Easy tea recipes for daily intake..for absolute beginners

Namaste everyone,
 Today I want to share with you different kind of tea recipes..for absolute  beginners ..
First thing is always take equal measurements  of water and milk if you are  using normal standard or even toned milk  but if you are using full cream take two third cup  of   milk for one cup of water ,otherwise you have to take equal measurements  of both milk and water.
First step  is to start heating water  and now for adding the flavour you want  for example  ,for elachi wali chai,add  half  tea
spoon of elachi or cardamom  powder  , add  two teaspoon of tea leaves or chai Patti,bring it to boil and then add sugar according to your taste  , one teaspoon should be enough for one cup.and finally add milk.. bring this mixture to full boil three four times and your tea will be ready to strain and drink..
Similarly if you want to make ginger tea add grated ginger ( for more flavor) instead of elachi,but please make sure donot add milk before adding ginger to water and making it boil for  two three minutes, otherwise your tea will be spoiled and cuddled.
You can add  lemon grass also instead of ginger..lemon grass is not that common but now it's becoming common in indian households.. my personal favourite  is adding tulsi leaves while boiling water that is found in almost all indian households..
Actually  what I do is depending on weather  I make combinations ,i.e I usually combine cardamom  with ginger or cardamom  with tulsi leaves..i like  adding two of them for better flavor..
Tips
You can add  a pinch of salt to your tea if you have a sore throat..with which ever flavored tea you are having.
 Lemon tea,one of my favorite that I almost take daily is also easy to make.For making one cup lemon tea you simply  take one cup of water start  boiling it and add a pinch of salt ,one teaspoon or even little more of sugar(lemon tea requires more of sugar)  ,you can replace sugar with honey,little pinch of black pepper,   little punch of fennel seeds(saunf) and a little pinch of normal tea leaves(donot add more of tea leaves)..bring it to boil.and in your cup squeeze half lemon and strain the  boiled tea into it..
Tip
1.You can easily replace sugar by honey for  a healthier  version.. and losing wait you should drink it after getting up..
2.If possible donot take milk tea immediately  after waking up ,its not good and healthy ..and try replacing it with lemon tea or green tea.
3.Green tea is also one of the option ,we easily get different flavors of tea bags for green tea that can be  simply added to boiling water and its ready.
4.I  mostly take tea two times in breakfast and evening .. and lemon tea once  by around 12 noon.
5.Lemon tea recipe is very good  to take if your stomach is upset.. and it surely works..






Mental and physical health are completely related.

Mental and physical health are  completely related. 

Namaste everyone,
Mental and physical  health are totally dependent and of course  related to each other.I knew it but never really recognized it..
The one very important thing that I have noticed is feeling unwell, low in energy and uninterested..most of the times.. had become my way of life  .. I never felt fresh, I was bored of the monotony  of life,I paid least attention to my looks..these were all the side effects  of feelings depressed  and lacking sense of any kind of    accomplishment  and living a life that lacks purpose , nothing was stimulating  any kind of zeal or enthusiasm  in me to do something for myself  that satisfied my personal need of being successful at my own, in real terms..(Do not mix it with professional  success ,but if it is there it is of course  a added plus). I lacked motivation  to anything new..I followed a routine  that had nothing to do with me in real terms,my everyday was so much  busy in family and kids that I had no time not even 1 to 2 hours for myself..actually  later I realised I had time but I never knew how to use it ..neither  I was myself interested  to do something that really makes me joyful from within..mediocre  lives jeete jeete we always  forgot to live for ownselves..  "humein toh kuch karna hi nahi hain kyunki humse ho hi nahi payega ,agar kuch naya karenge toh family life effect ho jayegi ,bache kya sochenge  if I fail ,I will not be successful.. sab  hasenge ,people  will laugh at me,sab muje judge karenge.."
All possible  negativity comes into play to stop us, we continue to ruin our body but believe me when we really decide to change our lives for the good  I donot  know  from where our body also responds well,obvious  reason being if mentally we start feeling fresh ,body will also do the same,I started feeling good ,looking good,feeling fresh and healthy..Its not that I have become super successful  on day 1 itself,I have just started  I am trying, I am learning ,I am feeling a different  kind of enthusiasm, just because I have giving some hours a day of my own life to myself doing what I love to do.. This feeling of being joyful from within is really doing wonders because I donot know how  but I am doing daily routine things of taking care of my family and house with more of energy and less of cribbing..Its a truth..I just want to tell one thing to everybody reading this," following  your dream by no means gives any body the permission  to do whatever they want and forgetting all your responsibilities..or using unfair  or inappropriate  means of being successful ...that will be ultimate disaster ,damaging one's  life to the extent that can not be reversed.Follow your dream being responsible and healthy.😊😊

Why people hurt others??

