Gratitude,Gave me a sigh of Relief. 

Namaste Everyone, 

Every body nowdays talks about Gratitude.I used to think I am not successful in any possible sense..I am pretty average or may be below average..in everything I have..I am not  professionally successful..I belong to a normal family..I am not super talented or even talented in some sense.. I don't own a legacy or family fortune..What should I be thank

ful for??What is this Gratitude?It is the sense of being thankful or having a sense of appreciation for things we already have or given to us somehow..

GRATITUDE... If we start feeling it, Feeling it from the Heart ..Our own rage against our own life starts to calm down.

When Nothing Else seems to work..and We  are surrounded by darkness of Failures...We feel Lost..We feel failed.It really gives a sigh of relief...Like Feeling Freah air...Like feeling Rain..Like feeling waves  at a  Quite beach ..This can go to the extent that  the only thing thankful for can be ,"Being still Alive"..It gives us hope to somehow continue. 

I may sound little sarcastic ,sad or depressed which I am...but this tiny feeling of Gratitude is helping me to  continue and It is a fact ...at least for me.. 

Dear Readers ,try being thankful for tiniest things in your life that you really feel thankful for..and then just for a minute think of people that Even don't  have that..Suddenly things will start falling into place..You will start feeling hopeful that whatever mess is there in your life  that can be cleared..things will work out..It  is just a matter of time..

It  definitely makes us compassionate and fills us with empathy..It calms us and our disturbed mind because we start having the feeling that we also have  atleast something..

Some times we all are going to some phases in life where nothing much is in our hands..What else is our way out ..I myself used to get irritated, annoyed,sad and disappointed when nothing works out..Things get ugly..Be it in Relationships or in professional lives...But when We start looking  at a the thin yet bright silver lining around the dark cloud..

Dear Readers  ,I am not saying it is easy to see..But one thing that am sure is that It is there..But our disillusioned mind could not see it..or feel it..

It is definitely because of repeated failures at personal or professional fronts..but we  forget that Life Goes on..It doesn't not stop for us feeling sad about it..So why not look for things that make us feel alive and significant in some possible way..makes us feel happy..in what we really want to do and not we are forced to do... Such things exist in everyone's life .Some see it ,some don't..People who are able to identify the little little yet the most significant things in  life ,live life to the fullest and others just  kept complaining and simply  waited for life to just pass by..and expected miracles to happen..which never happen  and they  continue to live in their mindmade shells forever ..I have myself spent years in this mindmade shell of mine..And many of us still continue to do so..

Dear Readers, Please Don't waste your lives ,There is no age  or perfect timing for  making a fresh start...Just make a start ...

Come out of your comfort zone...

Namaste everyone,
Living a failed life is easy ,we need not do anything, eventually  we will definitely be  livi g a worthless and purposeless life....I know  only being sarcastic  can not drive people or motivate them to do what they really want to achieve in life.
But the thing is to get a fruit we have to plant a seed, soil our hands, nourish the plant daily and when the right time or  season comes the plant will become a tree and bear the fruit ...Its not a one day process nor it can be achieved if we continue  to only think of getting the fruit but without planting a seed..
This is the simplest  comparison I can make with the lives of individuals who do have dreams but do not want to invest their time and effort  to it.. Although  reasons of  a stagnant life that lacks purpose can be manifold..like  for example the person lacks  the courage  to start ,the person fears failure badly or is very underconfident..or is lazy enough  to come out of his or  her comfort zone to start afresh ..or can even have social fears  to restart but it's definitely  the worst thing we do to ourselves...

