I am there for you always,Are you there??

 I am there for you always , Are you there??

Namaste everyone, 

In relationships that are inevitable and integral part of our lives...when things don't appear to work out or something appears fishy.. We start feeling left out and alone...It is  a common feeling..

We  sometimes feel like asking our resspective partners that,"I am there for you always ,Are you there?" but but but ....we ordinary and silly ones are ignorant enough to not see the red flags..We are not able to see the absence of interest ,love and care in  our partner's actions ...Neither we express ourselves completely nor we totally understand what are other person's feeling..

We do have a lot of unanswered questions and lot many many things that require explanation and answers but in fake or forced relationships we get nothing,Absolutely nothing..

 Sometimes I used to wonder how come people who give 100% to their relationships get betrayed...🤔🤔but people who do this it is quite easy for them..This forces  to  make ordinary people like us to feel unworthy ,insecure and underconfident...but actually  our own emotions start  working against us.....Although we feel alone ,betrayed and lost..But this phase is definitely temporary..This tough emotional turbulence shall also pass...I know its easy preach than implement..

 "Betrayals done by others to us has nothing to do with us because quitting a relationship can be done in other better ways than cheating and infidelity.."

We do things out of pure love and commitment that we ourselves  donot find right and justified ....as a result we are left empty when things donot work well...Following  the right path be it in relationships or real life is the only way,any short cuts or wrong doings or selfishness will take us nowhere... To somehow continue in a relationship we keep on making compromises that no way make sense ,we sacrifice our self respect ,devote our time and energy but fail to see the absence of commitment, honesty and love in our estranged partners eyes..We are ourselves  blinded by our own emotional weaknesses...and continue to be guided by the emotion that we  cannot survive without the relationship...but when reality strikes hard and I  asked," Are you there for me?"

Answer came screaming  to me ,"No,No,No"...The strange thing is answers to such questions  are never direct for fake people in a relationship.. but they are obviously indicated more by their actions,gestures and comments..They are  making us realise in so many ways ,but I should  say It is our own weakness and blind faith that we fail to recognize....

We may not be best with how other people especially in a relationship with us treat us or judge us,but we are definitely  the best in how we are committed, how we respect them,how we treat them and how we love and care for them💞.

Dear readers,we have been taught  that if we do things with full commitment , integrity and purity ..the results will always be positive..But they failed to tell us that this hypothesis doesn't hold for fake relationships.. Because  there is another person involved..and lack of purity from his or her side  also matters..and defines the fate of the relationship.So please stop blaming yourselves for a failed relationship..Move on..Life has so much to offer if you start looking for it with open heart...😊😊😊

 Waiting under the darkness of failures.. 

Namaste  everyone,

Have you ever  experienced or even asked someone , how it feels  while waiting for success in the darkness of failures..??

How disappointing it is?? ,I am quite qualified  to tell you how bad and helpless it feels..Ya, because I lived this life, felt it and took  a pretty lot of time to get over it...I must say it is not at all easy..

Dear readers, now also It's not like am super successful, it's just that I am moving forward ,I like what I do..I  feel the enthusiasm of getting up and pursuing my goal..I feel the positive energy...That's  it...nothing much to brag about..but I love what I do..That's enough..(A late realisation)

Although  it  takes immense  will power to accept that  we have been living a purposeless life...and coming out of it  is definitely a next level struggle for ordinary  people...but one more important thing here is once we decide to move forward ,during our journey  towards our goal  we many a times feel disappointed,  disheartened and helpless because the destination is obviously far and we ordinary people fall short of resources..(as we started late and we are underconfident  and sometimes under qualified as well).This is indeed the truth of life...Life is like that...

Achieving something special  as our dream needs preservance ,hardwork, integrity and commitment... This is noway a easy thing to achieve....I personally feel as  I went through  that phase like all ordinary people like me or rather I should say am still in that phase of waiting in the darkness of failures...It makes us desperate and restless..I know being there, holding on and continue to move forward is real difficult...No words can express  what is going on in our heads..as nobody can get it..unless until somebody has really went through this transition from a failed  purposeless and faded life to a life that is  worth, purposeful, happy,visible and confident...