Why people hurt others??

Namaste  everyone,
Today I had a very strong feeling about "Why people hurt others"..Reasons are really endless..they want to lower other person's  moral, self esteem and confidence. These people openly give certificates for others worth..They hurt other person's dignity without a single thought of how they may have felt at that weak moment..I very well understand that sometimes it can be unintentional or just  said without purpose..but how deeply it impacts  others ,they donot have  an idea about..choose your words before you speak..jaise hum bachon ko unke chote chote achievements  par kitna appreciate  karte hain ,That little pat on the back can make huge differences, hum adults ke sath bhi toh aisa kar sakte hain..par pata nahi kyun nahi karte..the thing is nothing can be done about what others  do or think about us..I know it hurts badly if people think or talk bad about  us..but why we  ordinary  people  start believing  their thinking about us as the ultimate truth of our lives..they donot know what we feel ,they even donot exactly know what is all about  being simple and ordinary,we  people who donot have anything  to brag  about or say..not even a small list of achievements..I accept that we have been like this for years..but not any more, atleast we have started trying.. Verbal abuses or any  kind of demeaning  statements passed against anybody are really detrimental..,people do start feeling low and strongly start believing  them as the truth of their lives. They stop being themselves, they also want to fit in..where they donot , they pretend to be people they are not..just because they started to believe  what others said about them..we  being ordinary become so weak mentally  with zero confidence that we can not take any decisions  regarding anything from even what to wear ,what suits us, what hair style to have,what to say ..we stop talking to strangers, we can not make friends  from the fear  of being judged..we fail to express..we fail to do anything ,we start feeling as ultimate losers who can never do anything good for others nor for their  ownselves..
This is really disappointing and saddening..but now what..think about it..where it all started..just from some  insensitive comments of people towards  others without thinking  of emotional or rare physical consequences..Soo.. please think before you speak anything bad about others not even in a fun way..
1.Let's be appreciative to each other.
2.Let's support each other in whichever possible way..
3.Let's not judge each other..
4.Let's be joyful and make others  around us too😊😊.
5.Let's help others to follow their dreams..
6.Let's share knowledge, feeling,happiness and sorrows ..
7.Let's talk ..and reach out..
8.Let's choose to be healthy
emotionally and physically.
9.Let's be little more understanding and loving towards the people around us and towards  ourselves too.
10.Let's be more passionate  towards our own goals or  even hobbies..
11.Let's make this world a better place by making tiny tiny contributions  in which ever possible way..
12.Let's do it  with a smile and confidence ...😊😊😊😊



Consequences of Financial dependence ..

Consequences of Financial dependence ..

Namaste  everyone ,
Today I felt insulted and offended  by the answer of my kid..he was  asked that,"What would he like to become  in future..??"
He simply answered,would like to be like papa.. "not like his mother why ??" 
The answer is  crystal clear  no body wants to live a professionally  failed live..I am not telling  this that a professionally  failed  life is a total failure, there are many other aspects also that qualify for a good purposeful  life..My kids love me but they donot want to be like me..because my job of taking care of them ,family and our house is quite insignificant  for a 10 years old..I am not angry with them.. but a strong feeling of  lack of purpose sinked into me..I was definitely  feeling depressed and of course  I didn't let  anybody know ,what I felt at that moment..
I am always of the opinion that nothing can be more important  for me than family and our loved ones..but professional  failure can not be ignored  altogether..years passed like this..when I was in my Twenties  I never wanted to do a job or have a career..
I now strongly feel and recommend  everybody I know, not to sacrifice or let go your professional  careers for anything..I know many a times circumstances can force us to do the same..but we should  restart as soon as possible..
Emotional as well as financial  dependence  can be nerve wrenching..Even if we are emotionally  vulnerable , having a personal financial  security can save us..In our society  also we have seen numerous examples of this..
I am not  talking here of failed marriages  or  any related things.. but here am thinking of how to deal with lack of confidence  and a feeling of low self esteem  that comes into play when we donot  have a running income or a career to pursue..
When I was thinking what wrong did I do to myself  or what happened in life ,a string of questions I myself didnot bother to answer ,keep pouring  into my mind.

