Comparing our own lives to others
otherwise it becomes extremely difficult to start all over again after years of inactivity..This I am definitely telling from my personal experience of life...
My blog is about heartfelt emotions and feelings of ordinary people..It's about how they think,feel and may be want..but are never able to express or show in any possible way.. my sole intention is to motivate ordinary people like me to feel confident and strong about themselves and help them in making the first leap in whatever they ever want to achieve in life.. we may fail and appear silly but shall not stop trying....🥰🥰
Namaste everyone,
In India About 86% women who experienced violence never sought help, and 77% of the victims did not even mention the incident(s) to anyone..
During the first four phases of the COVID-19-related lockdown, Indian women filed more domestic violence complaints than recorded in a similar period in the last 10 years.(source, The hindu)
Don't know what is wrongwith with our own society and people around us...People usually take for granted others without whom they can not even survive... They usually undermine the importance of people who are actually the backbone of their lives...Although these people work for us in the back end but we fail to recognize their importance because they are willingly available 24/7..These are our greatest Indian housewives..(I am using the word Indian here because am not aware of any other cultures or people other than my own country)..
I am myself a housewife for about 14 years....I agree to this very fact that housewives tend to tolerate things that in normal cases nobody will tolerate.. and continue the relationship tolerating verbal and in some cases even physical abuse.The following list might summarize it:
1.First and most important reason of tolerating abuse is their kids..They donot want to give their children a disturbed childhood..
2.The fear of society is so much in them , they continue to tolerate abuse in the closed doors of their homes.
3.The fear of hurting their parents and further future of their siblings stops them from taking a progressive step.
4.They are not financially independent, so they find it difficult or rather impossible to leave their abusive husband or family.
5.They are not confident and qualified enough to make a living for themselves and their kids..
6.In some cases housewives even are willing to forgive infidelity done by their male partners ,just for the sake of continuing and obviously for the fear and shame of society..Most importantly it is done for their children..
The above thought process exists there is no doubt in it..It is definitely regressive...I always thought of running a help center for such women so that I can somehow help them to come out of this very situation..But unfortunately neither I am in some Goverment position nor have enough money to run such an organization...That is a different matter..but my point here is when we housewives will gather enough courage to stop any kind of abuse against us..For how long women will keep on giving excuses of being incompetent, weak,insecure and not being financially independent as the reasons to tolerate any kind of abuse be it verbal or physical🤔🤔
Dear readers, especially housewives ,Please donot have a regressive mindset..Today you might feel insecure , incapable and incompetent to face the world but that noway gives others the right to abuse you in any possible way..Raise your voice..You will get the solutions once you start looking for it..Donot compromise your pride and self respect for ruthless abusers..Start living for yourselves..Give yourself a chance..Things will work out..First free yourself if you find the situation is no way tolerable..Your kids and family will also eventually understand . It is noway justified to tolerate inhumane things..Sought help..Raise your voice..😇😇🙏🙏
Namaste everyone,
The day I had this realisation that how I wasted years of my life with the stupid assumption that my family's dream is my dream, their aspirations are the only aspirations I can have,living an average life is Ok..not having any purpose in life is fine..Not taking out time for our ownselves and not investing time in self improvement and some new learnings or hobby is not a crime that we do to ourselves..
Years wasted...nothing achieved ,nothing learned ,no self improvement.. no bank balance ..This what we become living a ordinary purposeless life.
Nobody is and was ever bothered how I was wasting my life facilitating other's lives..Don't get me wrong ,I was not doing any favours, I was definitely doing it out of love and commitment for my family..But the strange thing was I had no commitment towards my own dreams and life.. If we ourselves are least bothered why would others around us be??🤔😕🤔
This small thinking for ourselves is so detrimental, I also have no idea about..
The World around us is bothered about the results always...Nobody is bothered about how a ordinary person is feeling ,how that person perceives life , how that person is unable to follow a dream he or she has ..but is unable to achieve or even tell..They are least interested in day to day financial and emotional struggles of ordinary people who never achieved anything in life..
This is a fact of life..Nobody is interested in failed lives of ordinary people...until they are successful..Nobody bothers if ordinary people aspire success but need motivation and help..Nobody gives them attention or I should say even notices their little little achievements or even failures..Nobody sees the dullness on ordinary people's faces and depression in their minds..Nobody cares...Nobody even asks for the reasons of disappointments and distresses..
Everybody wants to be the part of lives of people who are successful and not those who have been struggling or have not achieved anything for years altogether...
