I am there for you always,Are you there??

 I am there for you always , Are you there??

Namaste everyone, 

In relationships that are inevitable and integral part of our lives...when things don't appear to work out or something appears fishy.. We start feeling left out and alone...It is  a common feeling..

We  sometimes feel like asking our resspective partners that,"I am there for you always ,Are you there?" but but but ....we ordinary and silly ones are ignorant enough to not see the red flags..We are not able to see the absence of interest ,love and care in  our partner's actions ...Neither we express ourselves completely nor we totally understand what are other person's feeling..

We do have a lot of unanswered questions and lot many many things that require explanation and answers but in fake or forced relationships we get nothing,Absolutely nothing..

 Sometimes I used to wonder how come people who give 100% to their relationships get betrayed...🤔🤔but people who do this it is quite easy for them..This forces  to  make ordinary people like us to feel unworthy ,insecure and underconfident...but actually  our own emotions start  working against us.....Although we feel alone ,betrayed and lost..But this phase is definitely temporary..This tough emotional turbulence shall also pass...I know its easy preach than implement..

 "Betrayals done by others to us has nothing to do with us because quitting a relationship can be done in other better ways than cheating and infidelity.."

We do things out of pure love and commitment that we ourselves  donot find right and justified ....as a result we are left empty when things donot work well...Following  the right path be it in relationships or real life is the only way,any short cuts or wrong doings or selfishness will take us nowhere... To somehow continue in a relationship we keep on making compromises that no way make sense ,we sacrifice our self respect ,devote our time and energy but fail to see the absence of commitment, honesty and love in our estranged partners eyes..We are ourselves  blinded by our own emotional weaknesses...and continue to be guided by the emotion that we  cannot survive without the relationship...but when reality strikes hard and I  asked," Are you there for me?"

Answer came screaming  to me ,"No,No,No"...The strange thing is answers to such questions  are never direct for fake people in a relationship.. but they are obviously indicated more by their actions,gestures and comments..They are  making us realise in so many ways ,but I should  say It is our own weakness and blind faith that we fail to recognize....

We may not be best with how other people especially in a relationship with us treat us or judge us,but we are definitely  the best in how we are committed, how we respect them,how we treat them and how we love and care for them💞.

Dear readers,we have been taught  that if we do things with full commitment , integrity and purity ..the results will always be positive..But they failed to tell us that this hypothesis doesn't hold for fake relationships.. Because  there is another person involved..and lack of purity from his or her side  also matters..and defines the fate of the relationship.So please stop blaming yourselves for a failed relationship..Move on..Life has so much to offer if you start looking for it with open heart...😊😊😊

 Waiting under the darkness of failures.. 

Namaste  everyone,

Have you ever  experienced or even asked someone , how it feels  while waiting for success in the darkness of failures..??

How disappointing it is?? ,I am quite qualified  to tell you how bad and helpless it feels..Ya, because I lived this life, felt it and took  a pretty lot of time to get over it...I must say it is not at all easy..

Dear readers, now also It's not like am super successful, it's just that I am moving forward ,I like what I do..I  feel the enthusiasm of getting up and pursuing my goal..I feel the positive energy...That's  it...nothing much to brag about..but I love what I do..That's enough..(A late realisation)

Although  it  takes immense  will power to accept that  we have been living a purposeless life...and coming out of it  is definitely a next level struggle for ordinary  people...but one more important thing here is once we decide to move forward ,during our journey  towards our goal  we many a times feel disappointed,  disheartened and helpless because the destination is obviously far and we ordinary people fall short of resources..(as we started late and we are underconfident  and sometimes under qualified as well).This is indeed the truth of life...Life is like that...

Achieving something special  as our dream needs preservance ,hardwork, integrity and commitment... This is noway a easy thing to achieve....I personally feel as  I went through  that phase like all ordinary people like me or rather I should say am still in that phase of waiting in the darkness of failures...It makes us desperate and restless..I know being there, holding on and continue to move forward is real difficult...No words can express  what is going on in our heads..as nobody can get it..unless until somebody has really went through this transition from a failed  purposeless and faded life to a life that is  worth, purposeful, happy,visible and confident...

