Dear Diary, I am Tired of failing...

Namaste everyone,

This post was written by me in my diary when I was really tired of failing again and again despite trying the hardest and giving my best..hope you relate with it.

Many people like me who have lived and still continue to live ordinary lives..are really sick and tired of failing all the time..We never get expected results...not at par ever with our own expectations...we fail ourselves many a times or rather most of the times....
This pretty good track record of failing makes us deep down so... so underconfident and really sad...continuing becomes real difficult..The feelings of unworthiness are really empowering us..
What next...What is way out of this..?? Are we going to be like this all our lives...??All kind of negative thoughts are hitting us real hard...We donot know whom to approach for help..We are not at all vocal to others about the thoughts in our head and feelings in our hearts..

We never expressed that the little little things that we failed to achieve were very very important to us...They were our little dreams..they were what we always wanted to be..
We wanted to be ,The real independent ones both emotionally and financially..We proved to be failures all the times.. with no answers or justifications at all..What are we really doing wrong ? What makes us fit for nothing ?Are we really unworthy?Why are we only destined for all this?
The repercussions of failures are deep routed..they are definitely making us very weak deep inside...they make our lives miserable and results in full financial and emotional dependence on others..that is not at all a healthy choice for any individual..We are getting totally off track..Losing all the time is not easy..
Sense of some kind of accomplishment makes a individual feel worthy of living..It makes them feel happy and joyful..It definitely gives them purpose for life..A deep sense of feeling important and successful in our own eyes and also for others is very much inspiring for a individual to carry on in life.. The sole purpose of being successful in achieving our dreams is to make our ownselves and our loved ones real proud..But failing all the time is really hitting hard...and most importantly gathering courage over and over again to start afresh is very easy to say but extremely difficult to accomplish...😕😕😕😕😕

How to Deal With Our Own Weaknesses..?

Dealing with our own weaknesses..

Namaste everyone,

Our life can easily be summarized as a result of how we conquered our own weaknesses...

Ordinary people are usually not able to control their emotions that further turns into their weakness...
Being emotional is not a problem but being a emotional fool is a real problem..Having empathy for others,loving them,caring for them ,doing them favours..is not at all bad ..but things become out of control when we allow people to use us for their own selfish motives that too at the stake of harming us in some possible way. In the way of using ordinary people some selfish ones not only hurt them emotionally but can also cause financial damage..
Usually we are attached to people whom we love,be it family or friends..we have emotional connections with them ..we are of course emotionally dependent on them as well...but always remember there is a very thin line between being used and helping someone.
We can not be simply blind in love or due to whatever emotional reason.. and allow others to use us to the extent they start hurting us mentally..
"Emotions are for something that we really feel from the heart..they are heartful..there is no space of selfishness in relationships that are based on love and trust.."
Being an emotional human being is not the trait of a weak person..but when we allow people to use us for their selfish motives and we continue to allow them without any regret ,this is not our weakness but shear foolishness..
Favours are done amongst people out of love and friendship..
Having a empathy or rather a soft corner for people is not a weakness but misusing other people's emotions is of course an offence..
We have to deal with it with self confidence..we allow people to misuse us or ill treat us or disrespect us or reject us only because we easily revealed to them that we are weak deep within and will not be able to do without them..This show off of our weakness allows people to treat us the way they want depending upon their needs or even moods..
One very very important point to be noted here is what are reasons for ordinary people being so emotionally weak, foolish , underconfident and insecure that some people are easily able to use them and throw them as per their discretion..
The thing is they used us for whatever selfish reasons of their's, still we were useful to them in some possible way..we never used them,we simply loved them and did favours out of a relationship that we shared with them..Now if and only if we decide to confidently deal with our weaknesses...the other selfish person is and was never of any use to us..So quiting becomes the easiest, think about it..🤔🤔🤔

Why Everybody Is Faking Around?

Everybody is faking around….

Namaste everyone,

What is happening all around us in terms of emotional turbulences is so detrimental that we all on day to day basis appear dissatisfied , disappointed and sometimes saddened as well..

Nobody appears happy...Everybody looks fed up, tired and lost in some sense..Everybody is so... so.. fed up but nobody wants to work on the solution..

