Why other people's Opinions matter so much..?
Namaste everyone,
We live with so many people around us,some like us may be some donot..Similarly we also like some and dislike others..or mostly for many people around us they are least bothered about our aspirations but we are very much bothered about their opinion about us..🤔🤔
But this thing is for sure..What they think about us, we exactly donot know but form so many assumptions about it ,and sometimes feel amazed with their positive responses and when we get a negative response we get depressed or even a slightest hint that they have something bad for us irritates us and disturbs our mental peace..
We all are social people and opinions of others around us do affect us..
Controlling our emotions and reactions towards what others do to us and think of us is not a easy thing to master...but we have to master it there is no other way...
We live with so many people around us,some like us may be some donot..Similarly we also like some and dislike others..or mostly for many people around us they are least bothered about our aspirations but we are very much bothered about their opinion about us..🤔🤔
But this thing is for sure..What they think about us, we exactly donot know but form so many assumptions about it ,and sometimes feel amazed with their positive responses and when we get a negative response we get depressed or even a slightest hint that they have something bad for us irritates us and disturbs our mental peace..
We all are social people and opinions of others around us do affect us..
Controlling our emotions and reactions towards what others do to us and think of us is not a easy thing to master...but we have to master it there is no other way...
If we are really serious about what we really want to achieve or become in life..others opinions should never have bothered us...
Specifically for ordinary people with very low selfconfidence and a lot of insecurities ,it's really not easy...the only way out is to be not bothered ....but most of us including myself do the opposite..We feel unimportant,we feel unworthy ,we feel unfit ,we feel annoyed ,we feel disappointed, we feel restless...we actually feel all the negative thoughts disturbing over mental peace totally...
The way out of this mess is the belief that other people's opinion doesnot define us...
It was nothing related to them...They never know what we went through or still going through..It is our journey...Their negativity has nothing to do with our goals..but we ourselves give them so much importance that things that should be ignored completely take so much importance in our minds that they start impacting our mental state and even our goals...
Other people never knew: What we exactly go through?? What are our feelings..??What are our aspirations...??What are our real dreams..??But they judged us on our failures but they fail to see our efforts...
I personally feel we should not be much affected by their appreciations as well..they are as temporary as their judgements that keep on moving up and down depending upon our achievements in life..
Other people's opinion feeds on our importance given to them..more we give them attention more big they become...and start affecting us badly..making us weak and fragile..
Dear readers ,we have to make choices here..Are we ready to compromise our dreams only because some people around us donot appreciate us ,donot give any or even little importance to our dreams or even donot believe that we can achieve anything in life... their negative or positive comments should decide the direction of our life???Are they the drivers of our lives..??Are we so much dependent upon their approvals that we can not even take a step forward without it..????
The thing is we ordinary people usually make a lot of sacrifices, be it our dreams ,aspirations or feelings..We do it out of love and sometimes as a responsibility but changing our life's path by only fearing judgements from others or their opinions about us is not at all good for the emotional health of a ordinary person..These fears may not show any side effects immediately but with due course of time...It will definitely lower our moral ,It will deviate us from what we truly want to do, It will clearly indicate a weak personality filled with insecurities...and of course a under confident individual... But also these people who judged us badly way back on our endeavors,will be the ones who will label us failures for life...
The thing is, there is never much strength in anybody's opinion about us to stop us from following what we really aspire for...it is all about our own weaknesses...for sure..Stop blaming others for your failures...
We should rather use their judgements as loop holes in us and try to improve further but no way stop...We should work even much more harder because it is about our dream...😇😇and our dream is important to us...you can also go through the following post that describes how important our dream is for us👇👇
https://myheartfultalks.blogspot.com/2020/07/my-dream-is-important-to-me.html
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