Verbal Abuse..Think before you speak..

Verbal Abuse..Think before you speak..

Namaste everyone,
Physical abuse done by people on others  is clearly visible ,donot know from where people gather so much courage to hurt others so brutally and  ruthlessly.. I used to ponder , these  people must not be humans in  any possible way..and its quite common especially  against women and children..and thought its the worst..
But as far as today's  society is concerned  people are educated and are  little sophisticated (as they pretend to be shamelessly).. (earlier it was thought that male population used to dominate the females in our society),the so called  trait of some people ,irrespective  of their gender can go to any extent to hurt the emotional wellbeing of a totally healthy person..
I very well understand  that the ordinary people with no prior successful background   are the obvious victims of this kind of shameless behaviour..I am not here particularly discussing here the verbal abuse in its worst form like using bad words or abusive language  against the weaker..my focus here is especially  on the daily passed comments on  ordinary people that act as such hindrances  to their growth , self confidence and moral..The most important thing I observed is that victims and culprits   are usually the people around us..mostly they are part of the family, they can be  teachers , they can be closed friends , neighbours  or our relatives.The comments passed once  on a lighter note once or twice are obivously tolerated..but when it becomes a habit it should be stopped  there itself ,it is a kind of bullying.. and can  leave marks on our minds that can noway be removed..
These constant verbal abuses makes the person receiving  it so very weak emotionally ,
that he or she  have no way to escape and as a result of which they push themselves into a mind made shell of low or no self esteem and no confidence ..so that they can not achieve  any tiniest  thing ever possible..and ordinary people began to accept it as their  only reality and start to carry the so called tag of loser for life..
The thing to be noticed here has everybody in this world has some sort of insecurities  and weaknesses ..but the some people obviously  play with it to make others feel
unworthy..They raise their voice tone to insult others in which possible way..I think
What is the solution to this? Who is more responsible for these emotional turbulences in the minds of the weak ordinary people? Who gave this power  to control our minds in the hands of others? "Who gave the key to our emotional health  in the mouth of others?"Why we need approval  certificates  from others all the times?
If we give answers to these questions we will definitely  get the right answer..Actually giving to much importance  to others think and feel about is the real  problem..what others  think about us is their  problem not ours..
The kind of language  people use against each other truly depends on their upbringings  and Sanskars..
Thing  is we can also be the part of this clan of abusers and may verbally  hurt others.We as individuals  should always mind our words spoken..As simple words of encouragement  can uplift the spirits  of  others to new heights and on the other  hands casual  statement of abuse  can devastate other person mental health , we never know.. 
Run a simple check ,"your words should not be hurtful  demeaning ,disrespectful or disspointing towards others "
I have made this list of verbal abuses that people usually use  for others to lower their self esteem or to insult them in any possible way..
1.You are a loser.
2.You can not do anything, not even simple things correctly..
3.You look terrible ,nothing suits you well..
4.Can you earn a single penny?
5.You look ugly..
6.Whatever you do ,you are going  to fail..
7.You have no good qualifications..and absolutely no talent.
8.You are good in no field.
9.You are worthless. 
10.You are fit for nothing..
I request everybody not to pass these kind of statements against anybody you know or not..