But if you really want to  succeed  you have to start coming out of your comfort zone...Only dreaming can not give assurance  that you will definitely  succeed..mind it you are no way near it..
Even if you are some of the few privileged  ones with lot of  parental fortune.. a stage will eventually  come when you will realise..I have to achieve  something  that is my own...
This is  the triggering  point, I believe once you start having that urge of achieving  something  that you really own you yourself  will drive yourself to your goal (of course  as a result of continous underlying  effort the  success  achieved  will be most satisfying  ever). This satisfaction  will inspire you move  further daily...to not stop..dream bigger..the main advantage of this is that it definitely gives life purpose to get up daily and  follow your dream...
I personally  had zero confidence  and no courage at all to restart..for me years passed like this..for me they were around 14 years.....I always had dreams to do something magical that really satisfies  me  deep within ,I want to own my dream completely ,I want my sons to feel proud  about their  mother..I want my husband to feel proud about his wife...
I  had dreams but never had the courage  to follow them  ...This  was my reality...I was never ever bold enough  to come out of my comfort zone..I was lazy...I was shy..I feared society, something was really disturbing  me.. but with the monotony  of life, a exact same daily routine and with my kids growing up.. I realised I didnot have any purpose  all my life...
Every thing I have is a real God's gift to me..my  sons ,my husband...my family...our house..our assets,our apartment..but I don't  own them ,they  are given to me as a privilege...I know some people will say  we as house wives contribute in  all possible  and relevant  ways other than monetary ones.. we also have equal shares in households..I agree...But something  is really missing..
I would like to share a short story here..It was my son's  birthday and a very happy day for me and our family..My husband.. bought him an expensive  drone..and told him,"Can your mother ever buy such an expensive  gift for you,It's  me your dad who  can afford that for you"..May be (  I am giving him benefit  of doubt that he doesn't  mean to hurt me that way)this comment  was unintentional... but but but ...wait..it hit me so hard... deep within ,really I have no words to explain the pain  I felt..and so many years of endless day and night's contributions  vanished..I  felt unworthy...I felt the  ill effects of losing financial  independence due to whatever reasons..I was sad ,I was crying within but couldn't  express as it was my son's  birthday..but couldn't  sleep that night..
As days passed  I started  realizing  why can't  I make a  new beginning...I know I was not that active..or  extrovert types  that can easily ask for help and restart..I was definitely  not able to figure out where to start..I felt real darkness  as far as my professional  career  was concerned..I was not qualified  enough  ..I was not skilled enough..I had left my career years back.. Restarting  was not easy..but now that I have taken writing  and blogging  as my professional  career..my sole motive is to motivate people ...Please  donot lose hope at any stage of your life and gather the courage  to restart...It may seem impossible  ,but once you start things  will definitely  start  falling into place ..each day will be better than the previous... making a new start for yourself  is possible  for everyone. Dreams can be converted  into reality once you decide  to come out of your comfort zone...I am not telling  bookish things to you..If I can(the most ordinary  person) ,then you all struggling out there definitely  can..😊😊

Quitting  is easy,hanging on is extremely  difficult..

Namaste everyone,
 We all have been through  different  kind of struggles in life ,be it professional  or personal ..but if we somehow gather  the courage to hang on ,these struggles  will definitely  fade away one day..but if we decide to quit , those weak times which may have become the milestones of our life will be like any other day of our pretty ordinary  lives..
If we are able to gather little courage and belief  that we are not going to quit ,no matter what,sooner or later we can achieve  what we want..but if are not able to overcome our fears we will definitely  not reach any where...
I know it is not at all easy but is definitely  worth it...Struggling hard for your dreams is not easy but it really gives unimaginable sense of satisfaction  and self worth..when we achieve  things we always dreamt for..
When we decide to quit because  we fear failure or we can not work hard enough or due to any other excuse or reasoning we give to ourselves,our dreams can never become a reality,this is for sure..
When we decide to quit because we decide to  enslave  ourselves  to our weaknesses and whatever circumstances...but most importantly  we forget,   
"What are we doing to our lives,to our dreams and to our own expectations  from life ,forget about the expectations  our loved ones have from us..?"
Obviously choosing  the path of quitting  was easier, we were definitely  weak and
underconfident..or I  should say  our own dream  was not important  enough for us to hang on...
Everybody  knows the struggles  are real,nothing is easy..with each passing moment  we have go through  various kinds of tests that life throws at us..but we decide  to choose  a stagnant life and instead of making a come back we  decide to quit..
Many or I should say mostly ordinary people wasted their lives because at some moment  of their struggle  towards their goal they decided to quit..
 Dear readers,

• Why we  have become so ignorant  towards our own expectations  from life?
• Why we decide not to follow our own dreams?
• Why we decide to be ordinary and average all our lives instead of trying again?
• Why we ourselves  are our least priority?
• Why are we Ok..with losing and quitting?
• Why can't  we express what we really feel?
• Why can't  we say 'No' to any body?
• Why can't we stop pretending to be happy?
• Why can't we live for ourselves  ?
• Why can't we continue  despite  of all odds?
• Why we have to quit all the time?
• Why can't we make a new start even after multiple failures?
• Why can't we also make it?

