Why Do We Feel Alone At The End Of The Day?

Feeling lonely at the end of the day...

Namaste everyone,
An average person  meets around 10,000 people in their life times...but fail to find a right person, a real friend, a faithful loving partner or a single person who loves them unconditionally...🤔🤔

Mostly people feel alone...they have no one to talk to,no one to share their feelings with..no one to tell what they are going through..or sometimes  even if we express what we are going through nobody bothers to pay any attention.... It is definitely  strange...but this has become  the harsh reality of today's  world where people have been replaced by gadgets and smartphones..

We feel as if we are strangers and we donot know much about each other because we are unable to open our heart in front of them..and same might be the case with them as well..despite of having so many people around us,even in the presence  of our known loved ones and family.. everybody on sometime or the other does feel lonely..

We are unable to express our feelings because deep inside us we always fear that others will judge us for being weak,stupid, silly , underconfident and therefore  a loser for life...
We feel lonely because we fear to make others part of our lives..we donot want them to know about our weaknesses or even strengths, we donot trust people around us ...
The reasons of not trusting people  are usually  the bad experiences of the past and mostly our own insecurities  about ourselves...
The thing is life can not be conducted  in this manner..feeling lonely  and depressed..Life is given to  us by God  as a gift ,we just can not waste it like this feeling sad,lonely  and depressed all the time..
This is true that many times at the end of the day,due to whatever good or bad happenings during a day  we feel lonely..but we can not adopt loneliness  as our habit and slowly  slip into the hands of depression..with each passing  day..
Nowdays  people have stopped giving importance  to feelings,even the family members donot have time for each other...Real friends   have also become  rare and friends  with benefits  are common..
In the absence  of  a strong relationship  actually  people start feeling  weak within themselves..although  they donot tell what they are going through..but the reason is obvious..Without friends,  family and our partners life seems to be nothing..
Materialistic things can never replace human relationships...
These materialistic desires can keep us busy a whole day..and leave us alone at the end of the day with nobody whom we really love and care for..When we start feeling lonely materialistic things start losing their importance...Although  I am myself  a strong  believer  that without money and materialistic things even strong relationships get into troubles.. and sometimes  even donot last longer..but without our loved ones and family  financial success loses all meaning..It appears worthless...
Dear readers,We feel lonely because many a times we are extremely dissatisfied  and disappointed with the world and people around us..but when we look at our strong relationships ,our real support..all the problems of the world appear to vanish and we get a new energy to deal with all circumstances  with much more courage and confidence..We have to create  a delicate balance between the emotional and financial  needs of life..This is the only solution to avoid loneliness in our life 💞.

Expectations from relationships....

Our Expectations from Relationships

Namaste everyone, 

In today's world people expect a lot of things from other people(the ordinary foolish ones )  whose expectations they never  bothered  or even tried to fulfil  but expected full commitment from others as their  right..

This thought keeps disturbing me ,"I am never good at meeting my own expectations from me but quite exceptional at meeting expectations of others from me.Strange but true..😂😂.."

Life has been quite strange as far as distribution of equal responsibilities on  expectations  of people from each other ..Everybody will agree on the fact that people usually expect more but put least efforts in fulfilling  other people's expectations.....

A relationship  is responsibility of both the individuals involved..but over burdening any one is not at all justified..but we forget that this overburden will eventually result in frustrations ,anxiety and disspointments..These are no healthy or positive signs for a longlasting  relationship..I wonder why people donot  value their relationships and continue to devalue them.. never prioritise them..and more importantly continue to take them for granted...as if the other partner is their some kind of emotional slave or something similar..

In this illusion that all relationships will somehow continue as the  other person is ordinary, weak and a  emotional fool ... despite of you being selfish ,indifferent , disrespectful and ungrateful.. even  very very important and strong relationships end or lose their charm and eternity...

Dear readers,Pardon me if I sound rude..but I personally donot want anybody to misuse their relationships in any sense...Because we donot have any idea about how severely we are damaging the self esteem and confidence of our weaker counterpart...How come people that love us the most, care for us the most and prioritize us before their ownselves..??We end up hurting them badly...just because ,We  donot care...and take them for granted...🤔🤔😕

I need Wings to fly...

Namaste everyone,
"I need wings to fly ,I need them,I may not say  it directly to anyone but I do need them..."

This is what I was feeling deep down ,every day and night ...every moment ...I am sure ordinary people like me do share this state of mind ...at atleast at some moment in their  lives...
We were deep down desperately waiting for something to click..but the thing was everything was really imaginative...neither we ever had the confidence  nor the courage  to make a new start...
We were in need for something of our own....the thing we really owned,the thing that we earned..the thing that was totally our own brain child, some thing worth for us to be proud for  first and then wanted to make others  proud too..this was and has always  been our intention...
We  have the feeling of a failed life (as it was appearing to be so..)...We lack purpose ,the eternal  feeling of  accomplishment of our own  is major miss in our lives...
We want to dream ,we want to fly but never had wings...wings of self confidence,wings of positivity...wings of hardwork...wings of  realization  of self worth..wings of thoughts that we can do it..wings of being fearless of failure...wings of freedom from judgements from others ...
Growing all the above wings are not at all easy for ordinary people but  one thing is sure that they can be developed...these wings require continous hard work and a belief  that we can achieve  what we aspire for in life...it will not happen in a single day but continous nurturing of our wings with knowledge, positivity and diligence, conversion of dreams into reality is definitely  assured..soo donot stop trying..donot stop dreaming...
"Wings to fly are not given by others ,we have to grow them..with  never ending efforts and preservance.."
One most important thing that still bothers me is..stop depending on others  to give you wings to fly..they will never or I should say they can never give the full strength  for our development..stop  expecting this from others...they can help us in some possible ways..but can not walk the whole way for us...this is our journey..a journey for self fulfillment..self development..in search of a real purpose, so it should we owned by us completely, we should be totally responsible  for it..so start dreaming , start flying....😇😇😊😊

Where am I heading???

Dear diary,

What has happened  to me...??

Kya ho gaya hai muje,kya ban gai hun main...

Everything  irritates me..Laughing, shouting, talking irritates me..I have actually  become too rude to myself...Failures  and  waiting for things to click are the only two things going on in my head...I am bored of myself.. Can not say these things to others ....Can not say  what I feel ,what is bothering me??Obviously I am disappointed.. of myself..I am walking alone but can not see any way out..

Only because  I am not getting what I am expecting from life..

