Indecisiveness / Seeking approvals all the time..
Namaste everyone,We become soooooo..weak and under confident that whatever we do .. we seek approvals from others.. for each and every thing.. no matter how little it is or how important it is for us...we can not proceed without a nod from others..the sense of unworthiness has gone so deep into our mind and thoughts that it starts showing up in all actions we do..
Most of the people live their lives without even thinking a second for others or for that matter how their decisions will effect others related to them.. how their actions are disrespectful to others ,how their decisions can harm others , how they many a times verbally abuse people for tiny tiny things..how they remind other ordinary people of their failures.. just because we the ordinary ones have never achieved any thing.. nor we were expressive or vocal enough to atleast express what we really feel..
I think we ordinary ones are not the weakest but the strongest.. because we are able to absorb everything and still keep walking , bus chalte rahte hain.. aise hi aur yeh sab rejections humein shayad mentally weak karne ki jagah humein aur strong banati hain and this is because we people continue to act as support system to others because we know how it feels ,how badly it hurts .. being rejected ,failing multiple times is not easy.. I am telling you it's not easy.. but still we continue to do so..because although we are ordinary but not weak...but the thing is why we fail to show up when we need our own support.
We lack consciousness about our ownselves...we lack consistency in our own efforts towards our own selves..we do not value what we exactly want ,we donot respect our ownselves.we never ever prioritise what needs improvement in our lives.. our lifestyle..our thoughts..our skills , our hobbies,our happiness..
How can we pretend to do all these sacrifices for our family or loved ones or due to any other possible reason..when we fail to recognize what needs to be done for our own upliftment, we can not protect ourselves from our own mindgames and insecurities..but pretend to be there for everbody.. Although we pretend to be strong in front of others we are actually very weak from within, we are under confident ,we have a lot of insecurities..neither we tell anything to others nor we are strong enough to deal with them forcefully ourselves. We start living with a perception that nothing can be done about our lives..we are failed lives.. nothing can be improved in us..and continue to be hopeless. Slowly and gradually we start being indecisive about every thing that matters ,we lack confidence,we start thinking that we have not been successful in any phase of life so our decisions also can not be in any ways correct or helpful to any body..and start to seek approvals for everything.. This no way going to help us or others..
With fears of failing we stop to try..with fears of judgements we fear to live or express..this is totally wrong..Living like this we are not doing any good to ourselves or to anybody that knows us..life is short we have to live it fully..nobody is perfect..there is nobody whose all decisions are always correct..there is nobody who always succeeds and has never faced failure..thrre is nobody who has not felt sad,there is nobody who is never ever rejected .. Everybody has his or her share of sorrows and disappointments, everybody has some kind of fears and insecurities..but the one who decides to overcomebecomes successful..of course its not a one day process . It is a temperament that needs to be developed within every human being so that they can exercise their full poential..and live which ever way they want to ,live happily and contented.. follow their dreams..😊😊
We lack consciousness about our ownselves...we lack consistency in our own efforts towards our own selves..we do not value what we exactly want ,we donot respect our ownselves.we never ever prioritise what needs improvement in our lives.. our lifestyle..our thoughts..our skills , our hobbies,our happiness..
How can we pretend to do all these sacrifices for our family or loved ones or due to any other possible reason..when we fail to recognize what needs to be done for our own upliftment, we can not protect ourselves from our own mindgames and insecurities..but pretend to be there for everbody.. Although we pretend to be strong in front of others we are actually very weak from within, we are under confident ,we have a lot of insecurities..neither we tell anything to others nor we are strong enough to deal with them forcefully ourselves. We start living with a perception that nothing can be done about our lives..we are failed lives.. nothing can be improved in us..and continue to be hopeless. Slowly and gradually we start being indecisive about every thing that matters ,we lack confidence,we start thinking that we have not been successful in any phase of life so our decisions also can not be in any ways correct or helpful to any body..and start to seek approvals for everything.. This no way going to help us or others..
With fears of failing we stop to try..with fears of judgements we fear to live or express..this is totally wrong..Living like this we are not doing any good to ourselves or to anybody that knows us..life is short we have to live it fully..nobody is perfect..there is nobody whose all decisions are always correct..there is nobody who always succeeds and has never faced failure..thrre is nobody who has not felt sad,there is nobody who is never ever rejected .. Everybody has his or her share of sorrows and disappointments, everybody has some kind of fears and insecurities..but the one who decides to overcomebecomes successful..of course its not a one day process . It is a temperament that needs to be developed within every human being so that they can exercise their full poential..and live which ever way they want to ,live happily and contented.. follow their dreams..😊😊