Ignoring all these questions we actually  make our own lives such a mess that it becomes impossible or we can say appears that we can not come out of this web of unworthiness and lack of purpose.
It may appear easy to quit in the beginning  and hanging on difficult..but the truth of life is living a failed life,  living a purposeless is far more difficult..It is definitely  filled with dissatisfaction, dissent and disappointments.
I have felt it and so as so many ordinary people like me..Please donot continue  to live like this..Give life another  chance ,give yourself another chance..Life is not meant to be wasted in regrets but we have to make a come back with far more energy and the best ever version of ourselves..😊😊

Go through the following  post to know the importance  of dream in our ordinary lives.

My Dream is Important to Me..

How long we should wait to get success?

Namaste  everyone,
Most of the people of this world are not pretty much as successful  as the other remaining 1% of the population..Although most of them work hard towards their goals or dreams and  wait for real success  in life..For some people the wait is for almost a life time..and people continue to live with their ordinary lives waiting for success.
The definition  of success is also pretty much different for everybody because some people crave for money , some for career and status , some crave for health, some crave for family and loved ones..
Whatever may be the meaning of success for individuals,it is definitely  important...and waiting for it is although normal...It is also a fact that," Wait should  be combined with continuous  hard work and endless efforts.." but thing that bothers me is that  for  how long we ordinary  people should  be waiting for success  or at least something  to click or work in our favours..
Being ordinary this wait is no doubt the most difficult part for us,because we spent all our lives achieving  absolutely  nothing for ourselves..but now that we somehow  gathered courage to make a new start ,despite of  hard work,  this endless wait is really very very confidence  breaking and disappointing..
It may not matter for successful people who have many accomplishments in  their  professional  as well as personal life..but for ordinary people who have nothing much and all their hopes lies on  a single endeavour, waiting for success is really difficult..People donot have any idea , how difficult  it  is  for ordinary people to make a new beginning..It always seems impossible  for ordinary people to make a new start  because all their lives they have over powered themselves with the feelings  of unworthiness ,low self confidence and self esteem..
It is real difficult  to first cross  the mental barrier..On the top of that ordinary  people also had a lot of insecurities  which they somehow overcame to restart..but hurdles appear to be never ending and waiting for success  is really  detrimental  to their confidence  levels..
It is definitely  not easy...
Dear readers ,I  donot know why I am not able to figure out  a timeline for this ..Struggle  appears to be never ending..We all very well know that  achieving success  is not easy and is definitely  not a one day game..It requires constant  and continuous  hard work..but nobody knows for how long the ordinary people have to keep  their spirits high even in absence of any positive  results..
In the absence  of positive  outcomes it will definitely  become very difficult  for anybody to continue  putting efforts..but one point  that I am getting here is we can not stop even in the absence  of results..Let me know your point of views in the comments  section .. Nobody can set a time frame...🤔🤔🤔but this waiting  really gets into our nerves...

My experiences and feelings in initial days of starting my blog..