Waiting for success is really difficult... I definitely  agree that I am waiting for success  to achieve what I dreamt for..

I started following  my dream after gathering so much courage that can not be explained  in words..so failing or even the fear of it is disturbing  me...It's  making me restless..

Dear diary,What is next ??You know me..I usually  don't  loose hope easily, I donot give up..Rather I never give up at all..What should I  do with these negative feelings cropping in my head..while I am waiting for things to fall in place.....I need some direction..I am currently not finding a way... 

 Dear Diary, don't you think, I am talking weird..I am  behaving weirdly..Kya karun??

But can't  leave my dream in halfway...Have to somehow again gather all the broken pieces and start putting efforts..and keep on nourishing  a plant that is not giving me any fruits whatsoever...I am sad..but will not leave my dream...I can't..because in that case I  will do total injustice to my own dream...Whenever it was something to do with my dreams,my aspirations..I myself was  least interested.. I was negatively biased and indifferent towards my own  aspirations..They were never important..but now that atleast I am moving towards my dream,I have something to call my own. Although I am  not successful  as yet but hope definitely  still exists and  I will achieve  success as well...I know I keep on losing hope,then again I counsel myself to carry on..but one thing is sure,I absolutely  agree that journey  is going to be damn difficult..nobody said  that  following a dream and achieving it will be a cake walk..but  I must confess handling emotional  turbulences  in our own heads is really difficult  and heartbreaking..but I will continue and never ever stop to pursue my own silly little dream...😇😇😇😊😊💞

 Am I selfish????

Namaste everyone,

 I am definitely getting underwhelmed about life... Simple simple Life's expectations  can not be met for ordinary people like me in a relationship..Am I acting selfish by having these expectations?Why me?? Don't  know the answer....There are so many Questions bothering me today..I am figuring out life by looking for answers of following questions:

1.Is it wrong to expect love from people we love?

2.Is it wrong to expect respect and trust in a relationship?

3.Is it wrong to expect commitment in a relationship?

4.Is it wrong to have a special space of only the two individuals involved in the relationship?

5.Is it wrong to have your own space in life?

6.Is it wrong to not agree all the time?

7.Is it wrong not to compromise all the time?

8.Is it wrong not to say sorry  without your fault?

9.Is it wrong to have friendship with other people ?

10.Is it fair to leave everybody else in the world for the relationship?

11.Is it not wrong to be conditional in a relationship?

12.Is it not wrong to take only financial benefits from each other in the name of a relationship?

13.Is it not wrong to abuse your fellow partner?

14.Is it not wrong to use your partner as a ladder  towards success?

15.Is it not wrong to keep reminding your partner about his or her weaknesses?

16.Is it not wrong to demotivate or stop your partner from pursuing his or her career or dreams?

17.Is it not wrong to do all the things you never want or expect your partner to do?

18.Is it not wrong to be never bothered about how your partner feels or is going through?

19.Is it wrong to force your opinion on your partner all the time?

20.Is it raising your own opinion,likes or dislikes wrong in a relationship?

21.Is it wrong for a partner to expect the highest priority in other partner's life and vice versa ?

22.Is it feeling emotionally  dependent on your partner  wrong?

23.Is it asking for equality wrong in a relationship?

Am I acting Selfish if I raise these questions in a relationship..?

Dear readers,you can easily figure out these are obvious questions that come into our minds when something  is really wrong in a relationship..Answers to these questions can simply guide us,when in doubt.. As ordinary people,  these relationships are  very  important to us..They are our everything..And walking out won't be easy for us..but reciprocation of feelings is a must in a relationship..This is not definitely too much to expect from a relationship. When we are not able to feel the vibes  and everything appears selfish and conditional,for how long a person can single  handedly drag the relationship that has turned into a burden way before  we even realized or sensed..Keep asking yourselves  these questions when in doubt..Asking for atleast same feelings,respect trust and care is not acting selfish.. These are the foundations of a healthy relationship...Please don't undermine yourself and donot force yourself or your uninterested partner into  relationships..Love and trust binds two people together..Honesty and commitment  helps to continue..If there is love but no commitment,respect and honesty in a relationship,that relationship is destined to mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically hurt people and is destined to fail..So whenever you are in doubt keep looking for answers for the above questions and donot drag yourself  into depression from a failed relationship..

Look for the red flags and make yourself  strong enough so that you can handle whatever comes your way..All relationships are not good and worth it..But this is also true that all relationships are not  destined to fail..Pure people still exist..True love still exists..and fully committed, honest and trustworthy people also exist ,they may be  very rare but they exist 🥰🥰... Please,Please...Don't rush into a relationship only for the sake of being  in a relationship..

Gratitude,Gave me a sigh of Relief. 

Namaste Everyone, 

Every body nowdays talks about Gratitude.I used to think I am not successful in any possible sense..I am pretty average or may be below average..in everything I have..I am not  professionally successful..I belong to a normal family..I am not super talented or even talented in some sense.. I don't own a legacy or family fortune..What should I be thank

ful for??What is this Gratitude?It is the sense of being thankful or having a sense of appreciation for things we already have or given to us somehow..

GRATITUDE... If we start feeling it, Feeling it from the Heart ..Our own rage against our own life starts to calm down.

When Nothing Else seems to work..and We  are surrounded by darkness of Failures...We feel Lost..We feel failed.It really gives a sigh of relief...Like Feeling Freah air...Like feeling Rain..Like feeling waves  at a  Quite beach ..This can go to the extent that  the only thing thankful for can be ,"Being still Alive"..It gives us hope to somehow continue. 

I may sound little sarcastic ,sad or depressed which I am...but this tiny feeling of Gratitude is helping me to  continue and It is a fact ...at least for me.. 

Dear Readers ,try being thankful for tiniest things in your life that you really feel thankful for..and then just for a minute think of people that Even don't  have that..Suddenly things will start falling into place..You will start feeling hopeful that whatever mess is there in your life  that can be cleared..things will work out..It  is just a matter of time..

It  definitely makes us compassionate and fills us with empathy..It calms us and our disturbed mind because we start having the feeling that we also have  atleast something..

Some times we all are going to some phases in life where nothing much is in our hands..What else is our way out ..I myself used to get irritated, annoyed,sad and disappointed when nothing works out..Things get ugly..Be it in Relationships or in professional lives...But when We start looking  at a the thin yet bright silver lining around the dark cloud..