"Everybody is faking around...hiding their fears, insecurities,disappointments, aspirations,weaknesses and many a times sadness...They pretend to be happy... Everybody is OK...but from inside all are torn out.."

We all are stuck in the web of expectations ,some from others and some from our ownselves..When these expectations are somehow not met.. life and people around us stop making sense...

Dear readers,to move forward in life we have to stop pretending or faking ...We just have to first accept our own personality as we are, with no manipulations...We have to identify our own weaknesses and strengths.....We can not just fool around our inner own self..Because pretending something that we are actually not can never take us anywhere we really want to reach....It may help to exist in society for some time..But with time everybody's true self appears ...So why can't we always be what we really are..and Express what we really feel..So that relationships made and commitments done in every aspect of life are based on purity and truth...thus are longlasting....

Dear readers,What others think of us should no way bother us ,if we are not insecure from within and our intentions are pure...Stop being the victim of your own assumptions about ourself from other's perspective...It does not matter at all...If you are true to yourself..

Try following things..

1.Be vocal about your feelings.

2.Donot offend or abuse anybody in the name of proving your point..

3.Accept your weaknesses...first.

4.Donot get affected by other people's comments or point of views about you..Be it positive or negative..

5.Donot seek approvals for everything you do..

6.Own your actions..

7.Work hard on improving yourself and not on simply proving your point to others..

8.Do things that you yourself like or love to do and not to please others.

9.Donot forget to complete your responsibilities in the name of following your dream..

10.Donot lose hope if you get failures or harsh judgements from others .

11.Donot demean yourselves nor others by your actions or words..

12.Stop

12.Be committed to yourself and your dream..

13.Donot be led by others point of view but you can take guidance..There is no harm in seeking help..But 100% dependence on others for everything is not acceptable..

14.Stop pretending..

15.Accept life as it is, donot jump to conclusions based on your fears and insecurities..

16.Always move forward,stop living in the past and judging yourself on the basis of your past..

17.Help others in whatever possible way you can..

18.Distance yourselves from all negativity be it about yourself or even other people.

19.Keep on improving your skill set..

20.Work on self grooming and self improvement..

Nothing is impossible, take the first step..Your pure commitment and hard work will guide you further..😇👍

Why I am Still Unchanged ?

Unchanged me...

Namaste everyone,

Thank God ,time did not change me..The only thing that was left unchanged with time was me.Life's ups and downs never changed me in the sense that ....

1.I never stopped trusting people...

2.I never stopped Giving my best to them...

3.I always kept Choosing other's priorities over mine..

4.I Never betrayed anyone..

5.Always I was ready for help..

6.Doing favours and not asking anything in return was my way....

7.I Never expressed myself. I never let people know how I really felt...

8.Always available attitude of mine..

9.I have never been disrespectful to anyone..

10. I was always been the simple,ordinary me that always wished good for everyone..Always prayed that I donot want to hurt anyone intentionally or even unintentionally...

11.Always adjusting even if required sacrificing my own interest..

12.Never asked for favours from anybody nor even expressed my desires..

13.Nil expectations from others..The only thing expected was respect and honesty...

14.Never had a dream for myself..

15.Never raised my voice against anybody..

My personality traits donot seem to fit in today's so called successful world..Some people might see this as a flaw in my personality and that I was foolish,naive and underconfident but for me these above things mentioned were my strengths but irony is my strengths could never made me successful more importantly I never changed with time..

I personally never agree nor I give any attention to other's thought process and perception about me ,It is my nature..I donot want to change...but One thing that I totally lacked and regret is that ,"I never had a dream of my own,I was always OK being average,I never recognized or realized that I was living a purposeless life and was not at all motivated to achieve anything in life...This was indeed the biggest blunder I did to myself..."

Change is difficult but it is definitely inevitable ...

Changing for good , mending your ways ,improving and learning with each passing day adapting to new environment is not easy for ordinary people but it is the thing we should definitely opt for..This is the need..As lately I also recognized our older ,ordinary and simpler versions donot fit in today's world..

