Communication gaps.. in Relationships..

Communication gaps in relationships..

Namaste everyone,
I was thinking today ,many a times in relationships especially in grown ups or adults , we people reach a stage where we have nothing to say or tell to each other..we  try  to block all communication  channels with each other....

I know this does not just happened in a day or so.. reasons can be small or big..and problems can be both sided..but this is what is exactly happening ???Initially  even if we get annoyed for any thing mostly those were little little things  ,we will get angry or sometimes simply acted  that we are angry..we tried to talk ,hum baat karte the,ek doosre ko manane ki koshish karte the,baat kiye bina toh rah hi nahi sakte the but as relationships  get older with passing days , months and years people become so insensitive  to each other , what the other partner thinks(woh kya sochte hain),How the hell they actually Feel not pretend *kaisa feel kar rahe hain) ,What is actually bothering them( koi  baat unhen bother toh nahi kar rahi...),What are the reasons for them to  feel low..(woh kyun low feel kar rahen hain..) All this  usually the other partner fails to recognize..Reasons can be manifold..*iss baat ke reasons kuch bhi ho sakte hain..)I am not saying the other person will be  completely  at fault..but how come as partners,  people who have been  in solid relationships  fail to understand and feel what the other partner is going through..
Why the hell we start taking our partners for granted..as if they are there  and won't go any where..but this  total lack of compassion is further increasing  the communication gap between the two partners.. and weakening the relationship  to the extentthat nobody cares about each other (ki kisi ko koi fark hi nahi padta..)
If one one partner realizes the other one is in some sort of emotional trouble, than  half the problem is solved ..they can easily motivate and  comfort their partners ..so that one of the partner who is feeling  low whatever may be the reasons can restart..Although it happens very rarely. The communication gap becomes so wide  that people simply stop bothering about each other..they simply donot care..
Actually I personally  feel if one of the partner is not working  this is quite disturbing and saddening for them...one partner who is working  is busy but the other one is in emotional  turmoil..he or she might start feeling lonely  and depressed... they dont see a path ahead..because if  ordinary people are usually so much  emotionally  invested in their partners..this insensitive  behaviour  of the other is mentally  not acceptable  to them.. and  one more thing is that,  they donot have the guts to say  any thing..We should never forget communication  is the basis of every relationship. we should talk and express our feelings to each other..relationship  is not a  one day game.You did everything  right it's done for few days or months ,it's  not like that..everyday we have to conduct it in a manner cordial  for both the partners..

First.. we have to  make each other feel wanted  loved and important.. 

Second most important thing is , I always emphasize  on nurturing our own selves.. to become better joyful human beings so that ups and downs of relationships  does not affect us much..In every kind of relationships we have to give each other space ,everyone knows this fact.but we fail to understand the underlying importance of the fact that we as individuals  have to nurture our own selves in this space of ours.This is not only important  for our own personality development  but also help us to maintain a healthy relationship..We have to overcome our insecurities and then only we are able to communicate  to each other as equals..In addition as we are confident and happy individuals  we can be great partners and understanding of each other will be strong. Even if most of the ordinary people like me have not started nurturing  their own selves,they can start now..😊😊
Dear readers ,please donot have these feelings that doing something  that makes ourselves happy and joyful  is a selfish act..only happy and contented humans can be better contributors to relationships  and to the society  as a whole..this is my personal thinking..Hope you can relate with this..
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