Dear Readers  ,I am not saying it is easy to see..But one thing that am sure is that It is there..But our disillusioned mind could not see it..or feel it..

It is definitely because of repeated failures at personal or professional fronts..but we  forget that Life Goes on..It doesn't not stop for us feeling sad about it..So why not look for things that make us feel alive and significant in some possible way..makes us feel happy..in what we really want to do and not we are forced to do... Such things exist in everyone's life .Some see it ,some don't..People who are able to identify the little little yet the most significant things in  life ,live life to the fullest and others just  kept complaining and simply  waited for life to just pass by..and expected miracles to happen..which never happen  and they  continue to live in their mindmade shells forever ..I have myself spent years in this mindmade shell of mine..And many of us still continue to do so..

Dear Readers, Please Don't waste your lives ,There is no age  or perfect timing for  making a fresh start...Just make a start ...

Why other people's opinion matter so much..?

Why other people's Opinions  matter so much..?

Namaste everyone,
We live with so many people around us,some like us  may be some donot..Similarly  we also like some and dislike others..or mostly for many people around us they are least bothered about our aspirations  but we are very much bothered  about their opinion about us..🤔🤔
But this thing is for sure..What they think about us, we exactly donot know but form so many assumptions  about it ,and sometimes  feel amazed with their positive responses  and when we get a negative response we get depressed or even a slightest  hint that they have something bad for  us irritates us  and disturbs  our mental peace..
We all are social people  and opinions  of others around us do affect us..
Controlling our emotions and reactions towards what others do to us and think of us is not a easy thing to master...but we have to master it  there  is no other way...

If we are really serious  about what we really want to achieve  or become in life..others opinions should  never have bothered us...
Specifically for ordinary  people with very low selfconfidence and a lot of insecurities ,it's really not easy...the only way out is to be not bothered ....but most of us including  myself do the opposite..We feel unimportant,we feel unworthy ,we feel unfit ,we feel annoyed ,we feel disappointed, we feel restless...we actually  feel all the negative thoughts disturbing  over mental peace totally...
The way out of this mess is the belief that other people's  opinion  doesnot  define us...
It was nothing related to them...They never know what we went through  or still going through..It is our journey...Their negativity  has nothing to do with our goals..but we ourselves  give them so much importance  that things that should be ignored completely take so much importance  in our minds that they start impacting our mental state and even our goals...
Other people never knew: What we exactly go through?? What are our feelings..??What are our aspirations...??What are our real dreams..??But they judged us on our failures but  they fail to see our efforts...
I personally  feel we should  not be much affected by their appreciations as well..they are as temporary  as their judgements that keep on moving up and down depending  upon our achievements in life..
Other people's  opinion feeds on our importance  given to them..more we give them attention  more big they become...and start affecting us badly..making us weak and fragile..
Dear readers ,we have to make choices here..Are we ready to compromise  our dreams only because  some people around us donot appreciate us ,donot  give any or even little importance to our dreams or even donot believe  that we can achieve  anything in life... their negative or positive comments  should decide the direction of our life???Are they the drivers of our lives..??Are we so much dependent  upon their  approvals  that we can not even take a step forward without it..????
The thing is  we ordinary  people usually make a lot of sacrifices, be it our dreams ,aspirations  or feelings..We do it out of love and sometimes as a responsibility but changing our life's path by only fearing judgements  from others or their opinions about us is not at all good for  the emotional health of a ordinary person..These fears  may not show any side effects  immediately  but with due course  of time...It will definitely  lower our moral ,It will deviate  us from what we truly  want to do, It will clearly indicate  a weak personality  filled with insecurities...and of course  a under confident  individual... But also these people who judged us badly way back on our endeavors,will be the ones who will label us failures for life...
The thing is, there  is never much strength  in anybody's  opinion  about us to stop us from following  what we really aspire for...it is all about our own weaknesses...for sure..Stop blaming others  for your failures...
We should  rather use their judgements  as loop holes in us and try to improve  further but no way stop...We should  work even much more  harder because  it is about  our dream...😇😇and our dream is important  to us...you can also go through  the following  post that describes  how important  our dream is for us👇👇
https://myheartfultalks.blogspot.com/2020/07/my-dream-is-important-to-me.html

Can we forgive  and forget?

Namaste everyone,

We all have experienced things done by people around us intentionally or unintentionally  that hurt us in some way or the other..

As a  simple and ordinary person and not having a successful  and busy professional life  we are mostly dependent on our relationships..and are very pure towards our feelings towards them.. We expect a lot from our relationships as we are totally committed  towards our relationships...

We have heard that forgiving people gives us immense peace and satisfaction..It may be true for some very big hearted people but not for ordinary people like us..This is my personal  opinion..Some may agree and some others will definitely disagree... Forgiving and forgetting comes into picture when we have to some how continue with the same person or people even after they committed things to us that were noway acceptable that too multiple times..... 

In our day to day lives we usually forgive each other for doing things that are usually done unknowingly or unintentionally...I accept that and am also in favour of forgiving when someone does something  wrong unintentionally or unknowingly...

My major concern is about people very close to us and when they hurt us that too multiple  times I don't see any justification in forgiving them...Actually  it was very difficult  for ordinary people like us to let others even  know that we will never forgive and forget the wrong doings  they did to us..Reasons being :

1.They were very close  to us ...

2.We ourselves never had the courage to express what we actually  felt about their behaviour towards us.

3.They were very important to us..

4.We kept ourselves in a illusion that we are also important  to them..

5.We thought we won't  be able to survive without them..

6.We will feel emotionally weak and alone without them..

7.We fear losing them , if we will tell them what we are exactly feeling about them..

8.Our relationship  will end..

9.We don't want to hurt them even when they are continuously hurting us.

10.We blame our ownselves  for other people's rudeness or indifferent behaviour.

11.We feel helpless and underconfident without them..

12.We loved them truly..

The list is endless..But one important  inference that we get from all above reasons is that I personally feel it is our own emotional weaknesses and insecurities that were responsible for making us tolerate behaviour that was not even forgivable or tolerable or even slightly acceptable .. I very well know we fall into relationships and want to continue out of love only ..There is no other reason but sometimes (am not saying all the time or all the people) people use their relationships  for their selfish motives and fake their emotions for the same..But one day or the other the other person  will definitely  realise the fact that there is only selfishness and no love..Infact love was never there..In that case ,I see no way out  in forgiving such people or forgetting their wrong doings to us..Atleast it is impossible  for totally committed ordinary people for whom relationships  are the only things they have..Relationships are our strength ,our motivation and purpose of life..