The world where people value each other,give 100% to each other only out of love... Honesty ,integrity and commitment were the things people looked for in each other no more exist..It's not that every body is bad but selfishness has definitely taken over selflessness.. Priorities have changed..

After so many personal and professional failures ,still ordinary people like me find it difficult to change..

Dear readers,I am never in favour of changing your personality for the sake of fitting into the world but becoming strong and confident enough to face the world is inevitable...In absence of self confidence and atleast the courage to stand on your own be it professionally or personally you will continue to live a miserable and purposeless life..And this is a fact ...

The only way that may work for ordinary people like me is to

1.Work harder and harder without losing hope

2. Focus on Self improvement and grooming in terms of improving our skill set.

3.Maintaining a positive mindset and hanging on, no matter what.. is the only way out..

As I personally feel we can not change inside out..We can improve and learn but we can not change our basic nature....So ,Dear readers, Please donot change for the sake of others or for fitting in...but do improve and work upon your strengths...😇👍

"My dream is important to me.."

Namaste everyone...

I have started focusing on my own small dream that completely belongs to me... It's been two months now. Never before in my own life I realised that a ordinary person like me can dare to have a dream of my own...Still seems surprising to me..sometimes I even feel of letting it go,I do feel scared..I also do feel very nervous because I am not getting expected results till date...then I have to fight against my own negative thoughts and shout out loud reminding myself that,"My dream is important to me , I am all about my dream now .."

I do not know what people will think or how they will react when they will realise that a person like me can even have a dream of my own...It will be unbelievable for many ,even for people very close to me.. mainly because over the years they have never seen me focusing on myself in any possible way...

This change in me is not at all sudden as far as my inner feelings are concerned..but it may appear sudden for people around me.As I have never been expressive regarding my own feelings to others..I never say what I feel or want..Over the years I developed a strong sense of unworthiness ..I was fit for nothing fellow in my own eyes...may be for others also..

I was struggling in my own head..I had nothing that I really own..Daily I was asking God what is my worth...What is my real purpose...
I am having a lot of responsibilities as a mother of two kids and a wife ..I am a complete family person.
But I was never responsible for my own self..I am dependent on my family for everything..be it emotional or financial... I have always been a weak and vulnerable person..My strong feelings of unworthiness has nothing to do with my family..I donot know why , but my dream is growing roots deep within my mind ....Sometimes I think it is driven by the thought of proving myself to others and most importantly to myself..."There is a lot of positivity in my dream..I dream of really making my kids proud ,this feeling fills me with enthusiasm and zeal to move forward."

I am feeling hungry for things that elevate my self esteem and confidence...

I feel lonely..I may be suffering from some kind of depression..I don't know...I may appear funny to people that know me..They will be asking..what is wrong in my mind ..I may appear a fool as they will judge me for following my dream despite having a wonderful life...

But they will definitely not realise that ,Now my dream is important to me...I am going to follow it no matter what...😊😊😊😇😇

I will not allow people to tell me that " my silly dream will not be successful..as usual.As I am a family person..I have turned so dumb over the years that I won't be successful in whatever I will start ...and moreover there is no need for me to start anything new..It will be a time and effort wastage.."

All these things are not going to effect me in any possible manner because my determination is not weak now as it used to be.."My dream is important as anybody else's is..I may fail but I will not stop working hard on it..Turning dreams into reality might be difficult but not impossible.."😇😇

Why are we not ready to change or adapt...

Namaste everyone,
Why are we not ready to change or adapt??
In case of people with ordinary average lives..this is quite a common trait..I personally agree to this..Change is not easy for ordinary people..because we have always been living in a small shell where we continue to live as underconfident ,introvert ,talentless individuals who cannot dream or dare to do something new ..
"The reason is obvious we fear to fail and so we never want to expose ourselves to the judgements of the world..."