1.When we have to  buy gifts for our family  especially  our  husband  by taking his money only.😏
One day my husband  said to my kids," Your mother can not afford to buy such costly gifts for you,its me who got all this for you.."
2.When ever I had to buy things for my  mother,  father ,brother ,sister and especially for my nephew and niece..I asked money from my husband..although he never refused ...
But now, "Connecting all the dots I personally  very strongly  feel this financial  dependency  is not good ,not healthy,it can be insulting..at times..that one single time will be enough  to destroy your self worth and confidence..
These things that I have felt  do not matter when everything  is going fine between  husband  and wife..but I know this can happen..to anybody..and all are not the lucky ones..
So we ordinary people will keep on waiting for these things to happen to us or do something  concrete  about this..choice is our own..
Why especially  ladies who are continously  facing domestic violence  can not come out of it because  they are not financially  independent, so that they can not carry on their lives with their kids independently  and are forced to stay because they donot have any money at all to sustain ...this is the worst case I am talking about..
What is the way out? The only way out is keep learning  and upgrading whatever little skills you have about any possible topic..keep improving it and turn it into a living..😊😊and I just want to assure you it's not impossible..


Traits/Qualities of good ordinary people which most of the people lack nowadays..

Traits/Qualities  of good ordinary people...

Namaste everyone,
With all  the Covid-19 negativity going around ..and in addition to that all negative news  that keeps on coming ..this year 2020  so.. far  has given real negative impact to the world mentally as well as financially...
People  were in lockdowns that are now some what relaxed but thing is  how insensitive  we have become  or maybe  we always were... I personally  feel helping people financially  is not the cup of tea for everybody.. all can not even afford that ..and that is  not practical  also  for every one to some extent.. whatever little  we can do is enough..but why can not we as individuals  act as emotional supports for people around us and world around..
Why  most of the people have become insensitive to what others feel or go through???
Most of the ordinary people around us that may have not achieved anything or are not that much successful professionally..but they are really the support systems of our lives but we usually fail to see..or recognize..
Most of us feel low and depressed  for no visible reason.Most of us being very ordinary are not comfortable  expressing ourselves about what we feel .. that (something may be minor only) is bothering  us back in our minds...We definitely  lack emotional connect with people around.. many a times I personally  feel we ourselves  are able to see or feel that somebody around us is not comfortable  or he or she she is low today..but I  am not able to clearly understand why people fail to see something wrong going on with us..Or we  the ordinary ones are  so good in acting ,in faking smiles and pretending  to be normal all the time..Can not say ... such a strange thing.. Some people simply donot bother at all..It seems ,"sari duniya ka theka humne le rakha hai😏😏
I know this is a little exaggeration  but why can not we the simple ordinary ones  donot get there  fair share of attention ,only because we never say or express.. we never get angry , we never shout or scream..we never make others realise their  mistakes..,we never make others realise  that how badly they hurt us...they simple statements may be unintentional   sometimes act as a  insult.. and make us realise how unworthy  we are..
The thing is  who gave them this right to treat us like this ,we ourselves..because jab hum khud ko least importance  dete hain toh log bhi aisa hi karenge..
We are using our strengths against our ownselves..humble hona adjusting hona, understanding hona ,sabke liye respectful  hona,sabke bare mein  acha wish karna , sabki help ke liye always 
 ready rahna..yeh hamari qualities  hain..but  at times we forget about ourselves.. I am not at all  telling anybody to become selfish..but sable liye strong and apne liye weakest ban jana  bhi sahi nahi hai..agar hum  apne liye kuch nahi karenge toh koi bhi hamare liye kuch  nahi karega..and yeh sirf hamari personal ya professional  growth ki baat nahi hai.. it is very much related to our health  also.. mostly  people  fail to recognize  that this feeling low is taking a toll on our health also.. so  please  develop a routine ,do something that you really enjoy doing...  learn something new..come out of your comfort  zone..it is important..sooner or later we will understand.. soo why not start now..