Times of struggle actually require immense mental strength and support of real people and relationships..Fake people easily get shunted from our life in tough times and struggles....
Dear readers,Everybody in this world has its own share of struggles, disappointments and failures... but Please have a dream ,work on it and improve yourself on daily basis..Other wise sooner or later life will appear meaningless to you..Life needs motivation and love to carry on ..This can only happen if we have a purpose in life....If we have a dream and purpose we can easily sail through the ups and downs of life...😇😇
Namaste everyone,
In relationships that are inevitable and integral part of our lives...when things don't appear to work out or something appears fishy.. We start feeling left out and alone...It is a common feeling..
We sometimes feel like asking our resspective partners that,"I am there for you always ,Are you there?" but but but ....we ordinary and silly ones are ignorant enough to not see the red flags..We are not able to see the absence of interest ,love and care in our partner's actions ...Neither we express ourselves completely nor we totally understand what are other person's feeling..
We do have a lot of unanswered questions and lot many many things that require explanation and answers but in fake or forced relationships we get nothing,Absolutely nothing..
Sometimes I used to wonder how come people who give 100% to their relationships get betrayed...🤔🤔but people who do this it is quite easy for them..This forces to make ordinary people like us to feel unworthy ,insecure and underconfident...but actually our own emotions start working against us.....Although we feel alone ,betrayed and lost..But this phase is definitely temporary..This tough emotional turbulence shall also pass...I know its easy preach than implement..
"Betrayals done by others to us has nothing to do with us because quitting a relationship can be done in other better ways than cheating and infidelity.."
Namaste everyone,
Have you ever experienced or even asked someone , how it feels while waiting for success in the darkness of failures..??
How disappointing it is?? ,I am quite qualified to tell you how bad and helpless it feels..Ya, because I lived this life, felt it and took a pretty lot of time to get over it...I must say it is not at all easy..
Dear readers, now also It's not like am super successful, it's just that I am moving forward ,I like what I do..I feel the enthusiasm of getting up and pursuing my goal..I feel the positive energy...That's it...nothing much to brag about..but I love what I do..That's enough..(A late realisation)
Although it takes immense will power to accept that we have been living a purposeless life...and coming out of it is definitely a next level struggle for ordinary people...but one more important thing here is once we decide to move forward ,during our journey towards our goal we many a times feel disappointed, disheartened and helpless because the destination is obviously far and we ordinary people fall short of resources..(as we started late and we are underconfident and sometimes under qualified as well).This is indeed the truth of life...Life is like that...
Achieving something special as our dream needs preservance ,hardwork, integrity and commitment... This is noway a easy thing to achieve....I personally feel as I went through that phase like all ordinary people like me or rather I should say am still in that phase of waiting in the darkness of failures...It makes us desperate and restless..I know being there, holding on and continue to move forward is real difficult...No words can express what is going on in our heads..as nobody can get it..unless until somebody has really went through this transition from a failed purposeless and faded life to a life that is worth, purposeful, happy,visible and confident...
The thing that somhow gives us courage to move forward is the simplest possible ray of hope and that hidden feeling that our dream is also important and we are also worthy of success,I believe that might be enough for ordinary people like us who have rather dull and purposeless lives without this.. All through the past years of our lives we didn't value ourselves nor our dream..
This is no less than a rocket science to motivate ordinary people like us who never ever did anything for themselves and believed for years altogether that they are unworthy and incompetent to achieve anything or follow a dream....After starting and after gathering immense courage,if they get repeated failures hanging on and continuing is real hardest...because we only know how hard it was to be ordinary, average and adjusting ..Compromising our dreams ,our needs and our aspirations was not easy..We ourselves donot want to be past version of ourselves..We do fear failure, we do fear judgements... Our dream is definitely giving us huge inspiration to live, to perform and prove ourselves to the world and more importantly to our ownselves...This darkness is overwhelming as although we are not sure about the outcomes, nobody is..but we can not by any means quit...
Dear readers,without any visible results, I very well know hanging on is damn difficult because we fall short of motivation,money and resources as well if do not get any expected results..but please do not get off balance, donot leave trust on yourself and please donot undermine the importance of your dream for you... Your dream is directly related to your self confidence, commitment,more importantly to your purpose of life and a promise that you made to yourselves that you will not quit no matter what..😇😇😇
Feeling lonely at the end of the day... Namaste everyone, An average person meets around 10,000 people in their life times...but fail to ...