Expectations...the real culprit.

Namaste everyone,
Expectations are the real culprit  in any relationship.. As long as our expectations  are met or I should  say we keep on meeting  other person's  expectations  everything goes well in a relationship... Nobody even bothers  or even pays attention  to the fact that many a times people's  expectations  from their partners are unreal or way too much for a normal person..More importantly  people expect things from their partners ,which they are not even willing to reciprocate...
Relationship are so important for every human being in this world that sometimes we are ready to even compromise  our priorities, our interests,our ego,our career and sometimes even our self respect  for the sake of continuing  the relationship...
Giving our best in a  relationship and sacrificing  our own priorities  is common in a healthy  relationship ...After all a relationship is all about love , care ,respect,trust and sacrifice...Most people do it willingly  and happily...
The problem arises when we expect all the wrong things from the wrong person...Mostly ordinary  people are very wrong in judging  people.. Expectations  doesnot make any  sense in the following  cases:

• If we expect true love from a person who doesn't even love you..
• If we expect truth from a person who lies so easily all the time..
• If we expect  loyalty from a person  who has cheated earlier also...
• If you expect a person  to give you the first priority who never ever gave you any priority..
• If we expect  respect  from a person  who has disrespected you publicly..
• If you expect care and attention from a person who is least bothered about you..
• If you expect a person to understand your silence if he or she never even bothered about what you told them directly..
• If you expect a person to stand by your side who was never present in your difficult times...
• If you expect emotional support  from a person who is not even bothered about how are you..or how are you feeling?
• If you expect a phone call from a person who never even bothers to reply to your message or even never calls  back even after seeing your missed call..
• If you expect a person to share  his or her real feelings with you but he himself never shares even little little things with you..
• If you expect a person to not have any secrets between you and him but has himself kept everything password protected..

The list is endless.. Evidently the thing is expecting wrong things from the wrong person....The success of a relationship  is dependent on both the partners..not one..If one is willing to go beyond limits  for the success of a relationship  but  for the other, relationship itself is not of much importance..or rather takes it so lightly or for granted..that relationship can be dragged but not for a longer period...and is definitely  not healthy for the one who is totally involved  or I should  say emotionally dependent  on the realationship..
Dear readers,Relationships are a thing to be cherished and loved.
Relationships are not burdens..I personally  feel they are the gifts of God for us..without them we feel incomplete and definitely  lonely..we should  nurture them with love ,respect and care..but definitely  not at the cost of losing our selfrespect.. The total ignorance  of one of the partner or using people in relationships  is not at all acceptable...