Deep down I also know it is very difficult to implement but we have to get out of it first emotionally and mentally.. Then only we will be able atleast protect ourselves  from this never ending emotional abuse..More importantly we are not the revenge seeker types..so atleast getting out of a failed relationship is our only saviour. 

The whole thing revolved around the fact that even after knowing something was definitely going wrong but many a times we ignored and somehow tried to drag the relationship...We were fair towards the relationship but not towards our ownselves...

Dear readers ,in my opinion instead of forgiving and forgetting what bad others did to us, for their whatever own selfish motives , we should gather courage and mental strength  to not only throw such people out of our lives but also out of our minds... Otherwise we won't be able to come out of this emotional mess and we will be  dragging ourselves again into it..and will not be able to start  a new life ...We have to  be strong enough  to accept that  although something wrong people did to us..but we can not allow its repercussions to haunt us all our lives...We have  to make a fresh start...with lessons learnt..👍👍.

 Finding myself in this chaos of life...

Namaste everyone, 

What kind of mindset I have??

I mostly  felt sad, failed, uncomfortable, surprised,confused , insecure, underconfident, restless, purposeless and ordinary..but there was no way out of this..Chaos of life is overpowering me , now even important life events  underwhelm me..I feel lonely...Don't  want to share any feelings  with anybody..

 Dear readers,I have felt the above feelings and many ordinary people may have felt the same or still feeling the same way.. Reasons  for these feelings are both external and internal...but the thing that I also realised  very lately was that  our external envionment and things done to us by other people is not in our control ,they anytime unexpectedly  hurt us but how we felt from inside was the only thing important . It was our reactions to the external stimuli  that made our situations worst ,We failed to realise this basic fact and continued to live a depressed life...

I was myself never important to myself neither my aspirations..I felt no purpose and more importantly I  felt unworthy for any damn little thing...

Dear readers ,This above mindset is not at all good,You shouldn't fall into this trap of negative feelings and complexes ,they will not take us anywhere but simply drag us deep down into feelings of more and more worthless.. And surely we become worthless and purposeless with passing  time because we are not at all doing anything except for cursing ourselves and our negative situation... We have to get out of this negativity because it is not real but life is real and precious ...We just can not waste it ,sitting idle and thinking thoughts of unworthines and loneliness...

Work on yourself ,try to keep yourself  busy in things you really want to do,It doesnot matter how insignificant and silly it appears to others... While you are in transition state of coming out of dark zone and just beginning or I should say thinking of starting something new donot judge yourself so early and donot rush looking for results..Give yourself time and you can easily see imporovement with each passing day..Most importantly keep a check on yourselves donot let any negative feelings overpower you..

This sense of a failed life that we always had will definitely  begin to vanish with each passing day as you start focussing on yourself and your dream...Of course this will take time..but atleast you will be moving ahead and will not be  anymore stuck in your mindmade pool of negativity and sense of unworthiness..

Dear Readers , It's extremely  difficult to find a tiniest possible  peaceful space that only  belongs to you in this world unless you continue to live without any focus on yourself and your dreams..Think about It..Donot waste your lives....You are not Late, Just start..

Come out of your comfort zone...

Namaste everyone,
Living a failed life is easy ,we need not do anything, eventually  we will definitely be  livi g a worthless and purposeless life....I know  only being sarcastic  can not drive people or motivate them to do what they really want to achieve in life.
But the thing is to get a fruit we have to plant a seed, soil our hands, nourish the plant daily and when the right time or  season comes the plant will become a tree and bear the fruit ...Its not a one day process nor it can be achieved if we continue  to only think of getting the fruit but without planting a seed..
This is the simplest  comparison I can make with the lives of individuals who do have dreams but do not want to invest their time and effort  to it.. Although  reasons of  a stagnant life that lacks purpose can be manifold..like  for example the person lacks  the courage  to start ,the person fears failure badly or is very underconfident..or is lazy enough  to come out of his or  her comfort zone to start afresh ..or can even have social fears  to restart but it's definitely  the worst thing we do to ourselves...

But if you really want to  succeed  you have to start coming out of your comfort zone...Only dreaming can not give assurance  that you will definitely  succeed..mind it you are no way near it..
Even if you are some of the few privileged  ones with lot of  parental fortune.. a stage will eventually  come when you will realise..I have to achieve  something  that is my own...
This is  the triggering  point, I believe once you start having that urge of achieving  something  that you really own you yourself  will drive yourself to your goal (of course  as a result of continous underlying  effort the  success  achieved  will be most satisfying  ever). This satisfaction  will inspire you move  further daily...to not stop..dream bigger..the main advantage of this is that it definitely gives life purpose to get up daily and  follow your dream...
I personally  had zero confidence  and no courage at all to restart..for me years passed like this..for me they were around 14 years.....I always had dreams to do something magical that really satisfies  me  deep within ,I want to own my dream completely ,I want my sons to feel proud  about their  mother..I want my husband to feel proud about his wife...
I  had dreams but never had the courage  to follow them  ...This  was my reality...I was never ever bold enough  to come out of my comfort zone..I was lazy...I was shy..I feared society, something was really disturbing  me.. but with the monotony  of life, a exact same daily routine and with my kids growing up.. I realised I didnot have any purpose  all my life...
Every thing I have is a real God's gift to me..my  sons ,my husband...my family...our house..our assets,our apartment..but I don't  own them ,they  are given to me as a privilege...I know some people will say  we as house wives contribute in  all possible  and relevant  ways other than monetary ones.. we also have equal shares in households..I agree...But something  is really missing..
I would like to share a short story here..It was my son's  birthday and a very happy day for me and our family..My husband.. bought him an expensive  drone..and told him,"Can your mother ever buy such an expensive  gift for you,It's  me your dad who  can afford that for you"..May be (  I am giving him benefit  of doubt that he doesn't  mean to hurt me that way)this comment  was unintentional... but but but ...wait..it hit me so hard... deep within ,really I have no words to explain the pain  I felt..and so many years of endless day and night's contributions  vanished..I  felt unworthy...I felt the  ill effects of losing financial  independence due to whatever reasons..I was sad ,I was crying within but couldn't  express as it was my son's  birthday..but couldn't  sleep that night..
As days passed  I started  realizing  why can't  I make a  new beginning...I know I was not that active..or  extrovert types  that can easily ask for help and restart..I was definitely  not able to figure out where to start..I felt real darkness  as far as my professional  career  was concerned..I was not qualified  enough  ..I was not skilled enough..I had left my career years back.. Restarting  was not easy..but now that I have taken writing  and blogging  as my professional  career..my sole motive is to motivate people ...Please  donot lose hope at any stage of your life and gather the courage  to restart...It may seem impossible  ,but once you start things  will definitely  start  falling into place ..each day will be better than the previous... making a new start for yourself  is possible  for everyone. Dreams can be converted  into reality once you decide  to come out of your comfort zone...I am not telling  bookish things to you..If I can(the most ordinary  person) ,then you all struggling out there definitely  can..😊😊

Communication gaps.. in Relationships..

