Stop living in the past..

Stop living in the Past

Namaste everyone,

We all have a past may be good or  bad...but we all do have a lot of emotional attachment  with it.

Some times it gives us strength and sometimes weakens us to the core ,leaving us helpless and sad..I know it is not easy for a ordinary  person to just leave the past and start afresh....

We keep on searching for those things and people in our present who were important  part of our lives in the past..(This is definitely the worst thing we do to ourselves..)

Practically it is impossible but our weak minds keep on dragging us there over and over again...

The most significant reason behind this is  that "we are never satisfied in our present and have no expectations from the future as well..so we keep on running back  to our past..."

This running back to the past is always painful and of no use because  even if the memories related to it  are of happiness  there absence today hurts us....

This is the common trait of emotionally weak people..They declared to themselves  that they can not do anything  about the current situation so they keep reminding their past to  themselves ...

We continue to live in the past as if the past pacifies us but in reality  it is fooling us and stopping us to live and enjoy our present fully.... it is like keeping a wound alive.. because we are noway doing justice to the people that are part of our present and more importantly to ourselves..

Living in the past we forget to give appropriate importance to people and things we have today...we feel more attached to people and things that were part of lives in the past..but we forget that they have no relevance in our present and dragging them forcefully  may result in the loss of even those we have today..because we are not fully committed  to people and things that we have today...

Past is gone years back it may be cherished  by some because they were extremely  happy and successful  back then and it may be life lessons for many who have failed relationships, failures and rejections..

Actually  I personally  feel usually people learn lessons from failures and rejections of the past but when it comes to failed relationships,it gets very difficult for ordinary people to come out of it and they  keep on reminding themselves endlessly and continue to feel sorry for a failed relationship.. The reason of a failed relationship can be anything like infidelity,abuse,disrespect

,distrust or disagreements ..but the fact of life is that  a particular relationship failed..Years passed but still our weak minds  deny to accept that and continue to live in the past..as a result mostly ordinary people become so weak, underconfident and insecure that they fear in making new and fresh relationships...The reality is deep in their minds they blame themselves for the failure of the relationship but forget the red flags in the past relationship that resulted in the failure of it..Actually  I believe  it was God's way of protecting us from people who were responsible only for hurting us emotionally  and that too real bad...and would have continued if God didn't throw them out from our lives due to whatever reasons...

Dear readers,don't  get me wrong ,I am not saying all people who were part of lives in the past were bad...but the thing is they are no more part of our present...And if we continue  to prioritize them more over our present relationships,it will be  injustice  to people who are part of our lives today..and more importantly  who chose to be with us even after accepting  our past...

We have to gather courage to get rid of our past in our minds,because if we do not stop living  in the past ,it will definitely  affect our today's relationships..We have to cherish what we have today and not things and people who left us on a wrong note in the past by giving unruly ,stupid , selfish and baseless excuses..🤔🤔Think about it ,start to live fully with open minds...and Please  Stop living in the past... cherish and value whatever you have today...

How to say what we really feel?

 Namaste everyone,
I personally find it very difficult to say what I really feel..It must be the case with many other introvert, simple and ordinary people like me..
Reasons  for this are manifold..
Firstly we were not confident and vocal enough to express what we really feel and want in life to anybody..

Secondly ,we being ordinary choose not to say what we felt because we never ever want to hurt anybody even unintentionally...It took me years to realize  not hurting others was definitely  my strength and that was of course  related to my habit of not speaking and expressing too much...What others will feel was always in my mind..
But somehow you always have experiences in life that tell you mostly people around us never even bothered about how others are feeling and intentionally or unintentionally speak  things that can hurt other people to the core..

If being an extrovert somehow means to hurt people without being hesitant and even giving a second thought of realising the consequences of the words spoken I don’t want to be an extrovert..My simplest ordinary life will outweigh this audacity of some people who easily hurt people..sometimes  even their own loved ones..
How people become insensitive to other person's feelings is still a mystery  for ordinary people like me..Although we were not that successful  all our lives but somehow we were gifted enough to be filled with lots of humility, care,respect and empathy for others..These were the only things that I can be proud of ..but the truth of life is that they donot earn you a single penny..
Although we never have had enough courage to express our feelings to others..We actually never even accepted what are we exactly feelings..We also kept on ignoring our own feelings that too for years altogether...We never acknowledged or even responded properly to our own desires and dreams ....because obviously  we felt like we are unsuccessful, unworthy  and incompetent to achieve  what we really dream or want to achieve...And mostly we always  had the fear of failure  far before even trying or giving it a shot..We always were the underconfident and insecure ones ..that was definitely the reason of our pretty unsuccessful and purposeless lives..It is truth..we have to accept  it and move forward..

Dear readers, Please first acknowledge your dreams ,thoughts and feelings to your own conscience.. then only you will be able to say what you feel and want to the world and people  around...There is no way out..Accept your weaknesses and work on your strength..Sharpen your skills..Keep yourself  busy in things you love to do..Please don't judge yourself, be little biased towards your own dreams..I am definitely  not telling to be selfish  in anyway but working on your dreams ,taking time for yourself  is not at  all acting selfish..Start to dream...what you really wanted to be and stop being the person you became with time with no personal choices or voice...☺

The World is bothered about the results and not our struggles...

 The World is bothered about the results and not our struggles...

Namaste  everyone,

The day I  had this realisation that how I wasted  years of my life with the  stupid assumption that  my family's dream is my dream,  their aspirations are the only aspirations I can have,living an average life is Ok..not having any purpose in life is fine..Not taking  out time for our ownselves and not investing time in self improvement and some new learnings or hobby is not a crime that we do to ourselves..

Years wasted...nothing achieved ,nothing learned ,no self improvement.. no bank balance ..This what we become living a ordinary purposeless life.

Nobody is and was ever bothered how I was wasting my life facilitating other's lives..Don't get me wrong ,I was not doing any favours, I was definitely doing it out of love and commitment for my family..But the strange thing was I had no commitment towards my own dreams and life..  If we ourselves are least bothered why would others around us be??🤔😕🤔

This  small thinking for ourselves  is so detrimental, I also have no idea about..

The World around us is bothered about the results always...Nobody is bothered about how a ordinary person is feeling ,how that person perceives life , how that person is unable to follow a dream he or she has ..but is unable to  achieve or even tell..They are least interested  in day to day financial and  emotional struggles  of ordinary people who never achieved anything in life..

This is a fact of life..Nobody is interested in failed lives of ordinary  people...until  they are successful..Nobody bothers if  ordinary people aspire success but need motivation and help..Nobody gives them attention or  I should say even notices their little little achievements or even failures..Nobody sees the dullness on  ordinary  people's faces and depression in their minds..Nobody cares...Nobody even asks for the reasons of disappointments and distresses..

Everybody  wants to be the part of lives of people who are successful and not those who have been struggling or have not achieved anything for years altogether...

Times of struggle actually  require immense mental strength and support of real people and relationships..Fake people easily  get shunted from our life  in tough times and struggles....

Dear readers,Everybody in this world has its own share of struggles, disappointments and failures... but Please have a dream ,work on it and improve yourself on daily basis..Other wise sooner or later  life will appear meaningless  to you..Life needs motivation and love to carry on ..This can only happen if we have a purpose in life....If we have a dream and purpose we can easily sail through the ups and downs of life...😇😇