Dealing with Financial dependence on others.

Importance of financial independence in life.

Namaste everyone,
Over all those years of our pretty ordinary lives  we did not do anything for self development or anything more or less related to ourselves that was focused on us for our personal ,professional  and for that matter spiritual  growth..
"Hamara focus hamare upar kabhi nahi tha...bus family, family  and family ..we never knew or tried to know anything beyond that.. our lives appear complete...but never were..initially we donot realise.. but slowly gradually we come to know....ki kya kar liya humne apne sath.. kya ban gaye hain hum, emotionally to family pe dependency  hoti hi hai.. there is  nothing wrong in it.. family is our strength and support.. but jab  it comes to financial terms..not initially  but with  passing years.. we realise that humare paas apna earn kiya toh kuch bhi nahi hai.. over all those years apni sari energies family par laga di..but when it comes to our own bank balance .. we are a big zero.. "
Aisa nahi hai ki humein koi necessities  ke liye financial  crunch ho gaya hai or something like that.. but hum ordinary se logon ne khud apni financial and emotional freedom ko totally khatam kar diya...aisa maan liya ki  financial freedom is not important.. hum ordinary se ,simple se logon ki aisi thinking hoti hai ki ," we are for our family  and  family mei sabki apni apni responsibility  hai.. jismei maine ghar sambhlne ki responsibility  badi khush khush li hai... jo kafi hadh tak sahi bhi hota..hai"  lekin iske liy apni financial freedom ko compromise karna sahi nahi hai.. financial  freedom ka nahi hona is also a very important  reason of our  low self esteem and of course  low confidence.. humein yeh nahi bhoolna chahiye ki financial  support is also important  and is definitely a way  for supporting our family.... Har  choti choti cheez buy karne ke liye asking others.. is uncomfortable  and most of the time insulting.. it some times leads to different  kinds of depression, feelings of no self worth.. and although  what we do for our families  is priceless.. and nobody else can do it the way we do it.. but still losing financial independence is not a good healthy choice.. in initial years of our lives  we take each others financial burdens happily.. without complaints.. but once the other person  kabhi gusse mei makes us realise of  our expenses.. it is quite insulting..
I am not telling ki  everybody is going to have bad experiences..but chances are quite high.. toh why not work for it.. start something.. today .. now is the time.. how much little you will earn, it will give a whole  lot of confidence  and happiness...😊😊😊👍
You can also further read the below post that describes  what I have felt  as a consequence of financial  dependence..
https://myheartfultalks.blogspot.com/2020/06/consequeces-of-financial-dependence.html


Family First...is my way of life😊😊

Family first..

Namaste everyone,
For we the simple ordinary people " FAMILY FIRST " is not just a thought... hum ise mante bhi hain aur is fact ke sath jeete bhi hain..hamari poori life hamari family par hi focused hoti hai... I am a complete family person.. aisa karke hum koi ehsaan nahi karte..we do it because we love them... more than our own selves...hamara sab kuch sirf hamari family ke liye hi hota hai...
Everyday from morning to night we live for them..but ek stage ke badh aisa lagta hai yeh hamara "all time available"  wala attitude shayad hamari khud ki family  ka humein for granted lene ka reason  ban jata hai...hum unke bina   kuch nai hain.. yeh baat sach bhi hai.. aisa main dilse manti hun...but problem tab aane lagti hai jab hum apne liye ,apni self growth,apni health,apni hobbies ya apne interests ke liye kuch bhi nahi karte... aisa karte karte hum life ke maximum saal nikal dete hain.. and kabhi realise hi nahi karte  ki we  have actually lost ourselves in the journey..
Life itni monotonous ho jati hai.. humein bhi pata nahi chal pata.. what the hell is wrong???The wrong thing is that ki over all these years we never ever thought of ourselves,our self growth... looking inwards..working on something that we really feel contented and happy about. nothing nothing absolutely nothing..
Without family  personal or professional achievements are also of no use...but stopping to work on ourselves is such a blunder that we commit to our selves... inner engineering is very very vital to this.. so we should start it now itself... despite of whatever age groups we belong to.. it is not only important but inevitable..as far as I think about today's social structure and lifestyle.
Start today by doing little little things ,start by taking baby steps.. but do it..😊😊😊👍👍

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