The thing that somhow gives  us courage to move forward is the simplest possible ray of hope and that hidden feeling that our dream is also important and we are also worthy of success,I believe that might be enough for ordinary people like us who have rather dull and purposeless lives without this.. All through the past years of our lives we didn't value ourselves nor our dream..

This is no less than a rocket science  to motivate ordinary people like us who never ever did anything for themselves and believed for years altogether that they are unworthy and incompetent to achieve anything or follow a dream....After starting and after gathering immense courage,if they get repeated failures hanging on and continuing is real hardest...because we only know how hard it was to be ordinary, average and  adjusting ..Compromising our dreams ,our needs and our aspirations was not easy..We ourselves  donot want to be past version of ourselves..We do fear failure, we do fear judgements... Our dream is definitely giving us  huge inspiration to live, to perform and prove ourselves  to the world and more importantly to our ownselves...This darkness is overwhelming as although we are not sure about the outcomes, nobody is..but we can not  by any means quit...

Dear readers,without any visible results, I  very well know hanging on is damn difficult because we fall short of motivation,money and resources as well if do not get any expected results..but please do not get off balance, donot leave trust on yourself and please donot undermine the importance  of your dream for you... Your dream is directly related to your self confidence, commitment,more importantly to your purpose of life and a promise that you made to yourselves that you will not quit no matter what..😇😇😇

Not setting yourself free.

Not setting yourself free..

Namaste  everyone, 

 I believed  for the past so many  years that I am unworthy,unfit,unwanted and underconfident...

So any kind of success  is not meant for me...As a consequence of that  I started to pacify myself with this stupid thought that I will continue to live a purposeless, ordinary and average life only because I donot deserve anything that I really dream and want to achieve..and I am a misfit for a successful and confident life..Instead of trying even harder ,I chose the way of simply giving up as I personally felt that I will anyway fail even if I try...This thought process is  the biggest blunder we do to ourselves..

My own mindset was working against me..Being underconfident and insecure  is a different thing  from totally closing our minds to  the fact that we can declared ourselves  failure without even taking the first step...

We donot set ourselves free to follow our own dreams ...For us  personal achievements and accomplishments donot matter or I should say appear insignificant..We mark our own dreams insignificant and unimportant... 

Dear readers ,just ask yourselves the following questions and I hope their answers help you in  getting a confident mindset to follow your dream..

1.Why cannot we feel free to feel happy doing what we want to do and not what appears right  and justified to others..?

2.Why is taking small small steps towards our  own goal unimportant to us?

3.How can we convince others when we ourselves are not convinced about the importance of our own goal in our life?

4.Why are we  always comfortable in compromising what we really want?

5.Why are we unable to express our own feelings  to others?

6.Why can not we work on ourselves to improve and learn?

7.Why can not we just be ourselves and stop pretending?

8.Why we can't we take little time from  our own life for ourselves?

9.How come  living a purposeless life does not matter to us?

10.Why can not  we confess to ourselves that our own dream is as important as anybody other's?

11.Why can not we gather courage to face the world?

12.Why can not we gather courage to overcome our own weaknesses?

13.Why can not we stop agreeing to others point of view even if we disagree?

14.Why can not we raise our opinion if it doesnot matches the crowd?

15.How long we will continue to live a ordinary and purposeless life?

16.When will we remove this tag of loser and unworthy from ourselves?

17.When will we start?

18.Why can't we forget the past and  past failures and move forward?

19.Why can not we be financially and emotionally independent?

20.Why we have to be available for others 24/7?

21.Why are we our last priority?

The list is definitely endless..

Getting  answers to these questions  clearly indicates that our own mind is acting against us..We have to overcome these negative complexes that are  acting as hurdles in the  path towards our  own dream..There is no other way out..Think about it and Please work on it, Don't  waste your lives living a insignificant life..🤔🤔🙏🙏

Trust, the soul of a relationship..