Communication gaps in relationships..

Namaste everyone,
I was thinking today ,many a times in relationships especially in grown ups or adults , we people reach a stage where we have nothing to say or tell to each other..we  try  to block all communication  channels with each other....

I know this does not just happened in a day or so.. reasons can be small or big..and problems can be both sided..but this is what is exactly happening ???Initially  even if we get annoyed for any thing mostly those were little little things  ,we will get angry or sometimes simply acted  that we are angry..we tried to talk ,hum baat karte the,ek doosre ko manane ki koshish karte the,baat kiye bina toh rah hi nahi sakte the but as relationships  get older with passing days , months and years people become so insensitive  to each other , what the other partner thinks(woh kya sochte hain),How the hell they actually Feel not pretend *kaisa feel kar rahe hain) ,What is actually bothering them( koi  baat unhen bother toh nahi kar rahi...),What are the reasons for them to  feel low..(woh kyun low feel kar rahen hain..) All this  usually the other partner fails to recognize..Reasons can be manifold..*iss baat ke reasons kuch bhi ho sakte hain..)I am not saying the other person will be  completely  at fault..but how come as partners,  people who have been  in solid relationships  fail to understand and feel what the other partner is going through..
Why the hell we start taking our partners for granted..as if they are there  and won't go any where..but this  total lack of compassion is further increasing  the communication gap between the two partners.. and weakening the relationship  to the extentthat nobody cares about each other (ki kisi ko koi fark hi nahi padta..)
If one one partner realizes the other one is in some sort of emotional trouble, than  half the problem is solved ..they can easily motivate and  comfort their partners ..so that one of the partner who is feeling  low whatever may be the reasons can restart..Although it happens very rarely. The communication gap becomes so wide  that people simply stop bothering about each other..they simply donot care..
Actually I personally  feel if one of the partner is not working  this is quite disturbing and saddening for them...one partner who is working  is busy but the other one is in emotional  turmoil..he or she might start feeling lonely  and depressed... they dont see a path ahead..because if  ordinary people are usually so much  emotionally  invested in their partners..this insensitive  behaviour  of the other is mentally  not acceptable  to them.. and  one more thing is that,  they donot have the guts to say  any thing..We should never forget communication  is the basis of every relationship. we should talk and express our feelings to each other..relationship  is not a  one day game.You did everything  right it's done for few days or months ,it's  not like that..everyday we have to conduct it in a manner cordial  for both the partners..

First.. we have to  make each other feel wanted  loved and important.. 

Second most important thing is , I always emphasize  on nurturing our own selves.. to become better joyful human beings so that ups and downs of relationships  does not affect us much..In every kind of relationships we have to give each other space ,everyone knows this fact.but we fail to understand the underlying importance of the fact that we as individuals  have to nurture our own selves in this space of ours.This is not only important  for our own personality development  but also help us to maintain a healthy relationship..We have to overcome our insecurities and then only we are able to communicate  to each other as equals..In addition as we are confident and happy individuals  we can be great partners and understanding of each other will be strong. Even if most of the ordinary people like me have not started nurturing  their own selves,they can start now..😊😊
Dear readers ,please donot have these feelings that doing something  that makes ourselves happy and joyful  is a selfish act..only happy and contented humans can be better contributors to relationships  and to the society  as a whole..this is my personal thinking..Hope you can relate with this..
😊😊😊

Why to Force Someone To Stay?

Forcing Someone To Stay.. 

Namaste everyone, 

Dear Readers Reading my blog..

We all need our relationships as a backbone of our lives, we simply can not do without them...but things are not always as they appear...This is 100% true that we can not do without our relations... Relationships are our strength and inspiration for moving forward in life but broken relationships  also have huge negative impact on emotional well being  of simple ordinary people..who  are very much emotionally dependent on them..
But the thing is forcing people to continue a relationship  is a absolute disaster..we do not only do to ourselves  but to the other partner  as well..
It is absolutely  fine to make certain compromises or adjustments to make a relationship  work..but when such a stage comes ,when any one of the partner  has to compromise his or her self respect that too multiple  times just for the sake of continuing  the relationship is not at all acceptable..

If love ,care ,trust and respect are not naturally  part of a relationship and we all the time have to force things to happen...something is definitely  wrong...
Everything is so natural and easy in a pure relationship.. Loving ,caring ,respecting  and giving importance  to our partner can not be dictated  or forced ,it very naturally flows through ,if both the partners  are  totally committed and are in love..
"Forcing  someone to stay..even after knowing that what are the feelings  of the other is hurting our ownselves  more and more.."
In a forced relationship we expect things that can not be fulfilled obviously because there are no real feelings and as a result  we continue to become more and more emotionally weak..
There is no love when everything is pretended and artificial ..
Forced relationship results nothing more than disappointments,agony ,depression, hate and sadness..because person who is forced into the relationship  will never be able to meet the emotional expectations of the other..
Further disturbing our mental peace...we are expecting a person to take care for us,noticing  our little little things,respecting us ,trusting us and valuing us but we very well know that he or she does not even love us in the first place..Isn't it worst possible behaviour we are doing to ourselves...🤔🤔🤔
Forcing people into relationships is like  polishing and painting a fully rotten thing.. It may look good for sometime but eventually things will clear up..We have to get over our own insecurities and somehow gather courage to move out of a forced relationship..This is for our own protection..because forced relationships usually  turn abusive either  emotionally  or may be physically  as well.It may appear tough initially, but it is for our own good...
Neither we should be part of such a relationship nor by any means force others to be a part of it...This failed relationship will bring absolutely no happiness to any one involved..so accepting the real feelings of each other as they are and not forcefully is the only solution..
Nobody can make another person love or trust or respect the other person..if he or she does not have those feelings naturally...He or she may pretend it but those pretensions and of course the relationship will be shortlived and very painful...Accepting the truth is the only way out..It will be definitely difficult for one of the partner whose feelings were true..but with time this walking out will truly be beneficial for both the individuals involved...
Dear readers,although we ordinary  people are very much involved in relationships as they are very important for us,but once repeatedly knowing the disinterest of the other and his or her indifferent behaviour and real intentions, it is our responsibility towards our ownselves to get over it and start afresh..I know it is not easy but staying in such a relationship is even worse..We have to come out of it somehow..A failed  relationship is not the end of everything...In my personal opinion it's definitely  a God's way of protecting us..😇😇

 My life,without me

Namaste everyone, 

"Seems strange and annoying  but is a truth that we ordinary people live a life that is purposeless but more importantly we live a life that has nothing to do with us or our aspirations..."

