominating..
6.May be because one of the partner has noway to go because of his  or her  financial conditions or even social pressures. 

Reasons are endless..and can differ  from person to person..“What I am deeply concerned  is who gives the right to one of the partner to treat his or her better half disrespectfully...
One of the partner can be less educated,can earn less or have a failed professional life..but who gives them the audacity  to treat the other  badly ..They keep on verbally abusing the weaker one (as they assume it)..
The underlying assumption usually for this kind of hurtful  behaviour  is the assumption  that the other person  will not go anywhere because  of social or financial restrictions.“
Disrespect is not tolerable..at all in any relationship..basis of adult relationships  is equality..but without respect for each other how can we expect equality..Every relationship is flawed.. No one is perfect..Everybody has some weaknesses be it emotional or financial..but "being in relationships both the partners are expected to support each other both emotionally  and financially..which ever way possible..people in relationships  should complete each other..should make each feel wanted ..not that the one person should make the other person feel like a burden or a liability..Relationships are not liabilities,  everything in relationships  are done out of love...no other reason drives it..but if one of the partner  starts feeling superior  to the other..he or she will definitely  turn disrespectful to the other...
Be respectful to your partners , they may be weak,underqualified ,not so good looking..or whatever weakness the other may have..Please  become each other's strength..and help  each other  overcome their weaknesses  and accept them as they are but with utmost respect  and equality...🥰🥰🥰
My following  posts are further related to respect  and fakeness in relation 👇👇
https://myheartfultalks.blogspot.com/2020/07/relationships-without-respect2.htmlhttps://myheartfultalks.blogspot.com/2020/07/relationships-without-respect2.html

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