Namaste  everyone,
Relationships are one of the most important part of our lives..like food,water and shelter..We love our relations,we cherish them ,we all live for our relationships..we are emotionally dependent on our relationships..
Love,respect and trust are the pillars of any relationship..be it between  adults or between  a parent and a child or between friends..or between any two individuals  who want to collaborate for any smallest
purpose..
Trust is the soul of any
 relationship...
Love is the thing that binds two individuals but without trust it will be all fake and acompulsive..
Relationship with total trust on each other gives immense positive energy and confidence  that the two individuals can carry on in a relationship  no matter what...
Distrust in a relationship clearly indicates there is something very wrong in the relationship, the base  of the relationship  itself is flawed.. A weak foundation  can not handle a strong relationship.. Without trust the delicate strings of a loving relationship  can be easily disturbed  or even destroyed..
Trusting your partner is not a responsibility  but the basis of a strong lifelong  relationship...
Not trusting your partner  is not only embarrassing  but also totally desrespectful for the other partner..
Trust is not something  that you have it on your partner  one day not on the other...
A trustful partner is definitely  a gift of God that not everybody has...A trustful, loving and caring partner is not in the destiny of everyone....
As a relationship  grows... trust is also developed  in a relationship with true feelings ,honesty and commitment..
It's not  developed in a single day...but once you are committed  to a relationship not trusting  your partner is not acceptable..Here I am not telling to trust  your partner  blindly and keep on ignoring all the red flags in relationships..but mostly what happens is people distrust their partner because they are themselves  insecure..Their insecurities are the main reason of not trusting  their own loving partners..Their insecurities become so much  that when they turn into their own weaknesses , they start acting against their own partners..and finally against  the relationship itself...This results in distrusting the other,insulting them ,abusing them  and finally ending a relationship  without any real reason..

Regretting our whole lives for a failed relationship  only because one of the partner was never emotionally secure to trust the other and destroyed the whole relationship along with the pure emotions of love...is  definitely  a loss for  both the individuals in a relationship..

Because insecure partners neither trust their partners nor their love.
A relationship  flourishes on the contributions of both the partners...It is also the responsibility  of both the partners  to make each other feel secure and confident about each other and responsibility  of the relationship should be on the shoulders of both the partners and not any one of them...Moreover it should  not be the case that  we should keep on proving  ourselves all the time..There  should be no need of that all the times...We should be asking questions to each other,We should be accountable to each other...We  are definitely  answerable to each other in a relationship..
"What others say or perceive about our relationship does not matter,only what we feel about each other is really significant and nothing else..."

Dear readers,Trust your partner ..This definitely  strengthens the relationships..It gives the other partner a great sense of respect  and emotional security..Talk with each other..and overcome your insecurities by talking to each other.. When in doubt  ask your partner  first..Donot jump to conclusions..and do things that can cause permanent  damage to your relationship...
True Relationaships are extremely  rare..It's  not that one goes and another comes...True and pious love  relationships  are definitely  the rarest  ..Please  donot loose them on some silly misunderstandings..Clarify things ,ask questions ,get answers..But donot take hasty decisions  of ending up on a bad note...atleast donot abuse each other and give  chance to the other one to atleast explain his or her stand ..Afterwards the decision is absolutely yours.. 💞💞

I love you...

Namaste  everyone,
I love You....
These three words are the world's  best three words for everybody in this world..
These words contain the power to genrate immense  happiness and content in any individual..This feeling  of being  loved is ecstatic,no words can explain it...
I love you... these pious  words should be said with utmost responsibility ,sincerity ,honesty and commitment...because these words that bring immense  emotional satisfaction in one's  life can also easily devastate that person if said without purity..
Love is something that we feel every moment ,it not only gives us happiness  but motivation  to live ...to achieve our goals and follow our dreams with much more intensity and zeal because  we want to achieve  everything for our partners or loved ones..
Love is something  we ordinary  people live for as we donot  have anything else..
Everybody  knows the importance  of love in our lifes and the feelings  associated  with them..love brings changes to our lives..sometimes positive  sometimes negative...
Love is a purity of feelings..Love is bliss..It is something  to which our soul feels connected...Being loved takes us to cloud nine.. To have someone  who  really loves you is a real God's  grace and can not be  replaced by anything in this world...
Dear readers,falling in love is easy ,but keeping up with Love is a responsibility that needs to be fulfilled  with utmost sincerity  and honesty  each and every moment...
Love motivates us to carry on because we have someone who really loves us no matter what..
Love is definitely  not something to be taken for granted because it  involves people and their intense emotions..
Life without love lacks meaning ,achievements donot make any sense  if we do not have anybody to share our happiness  and sorrows  with..Love is everything  for any emotional person..
Nowdays people  contaminate  this pure feeling  with infidelity , disrespect and distrust...
Finding a loved one who really loves is a real gift of God..but people  sometimes  simply donot care and make other materialistic  things their priority  over love..
I know keeping  on in Love is not at all easy..but it is definitely worth it because you are doing it for someone  who really loves you..
Love should not be under the bondages of any conditions like:

• If you change  for me ,I will love you .
• If you become  successful, I will love you.
• If you change your habits, I will love you.
• If you change your looks , I will love you.
• If you leave your parents and friends ,I will love you.
• If you leave your career ,I will love you..
• If you have money , I will love you..