"Am I  living a life, without me?"Looking for answers of strange questions like this disappoints us but usually we are not able to find a way out..

Strange but absolutely true,this has been our only way of life..Nothing bothered us initially..Living a life that has nothing to do with ourselves will sooner or later result in big void in our own lifes.. Think about it..🤔

Sometimes we get natural realisations and many times we get forced realisations by others that keep on reminding us of our purposeless ordinary life..

"When it is self realisation it is not as painful and insulting as it is when people undermine us,insult us or abuse us or fail to recognize our contributions because usually people value and respect monetary contributions  by others in their lives.."

Dear readers,"Time will fly away ,years will pass..Start valuing yourself... Nobody else can do it for you....Following a dream, doing what you really love to do and feeling happy doing it,is no way acting selfish.."

We just have to  start making efforts on self grooming and development..We have to move with the time, we never improved or worked on ourselves for years altogether,we are still with our qualifications and skills that we acquired years back..So it clearly indicates we are incompetent and incompatible according to today's world..but if we have decided to restart and we are serious about our dream and our dream is important to us , instead of judging ourselves harshly we should start working on own ourselves...

Working on ourselves  requires a lot of effort and determination.. In addition to this we have to get ready for the harsh judgements of the world and fears of failure...Because we have been inactive professionally and have been living a pretty ordinary and simple life without any aspirations or dreams..We never thought we are capable  enough..This thought was the only major hurdle in the way of our own dreams as per my experience and thought...

Strong Determination is the only  thing that can drive us  to our goal..Commitment and  a desire to prove ourselves to our own expectations and then to the world can imbibe immense energy and motivation in us...😇😇👍👍.

You can  read my below post as well for the importance of having a dream in life.My Dream is Important To me.

Alone as always....

Namaste everyone,
I know something wrong is definitely  going on in our heads..when we start having this feeling that we are "Alone as Always..."
Life is full of failures and disappointments for weak and underconfident  people..It's a truth and I have felt it...but some how we continue...but actually we are not achieving anything ,not even reaching anywhere.. It appears as if we are simply wasting time and our own precious life doing nothing. We are just passing time by wasting it..
Sometimes this stagnant life of ours makes us  feel like a unfit for the world..We start feeling lonely...
Alone as always ,becomes our life mantra..These saddening thoughts keep on coming and we keep on demeaning our ownselves unless and untill we take real charge  of our lives...
Dear readers, life is not meant to be wasted, living a purposeless, meaningless life..I have been through  this feeling  of lacking the real purpose  in life for years...For simple ordinary people like me it is  not something  uncommon...
It's  not that we are suffering  or any thing like that..but a weird feeling that bothers us is  that ,What is our own worth ?What are  we good at?What have we really earned in life? What is the purpose of our life?

Answers to all the above questions  is nothing... absolutely nothing..😕😕
I know it is not easy to accept a pretty much failed life and getting along with it, is not easy.. sometimes we spend years without realizing  it like dumbs,  but once this feeling of unworthiness crops up in our minds, it really makes us very helpless and restless..
But instead to slipping into these depressing thoughts we have to somehow get over it..We have to start doing something fruitful.. something that  makes us happy,contented and little more confident about ourselves..
Working on ourselves ,working on our interests, and enhancing them is the only way out..It will definitely  not happen suddenly but if we will not start, it will never happen for sure..It's  difficult, very difficult..I admit it but not impossible...On our way we feel Alone as always...but slowly  and gradually with some simplest yet brightest feelings of accomplishments  will fulfill all the emptiness... within us..with continuous hard work and not loosing hope on ourselves...
Forget about the world it was us who were really responsible for our  own downfall,we ourselves left our own aspirations, desires and dreams far behind in life...
It is also true that we all are alone in our struggles...but we have to gather courage not for anybody else butfor  our own selves...😇😇
I personally  feel restarting after many years and living a simple purposeless life makes us so very underconfident  that we feel so hesitant to share our own thoughts ,feelings  and aspirations   with anybody else..Fear of failure and again going back to our stagnant,   monotonous and purposeless life scares us..because  believe me restarting was very difficult  for a ordinary  person like me... and we are no way mentally ready to face  failures again... at this point I  may not have achieved  anything,but hope is still alive..and I am putting  efforts..Hoping that my readers will relate to this.💞

Handling rejections in Life...

Handling  rejections in Life...
Namaste  everyone,
We all are living a social life,with people around us..so many things  are happening  around us on daily basis with each passing  moment.... 

Multiple thoughts are in our heads going on simultaneously....
Some things work out for us ,some don't..Some people like us ,some don't..We like some..and dislike some others..We want something but get something  else mostly..We love very few and very very  few love us..We are really important  to very few..and similarly  for us also very few are actually  important....We expect something ,get something  unexpected..With happiness  ,sorrows, failures and very little success , life goes on  and on. Days pass ,months pass and so does years...