The thing that somhow gives  us courage to move forward is the simplest possible ray of hope and that hidden feeling that our dream is also important and we are also worthy of success,I believe that might be enough for ordinary people like us who have rather dull and purposeless lives without this.. All through the past years of our lives we didn't value ourselves nor our dream..

This is no less than a rocket science  to motivate ordinary people like us who never ever did anything for themselves and believed for years altogether that they are unworthy and incompetent to achieve anything or follow a dream....After starting and after gathering immense courage,if they get repeated failures hanging on and continuing is real hardest...because we only know how hard it was to be ordinary, average and  adjusting ..Compromising our dreams ,our needs and our aspirations was not easy..We ourselves  donot want to be past version of ourselves..We do fear failure, we do fear judgements... Our dream is definitely giving us  huge inspiration to live, to perform and prove ourselves  to the world and more importantly to our ownselves...This darkness is overwhelming as although we are not sure about the outcomes, nobody is..but we can not  by any means quit...

Dear readers,without any visible results, I  very well know hanging on is damn difficult because we fall short of motivation,money and resources as well if do not get any expected results..but please do not get off balance, donot leave trust on yourself and please donot undermine the importance  of your dream for you... Your dream is directly related to your self confidence, commitment,more importantly to your purpose of life and a promise that you made to yourselves that you will not quit no matter what..😇😇😇

Not setting yourself free.

Not setting yourself free..

Namaste  everyone, 

 I believed  for the past so many  years that I am unworthy,unfit,unwanted and underconfident...

So any kind of success  is not meant for me...As a consequence of that  I started to pacify myself with this stupid thought that I will continue to live a purposeless, ordinary and average life only because I donot deserve anything that I really dream and want to achieve..and I am a misfit for a successful and confident life..Instead of trying even harder ,I chose the way of simply giving up as I personally felt that I will anyway fail even if I try...This thought process is  the biggest blunder we do to ourselves..

My own mindset was working against me..Being underconfident and insecure  is a different thing  from totally closing our minds to  the fact that we can declared ourselves  failure without even taking the first step...

We donot set ourselves free to follow our own dreams ...For us  personal achievements and accomplishments donot matter or I should say appear insignificant..We mark our own dreams insignificant and unimportant... 

Dear readers ,just ask yourselves the following questions and I hope their answers help you in  getting a confident mindset to follow your dream..

1.Why cannot we feel free to feel happy doing what we want to do and not what appears right  and justified to others..?

2.Why is taking small small steps towards our  own goal unimportant to us?

3.How can we convince others when we ourselves are not convinced about the importance of our own goal in our life?

4.Why are we  always comfortable in compromising what we really want?

5.Why are we unable to express our own feelings  to others?

6.Why can not we work on ourselves to improve and learn?

7.Why can not we just be ourselves and stop pretending?

8.Why we can't we take little time from  our own life for ourselves?

9.How come  living a purposeless life does not matter to us?

10.Why can not  we confess to ourselves that our own dream is as important as anybody other's?

11.Why can not we gather courage to face the world?

12.Why can not we gather courage to overcome our own weaknesses?

13.Why can not we stop agreeing to others point of view even if we disagree?

14.Why can not we raise our opinion if it doesnot matches the crowd?

15.How long we will continue to live a ordinary and purposeless life?

16.When will we remove this tag of loser and unworthy from ourselves?

17.When will we start?

18.Why can't we forget the past and  past failures and move forward?

19.Why can not we be financially and emotionally independent?

20.Why we have to be available for others 24/7?

21.Why are we our last priority?

The list is definitely endless..

Getting  answers to these questions  clearly indicates that our own mind is acting against us..We have to overcome these negative complexes that are  acting as hurdles in the  path towards our  own dream..There is no other way out..Think about it and Please work on it, Don't  waste your lives living a insignificant life..🤔🤔🙏🙏