No conditions  can ever define a relationship.. Changing a person for loving them doesnot make sense..It is forcing someone  into a relationship ..It appears as if
"If you stop being you, I will love you.. "
This is also true that people do change and sacrifice  a lot for love ..but they  do it out of love and not as a condition  to continue  the relationship..
Love is to accept  our partner  with all their negatives  and positive..
Nobody is perfect...Love should complete both the partners..Love is not 100% compatibility , it is  100% commitment  and honesty..
In Love we do not bargain that you give this  and I will give you that..
Love may appear senseless  and stupid to others but for the partners involved  it is definitely everything...  Please donot lose pure love just for small pleasures of cheating or being dishonest or even being disrespectful  to your partner...It will not take you anywhere..In the end you will be left alone with absolutely  nothing...💞💞

Expectations...the real culprit.

Namaste everyone,
Expectations are the real culprit  in any relationship.. As long as our expectations  are met or I should  say we keep on meeting  other person's  expectations  everything goes well in a relationship... Nobody even bothers  or even pays attention  to the fact that many a times people's  expectations  from their partners are unreal or way too much for a normal person..More importantly  people expect things from their partners ,which they are not even willing to reciprocate...
Relationship are so important for every human being in this world that sometimes we are ready to even compromise  our priorities, our interests,our ego,our career and sometimes even our self respect  for the sake of continuing  the relationship...
Giving our best in a  relationship and sacrificing  our own priorities  is common in a healthy  relationship ...After all a relationship is all about love , care ,respect,trust and sacrifice...Most people do it willingly  and happily...
The problem arises when we expect all the wrong things from the wrong person...Mostly ordinary  people are very wrong in judging  people.. Expectations  doesnot make any  sense in the following  cases:

• If we expect true love from a person who doesn't even love you..
• If we expect truth from a person who lies so easily all the time..
• If we expect  loyalty from a person  who has cheated earlier also...
• If you expect a person  to give you the first priority who never ever gave you any priority..
• If we expect  respect  from a person  who has disrespected you publicly..
• If you expect care and attention from a person who is least bothered about you..
• If you expect a person to understand your silence if he or she never even bothered about what you told them directly..
• If you expect a person to stand by your side who was never present in your difficult times...
• If you expect emotional support  from a person who is not even bothered about how are you..or how are you feeling?
• If you expect a phone call from a person who never even bothers to reply to your message or even never calls  back even after seeing your missed call..
• If you expect a person to share  his or her real feelings with you but he himself never shares even little little things with you..
• If you expect a person to not have any secrets between you and him but has himself kept everything password protected..

The list is endless.. Evidently the thing is expecting wrong things from the wrong person....The success of a relationship  is dependent on both the partners..not one..If one is willing to go beyond limits  for the success of a relationship  but  for the other, relationship itself is not of much importance..or rather takes it so lightly or for granted..that relationship can be dragged but not for a longer period...and is definitely  not healthy for the one who is totally involved  or I should  say emotionally dependent  on the realationship..
Dear readers,Relationships are a thing to be cherished and loved.
Relationships are not burdens..I personally  feel they are the gifts of God for us..without them we feel incomplete and definitely  lonely..we should  nurture them with love ,respect and care..but definitely  not at the cost of losing our selfrespect.. The total ignorance  of one of the partner or using people in relationships  is not at all acceptable...

How long we should wait to get success?