One very important  realization  that I had as a result of my own purposeless ordinary and non aspirational  life is with all the chaos going on in life ,we all some how continue..but.. but..but..the thing that really derails our spirit  to live a normal life  are rejections...
Rejections,be it in our love life ,in our professional life ,be it in academics..be it in any thing...that matters  for us...it is  really hard to absorb...
Nobody likes to be rejected...It feels as such an insult that it totally shatters our self esteem  and confidence...We feel unworthy...disspointed..lost...It definitely  hits hard...It shatters our own belief  that, We can also achieve  something..We can also dream..Dreams do come true...
Mostly when we get rejected we donot want to face the world..Mostly with ordinary  people handling rejection is definitely  a total disaster..All our fears appear to come true...All our fears that stopped us all our lives from doing what we really wanted to achieve, start appearing  to be absolutely true..Its not easy...
We tried hard..We expected something for ourselves..We expected to fulfill our dream for the first time in life..We are ordinary people ...Facing rejection is not easy for us or anybody in this world...
I know it is very easy to preach that we have to start again ,we can not lose hope..we have to work much more harder..but "I am really falling short of words to explain  the worst feelings of getting rejected and that too multiple times..I am finding it damn difficult to get over it.."
Dear readers, Its not that rejections are not common, we all get rejected  in one thing or the other..and we all do carry on as well..but without anything substantial that we can relate to  or I should say without anything that belongs to us or is purely  our own achievement continue to follow  your dream is teally difficult..It is a ferocious mental struggle..that we ordinary  people continue to battle all our lives..😕😕 I know  these feelings of rejection are not easy to handle..Rejections  are demotivating to the extent that  they  have definitely  stopped many many deserving and talented people  from following  their dream..But we have chosen not to stop ,to carry on..I know it is becoming  more and more difficult  with each rejection that we get..but somehow we will gather all the shattered  pieces  of our dreams and continue  to follow our dream..which is important  to us..
You can read this post for the importance  of our dream in our lifes..my-dream-is-important-to-me.html

You can also go through  my below post about how long we should wait to get  success 👇👇how-long-we-should-wait-to-get-success.html

Quitting  is easy,hanging on is extremely  difficult..

Namaste everyone,
 We all have been through  different  kind of struggles in life ,be it professional  or personal ..but if we somehow gather  the courage to hang on ,these struggles  will definitely  fade away one day..but if we decide to quit , those weak times which may have become the milestones of our life will be like any other day of our pretty ordinary  lives..
If we are able to gather little courage and belief  that we are not going to quit ,no matter what,sooner or later we can achieve  what we want..but if are not able to overcome our fears we will definitely  not reach any where...
I know it is not at all easy but is definitely  worth it...Struggling hard for your dreams is not easy but it really gives unimaginable sense of satisfaction  and self worth..when we achieve  things we always dreamt for..
When we decide to quit because  we fear failure or we can not work hard enough or due to any other excuse or reasoning we give to ourselves,our dreams can never become a reality,this is for sure..
When we decide to quit because we decide to  enslave  ourselves  to our weaknesses and whatever circumstances...but most importantly  we forget,   
"What are we doing to our lives,to our dreams and to our own expectations  from life ,forget about the expectations  our loved ones have from us..?"
Obviously choosing  the path of quitting  was easier, we were definitely  weak and
underconfident..or I  should say  our own dream  was not important  enough for us to hang on...
Everybody  knows the struggles  are real,nothing is easy..with each passing moment  we have go through  various kinds of tests that life throws at us..but we decide  to choose  a stagnant life and instead of making a come back we  decide to quit..
Many or I should say mostly ordinary people wasted their lives because at some moment  of their struggle  towards their goal they decided to quit..
 Dear readers,

• Why we  have become so ignorant  towards our own expectations  from life?
• Why we decide not to follow our own dreams?
• Why we decide to be ordinary and average all our lives instead of trying again?
• Why we ourselves  are our least priority?
• Why are we Ok..with losing and quitting?
• Why can't  we express what we really feel?
• Why can't  we say 'No' to any body?
• Why can't we stop pretending to be happy?
• Why can't we live for ourselves  ?
• Why can't we continue  despite  of all odds?
• Why we have to quit all the time?
• Why can't we make a new start even after multiple failures?
• Why can't we also make it?

Ignoring all these questions we actually  make our own lives such a mess that it becomes impossible or we can say appears that we can not come out of this web of unworthiness and lack of purpose.
It may appear easy to quit in the beginning  and hanging on difficult..but the truth of life is living a failed life,  living a purposeless is far more difficult..It is definitely  filled with dissatisfaction, dissent and disappointments.
I have felt it and so as so many ordinary people like me..Please donot continue  to live like this..Give life another  chance ,give yourself another chance..Life is not meant to be wasted in regrets but we have to make a come back with far more energy and the best ever version of ourselves..😊😊

Go through the following  post to know the importance  of dream in our ordinary lives.

My Dream is Important to Me..

Coming out of a Failed Relationship."I Hate You and I Mean it.."

" I hate you and I mean it.."

Namaste everyone,

Getting  a failed  relationship out of your life and especially mind is not at all easy for people who were actually into the relationship with full commitment and honesty..They find it the hardest to accept that the relationship is over or does not have any significance for the other and therefore needs to be ended..

Giving your 100% in a relationship  is not at all wrong but in addition , expecting honesty and commitment is noway a crime or asking way too much..

"Relationship is a living thing that feeds on love ,care,trust, honesty,commitment and respect..In absence of any one of the above requirements it will sooner or later die..."

Once admitting that the relationship is over physically  it still takes a lot of time to get over it emotionally...

 Reminding ourselves how  badly the other person hurt you ,that too multiple times  and over quite a long period of time..only because we became so ignorant  or I should say we refused to see the reality in the name of our love and importance of the relationship for us..but now that we know that there is nothing left in the relationship we must keep reminding yourself loud and clear that you simply cannot stand your partner who failed to  continue a pure relationship due to whatever reasons and tell him or her ,"I hate  you and I mean it"..

"From now onwards I can not allow you to take over my feelings and  throwing  me in the depression of unworthiness and insecurity.. Whatever excuses you gave and how badly you played with my emotions can never be justified by any dumb explanation..So so..so...I hate you and I mean it.."

Dear readers, coming out of a failed relationship is not a failure of life..It is actually a blessing in disguise that protected us from any further damage both emotionally and sometimes physically as well..Don't be emotional fools..As I say being  emotional is not a problem  but being a emotional fool is definitely a problem..We ordinary people are emotional and tend to act foolish many a times acting emotionally..Coming out of a failed and broken relationship is not easy..But keep reminding yourself  how badly the other person used you, hurt you, insulted you and made you feel insecure,  underconfident and unwanted..

With passing days ,you will surely feel thankful ,Yes ,you read me correct ,thankful to the hurts done to you so that you became stronger and more confident as a person..There are no insecurities now..There is no sense of unworthiness as you were forced to feel as a result of the relationship that lacked integrity ,honesty and of course purity..Give a thought...🤔🤔

Dear Diary, I am Tired of failing...

Namaste  everyone,

This post was written by me in my diary when I was really tired of failing again and again despite trying the hardest and giving my best..hope you relate with it.