Namaste everyone,
Today I thought of sharing my feelings and experiences after starting afresh..after  years..may be someone can relate to this..
"I was finding it difficult  to continue because of no significant improvements whatsoever in my professional life.."
This particular thought keeps on haunting me...and every ordinary person who somehow gathered  courage to start afresh after failures or years of no professional activity  at all...This gets into our nerves, we feel restless and irritated..waiting for something to click. Most of the times nothing happens..no movement in the success counter, it appears as if it is stuck on zero for us only...
When I decided to write my blog.."Myheartfultalks" , I felt strong and confidence  for sometime initially..I was motivated enough  to write  posts and thought I had much to write and share with people who are really struggling to begin with something....I  was giving my best..I was trying..I was not getting much audience response...I had minimal  technical knowledge...but I was learning new things every day as far as technicalities  were concerned...I am still trying..can not say how much..It is important  for me.. 
"I am on a journey  to prove myself to me".
After writing posts I was desperately waiting for views..I felt restless..I was annoyed..fear of failure was again really ,really frightening  me,I was feeling  damn frustrated..,I was checking my page views over and over again..,waiting for comments or some kind of audience response was much awaited..I needed  their feedback and appreciation  desparetely..but nothing was happening....After two months I even thought of giving up..but some how didnot do so..I am still trying..will continue to  try..
I shared this only because I want to say is please hang on..donot quit..Let's  see..Honest effort never gets wasted..we will make a way out...
But the thing is in absence of success  we can drive motivation from the fact that atleast we are a somewhat  improved  version of what we are yesterday ..we can keep reminding  our ownselves  that at least  we are improving..we are on the path of self improvement..What  we are doing is our own stuff,we own it..whatever little we will achieve it will be our own..I personally feel its just a matter of time ..we can not stop now ...Please donot stop in between ,keep trying..😊😊😊

Carrying on with life is difficult...but worth it..

Carrying on with life is difficult...but worth it..

Namaste  everyone,
I wonder sometimes why it is so so... difficult for us especially the ordinary ones to  carry on...We are carrying  on not only in personal but also  in professional  lives...
In our personal lives we are always the adjusting ones ,the understanding ones..who are always ready to compromise  so that relationships  donot break..We are like this and we donot find anything  wrong in this,this  is part of our nature..but this is not at all easy ..Many a times things do get of control and it really gets very difficult  to carry on..We value our relations,they are very important  and inevitable  for us..we love them and care for them..this gives us immense motivation to carry on no matter what..
On  the other hand as far as our professional  lives are concerned  we are not that strong and highly motivated..we make it a thing that we can even do without(I am here more concerned about females who sacrifice their professional life for their personal lives).This sense  of least prioritising  our professional  lives over personal lives.. over the years not only spoiled our professional  carriers  completely but also label us as under achievers , unsuccessful  and unworthy  even in the eyes of those for whom we took all these decisions..These decisions that we usually  take , totally ignore our professional  life and  is not at all recommended...I know there are some important  years of our lives when we need to prioritize  our personal  lives..and professional  life does take a back seat.. but total ignorance  towards professional  carrier is a real bad we do to ourselves..We do carry on like this for years but sooner or later this  decision  of ours will start showing  it side effects..resulting in low self esteem,low confidence and degraded respect of our own self in our own eyes..forget about how low people also start looking at us because of a failed carrier..
Now even if we make a new start after  gathering  all the courage  in the world..it  gets very very difficult to carry on..This struggle is real..We appear old school..we lack  confidence,we lack knowledge..we are not up to date.. our expertise  is also years old..and of course fear of judgement is always there as a constant haunter to us..Believe  me its true as I face it and continue  to do so...
One thing that keeps me going is the thought that when am quite good (as I personally  feel😊😊) and successful  in my personal life , its not because everything is quite outstanding in my personal life..but the reason is I have decided  to carry on..I prioritise  my relationships the most..they are my love and my life..So So...If   in a similar manner I decide to give importance and priority  to my professional  life ,I will definitely  be able to carry on..Over the years as we nurture our relationships..Everything is not absolutely  fine in relationships  also..but we do not decide to quit..then in this new journey  of ours ,of course  everything will also not be easy and comfortable..but if we decide to continue with the thought that professinal life is also important..(not for the money related things ..they are also of course important)but with the thought that it is solely  for our own self growth  and satisfaction. Sooo...Please  carry on..even if you are not getting any results or even negative results..continue your journey...atleast you will little closer to your destination  with each passing day..and will surely succeed 😊😊
P.S I started my blogging journey  a month ago and am not of course  that successful today..but I personally feel  ,if I can relate with any body reading this, one day I surely  will..😊😊