Namaste  everyone,
Most of the people of this world are not pretty much as successful  as the other remaining 1% of the population..Although most of them work hard towards their goals or dreams and  wait for real success  in life..For some people the wait is for almost a life time..and people continue to live with their ordinary lives waiting for success.
The definition  of success is also pretty much different for everybody because some people crave for money , some for career and status , some crave for health, some crave for family and loved ones..
Whatever may be the meaning of success for individuals,it is definitely  important...and waiting for it is although normal...It is also a fact that," Wait should  be combined with continuous  hard work and endless efforts.." but thing that bothers me is that  for  how long we ordinary  people should  be waiting for success  or at least something  to click or work in our favours..
Being ordinary this wait is no doubt the most difficult part for us,because we spent all our lives achieving  absolutely  nothing for ourselves..but now that we somehow  gathered courage to make a new start ,despite of  hard work,  this endless wait is really very very confidence  breaking and disappointing..
It may not matter for successful people who have many accomplishments in  their  professional  as well as personal life..but for ordinary people who have nothing much and all their hopes lies on  a single endeavour, waiting for success is really difficult..People donot have any idea , how difficult  it  is  for ordinary people to make a new beginning..It always seems impossible  for ordinary people to make a new start  because all their lives they have over powered themselves with the feelings  of unworthiness ,low self confidence and self esteem..
It is real difficult  to first cross  the mental barrier..On the top of that ordinary  people also had a lot of insecurities  which they somehow overcame to restart..but hurdles appear to be never ending and waiting for success  is really  detrimental  to their confidence  levels..
It is definitely  not easy...
Dear readers ,I  donot know why I am not able to figure out  a timeline for this ..Struggle  appears to be never ending..We all very well know that  achieving success  is not easy and is definitely  not a one day game..It requires constant  and continuous  hard work..but nobody knows for how long the ordinary people have to keep  their spirits high even in absence of any positive  results..
In the absence  of positive  outcomes it will definitely  become very difficult  for anybody to continue  putting efforts..but one point  that I am getting here is we can not stop even in the absence  of results..Let me know your point of views in the comments  section .. Nobody can set a time frame...🤔🤔🤔but this waiting  really gets into our nerves...

God and Us...Is our love for God unconditional?

Namaste  everyone,
The presence of God in our life is inevitable,we all irrespective of our religion follow God...
We pray to God ,We thank God, if things go our way , We get angry,dissapointed and sad if outcome is not as we expect..We mostly blame God for not helping us and very little to ourselves for our failures in life...
God is a matter of faith and usually people approach God for something they need, be it  health,wealth ,prosperity or endless and ever changing wishes that we have with each passing day...
In real life we expect people around us to love us unconditionally but when it comes to God we love God only when God keeps on fulfilling our wishes..
GOD'S love for us is unconditional,God loves us  the way we are ,God excepts us the way we are with all our insecurities,successes and failures..with all our fears,with all our weaknesses..God is the only  person who does not judge us for being us..and most importantly  does  not expect anything in return..God is our only source of light that helps us to get away with the darkness in life..
We usually  fear God and not love him...
But the thing is,  normally people worship God for the  fulfillment  of their desires in life..without even knowing that things we ask from God rather sometimes  beg from God are not even good for us..
We all do believe  in almighty  and his powers..but does not believe  in his decisions  for us in life...we want everything to happen  according  to our judgements depending on our small experience  of life...
As life passes and surely with experience  we recognize  that all God's  decisions  for us were definitely  the best for our lives..People and things are added or removed from our lives according  to God's  will and definitely  for our betterment but we mostly fail to see when we are going through  those phases of ups and downs in  our lives..
We ordinary people believe  in God but Do we really trust  God for everything??🤔🤔.. We trust him for things that we  wish for and getting positive  outcomes of  everything we do in our lives..as long as things happen according  to our plans  everything is good,our belief is strong..but why our faith is so weak that when ever things start going against  our expectations, our faith also start getting  weakened...
The answer is obvious we donot love God truly unconditionally..We simply treat God as one who filfills all our wishes..and not as part of us only..If love is  unconditional nobody can waiver  our faith..but if it is based on ifs and buts ,we  will be definitely  losing faith...when life doesn't  goes as per our plans..
Even worse is the fact that mostly people attribute their success to themselves  and failures to God...
Even some people donot want to do  anything at all , they simply want and expect God to complete their work for them ..They simply  sit idle and keep on waiting for God's  miracles  in their lives😂😂..These  kind of people also do exist..
Dear readers,I have always been a simple person who believed  in God and his decisions  for me in life..and it is also 100% true that I also many a times disagreed  with God's  decisions  in my life..but as years  passed ,I realised how God saved me from absolute  disasters I planned for myself ,if everything would have been the way I wanted...God's  plans are definitely  the only way outs..God is with us ,we have to  seek God's  help and support  in life and not ask for God doing all the work or some kind of miracles...That will be total waste of life and I think disrespect  for God..
It's  not that miracles  donot happen  with people , but they are definitely  not common..but God standing by our sides to support us and give us strength  once we have decided to work hard is definitely  true..and every hard worker person has experienced that in someway or the other in life...God is not a Jinnie,however it many a times does turn for some who are really working hard  and true at heart...
We all have to trust God and his decisions  for us..it not only increases our faith but also makes life much much easier for everybody...😇😇💞