Many people like me who have lived and still continue to live ordinary lives..are really sick and tired of failing all the time..We never get expected results...not at par ever with our own expectations...we fail ourselves many a times or rather most of the times....
This pretty good track record of failing makes us deep down so... so underconfident and really sad...continuing becomes real difficult..The feelings of  unworthiness  are really empowering us..
What next...What is way out of this..?? Are we going to be like this all our lives...??All kind of negative thoughts  are hitting us real hard...We donot know whom to approach  for help..We are not at all vocal to others about the thoughts in  our head and feelings  in our hearts..

We never expressed that the little little things that we failed to achieve  were  very very important  to us...They were our little dreams..they were what we always wanted to be..
We wanted to be ,The real independent ones both emotionally  and financially..We proved to be failures all the times.. with no answers  or justifications at all..What are we really doing wrong ? What makes us fit for nothing ?Are we really unworthy?Why are we only destined for all this?
The repercussions  of failures are deep routed..they are definitely  making us very weak deep inside...they make our lives miserable and results in full financial  and emotional dependence  on others..that is not at all a healthy  choice for any individual..We are getting totally off track..Losing all the time is not easy..
Sense of some kind of accomplishment makes a individual  feel worthy of living..It makes  them feel happy and joyful..It definitely  gives them purpose  for life..A deep sense of feeling important and successful in our own eyes and also  for others is very much inspiring  for a individual  to carry on in life.. The sole purpose  of being successful  in achieving  our dreams is to make our ownselves and our loved ones real  proud..But failing all the time is really hitting hard...and most importantly gathering courage over and over again to start afresh is very easy to say but extremely  difficult  to accomplish...😕😕😕😕😕

How to Deal With Our Own Weaknesses..?

Dealing  with our own  weaknesses..

Namaste everyone,

Our life  can easily be summarized as a result of  how we conquered  our own weaknesses...

Ordinary people are usually not able to control their emotions that further turns into their weakness...
Being emotional is not a problem but being a emotional fool is a real problem..Having empathy for others,loving them,caring for them ,doing them favours..is not at all bad ..but things become out of control when we allow people to  use us for their own selfish motives that too at the stake of harming us in some possible way. In the way of using ordinary people some  selfish  ones not only hurt  them emotionally  but can also cause financial  damage..
Usually  we are attached to people  whom we love,be it family or friends..we have emotional connections  with them ..we are of course  emotionally  dependent  on them as well...but always remember  there is a very thin line between being used and helping someone.
We can not be simply blind in love or due to whatever emotional  reason.. and  allow others to use us to the extent they start  hurting us mentally..
"Emotions are for something that we really feel from the heart..they are heartful..there is no space of selfishness  in relationships  that are based on love and trust.."
Being  an emotional human being  is not the trait of a weak person..but when we allow people to use us for their selfish  motives and we continue  to allow them without any regret ,this is not our weakness but  shear foolishness..
Favours  are done amongst people out of love and friendship..
Having a empathy  or rather a soft corner for people is not a weakness but misusing other people's emotions is of  course  an offence..
We have to deal with it with self confidence..we allow people to misuse us or ill treat us or disrespect  us or reject us only because we easily revealed  to them that we are weak deep within and will not be able to do without them..This show off of our weakness allows people to treat us the way they want depending upon their needs or even moods..
   One very very important  point to be noted here is what are  reasons for ordinary  people being so emotionally weak, foolish , underconfident and insecure that some people are easily able to use  them and throw  them as per their  discretion..
The thing is they used us for whatever  selfish  reasons  of their's, still we were useful to them  in some possible way..we never used them,we simply  loved them and did favours out of a relationship that we  shared with them..Now if and only if we  decide to confidently  deal with our weaknesses...the other  selfish  person is and was never of any use to us..So quiting becomes the easiest, think about it..🤔🤔🤔

Why Everybody Is Faking Around?

Everybody is faking around….

Namaste everyone, 

What is happening all around us in terms of emotional turbulences is so detrimental that we all on day to day basis appear dissatisfied , disappointed and sometimes saddened as well..

Nobody appears  happy...Everybody  looks fed up, tired and lost in some sense..Everybody is so... so.. fed up but nobody wants to work on the solution..

"Everybody  is faking around...hiding their fears,  insecurities,disappointments, aspirations,weaknesses and many a times sadness...They pretend to be happy... Everybody is OK...but from  inside all are torn out.."

We all are stuck in the web of expectations ,some from others and some from our ownselves..When these expectations are somehow not met.. life and people around us stop making sense...

Dear readers,to move forward in life we have to stop pretending or faking ...We just have to first accept our own personality as we are, with no manipulations...We have to identify our own weaknesses and strengths.....We can not just fool around our inner own self..Because pretending something that we are actually  not can never take us anywhere we really want to reach....It may help to exist in society for some time..But with time everybody's true self  appears ...So why can't we always be what we really are..and Express what we really feel..So that relationships made and commitments done in every aspect  of life are based on purity and truth...thus are longlasting....

Dear readers,What others think of us should  no way bother us ,if we are  not insecure from within and our intentions are pure...Stop being the victim of your own assumptions about ourself from other's perspective...It does not matter at all...If you are true to yourself..

Try following things..

1.Be vocal about your feelings. 

2.Donot offend or abuse anybody in the name of proving your point..

3.Accept your weaknesses...first. 

4.Donot get affected by other people's comments or point of views about you..Be it positive or negative..

5.Donot seek approvals  for everything you do..

6.Own your actions..

7.Work hard on improving yourself and not on simply proving your point to others..

8.Do things that you yourself like or love to do and not to please others.

9.Donot forget to complete your responsibilities in the name of following your dream..

10.Donot lose hope if you get failures or harsh judgements from others .

11.Donot demean yourselves nor others by your actions or words..

12.Stop 

12.Be committed to yourself and your dream..

13.Donot be led by others point of view but you can take guidance..There is no harm in seeking help..But 100% dependence on others for everything is not acceptable..

14.Stop pretending..

15.Accept life as it is, donot jump to conclusions based on your fears and insecurities..

16.Always move forward,stop living in the past and judging yourself  on the basis of your past..

17.Help others in whatever possible way you can..

18.Distance yourselves  from all negativity be it about yourself or even other people.

19.Keep on improving your skill set..

20.Work  on self grooming and  self improvement..

Nothing is impossible, take the first step..Your pure commitment and hard work will guide you further..😇👍