Relationships are our strength or weakness???

Relationships are our strength or weakness??

Namaste everyone,
We are surrounded  by so many different people in the form of various relationships
all our lives..we love and care for them and of course they also love and care for us..
Parents, siblings, grandparents,teachers  friends ,neighbours ,our uncle, aunts and cousins..(there can be many more for some people)These all relations  play a very important role in creating an environment  in which normally people spend all their lives and create  the basic foundation  of  our adult lives..
We feel happy ,we feel loved,we feel protected, we feel secure,we dream big things..In most middle class families people have all these relationships and are quite close to their families..
I am not saying all people have very good big families but just telling usually people feel loved and safe in their big or small families..and in our childhood  times ,we donot know what exactly  relationships  are or even what  is the importance of having healthy relations. But when we become adults from where the hell does all kinds of insecurities related to relationships ,money ,career and our ownselves start dominating us..
We no longer feel comfortable  with many people, we are not confident  about our looks, our career profiles,our marksheets ,our bank balance,our social status ,our jobs , our relationships ..we lack trust ,we feel insecure..
The thing is as grown ups we are expected to be responsible and there is no question about that ,we as adults should act responsibly ..but we feel weak and can not even gather the confidence  of telling people what we exactly feel because we are grown  ups ,we have to face it.."jo relationships  hamari strength  hote hain woh hamari weakness ban jate hain.."
So many new relations get added to our lives like girl friends, boy friends ,husband,wife , kids , in-laws, colleagues,and many more friends..I personally think what exactly happens is
 " we ourselves start a competition  of proving ourselves to all the relationships around us of our worth..and when we fail we  start feeling depressed  and insecure.."
Of all the relationships  that we have nurtured so far very few ones need any certificate  from us for  being the best or very successful, they are there for us no matter how  we are( although  they do wish for us to be happy and successful)
They love us and accept us the way we are, they are our real strengths..We donot need to prove the whole world our importance , we can not be the  good or best for everyone..
But the thing is usually  ordinary people fail to recognize  this due to their own  insecurities and trust issues..Performing better in life should be everybody's aspiration..but as we are doing it for our loved ones and family ,Our family and relationships  act as a support system and the ultimate source of strength for us..as I personally  feel and people can relate with me , if we are doing something  for our family or  for that matter any body we really love,we are filled with a different  kind of energy and zeal..I donot know about the results,but we do try to give our best..and that is what matters  ..its our intentions that really matter for our those relationships  that are the basis of our lives..
Have we ever wondered  that do our looks really matter for our family,jo hamare liye sabse important hoti hai,toh phir hum apne looks ko le kar itna under confident  kyun feel karte hain.. Actually if  we pay attention our insecurities  are actually mindgames that stop us from achieving  our goals by making us weak mentally and hampering  our confidence levels.
We have to perform in our respective  lives by using our strong relationships  as a source of strength..and all other things do not matter...at all..
When we start  doing things like this ,all clutter of unwanted expectations  from people that donot matter is removed from our minds.and when there is less clutter there will be more performance.. one  more thing not everybody will be happy with your success but of course most people  will be happy or not even affected by your failure..then why the hell do we carry the extra luggage of performing for them.. or proving something to people that donot  really even matter..
Dear readers, use your full potential  ,do work hard but with happy and contented  minds ,without any insecurities and pressure and with the mental and moral underlying  support of our loved ones..😊😊😊