Fear of failure is so much imbibed in us that we are not able to adapt to any changes in our life or even small things in our daily routines..
Before starting the thoughts of routine changes in our life style (those are just superficial changes)..but we are so insecure deep within that we can not even do that..Forget about the real changes we need to do to our pessimistic mindset..
I personally feel we never ever focussed on self development. We always had the mindset that nothing should be changed..so that the dull purposeless life of ours continues seamlessly..
We have always been so much afraid to change that although we feel restless and anxious deep within but are unable to change..To bring any positive changes to life or to improve our living standards both financially and emotionally does require a lot of effort and inner urge to achieve..
We want to achieve things, if we get it some how by God's grace or by other people's effort..we can not do anything..because we keep on reminding ourselves that even if we try we are going to fail,so instead of losing and getting self embarrassment, we never even try to start or at least participate in something that requires changes within us as well as our environment or daily routines..
We have to just start with a new thought..we have to take little time from our own lives for ourselves..we have to work on self growth..we have to learn something..we have to follow the dream that we buried deep within ourselves just because we never gathered the courage to pursue it..may be circumstances also did not favour us at that time...but stop bothering about them now.. we have to be better then the previous versions of ourselves..The goal is achievable..we have weaknesses..we are not the best ..we shall from now onwards never stop ..we will become better with each passing day..I also agree these changes in our mindsets and external environment will definitely not be easy.. but there is no way out.. We have to take ourselves out of this feeling of being unworthy or having a failed life...It may have been ,but is definitely not going to be like this..because hard work and things done truly from the heart always work😊😊😊.

Follow your Dream..

Follow Your Dream..

Namaste everyone,

This post is a collection of some quote's reels . HOPE u like it and relate..

Why can't we agree to disagree??

Namaste everyone,

In our day to day lives,we have a lot of disagreements with people around us, be it our closed ones also but that noway means that we hate them as well..This thing or I should say thought is not as simple as it appears..

We usually mix disagreements with hate and disrespect or sometimes even disregard for each other...but the thing is ,

If I like red and you like blue...It noway indicates that blue is a bad color and I should start to hate you ,because you donot like what I like..This simple thought helped me identify a major reason that acted as a deterrent in relationships...

As partners or as any two individuals it is a 100% possibility that our point of views can not fully match..We will agree on somethings and disagree on others..We actually fail to respect or even recognize each other's opinions and try to force our's onto them...This forceful behaviour can last for sometime...but its not healthy,it's not legitimate.. It is in fact disrespectful and even sometimes disturbing for one of the partner and he or she starts feeling underconfident and insecure because their opinion doesnot matter and even if they gather courage to express it ,It results in a rift or a bad fight or quarrel between the two individuals...

It is the trait of some dominating individuals that they want their opinion only to matter without even giving slightest regard to what their partners feel and want to say..

To agree on each other's disagreements is not that difficult, if we respect and trust each other completely..It is but obvious that one person's insecurities regarding disagreements on a particular thing results in a quarrel or I should say some kind of rift between the two individuals...

Dear readers,I personally feel we should give full freedom to our partners to express themselves fully.. so that we very well know what is exactly going on in their heads and how exactly they are feelings..What is our partner's view on a particular thing that affects our lives is definitely important..So how can we ignore it or even disregard it...One important point here is that if we are giving enough space to our partner's point of view and respect it ,the same behaviour is also expected from them as well...Because in relationships everything is mutual...The responsibility of the past ,present and future of a relationship lies on the shoulders of both the individuals and noway on any one of them...

I have seen a different side of many people in relationships, because usually people fail to acknowledge or understand other person's feelings and fears...

Dear readers,Why can't we act as support system for our partners or for that matter everybody we come in contact with..

Always give enough space for even your naturally introvert or under confident partner to flourish.. Act as a positive support,be real and respectful....With unconditional support and love, you can definitely make your some how weak partner do wonders and achieve his or her dream..Be a constant support system...This is what is expected...

The irresponsible behaviour of one of the partner be like

1.Taking the other for granted..

2. Misunderstanding the other all the time..

3. Disrespecting the other partner..

4. Occupying the personal space of the other forcefully..

5. Giving zero or very very little importance to other's point of view..

6. Prioritising yourself on your partner..

7. Giving high importance to your career and goals and giving negligible importance to your partner's ambitions and regarding them as useless..

8. Not trusting your partner..

9. Not asking for your partner's choice or opinion or like or dislike..

10. Taking decisions that affect both the partners without other's consent and sometimes even knowledge..

11. Forcing your superiority on the other in terms of finances,looks or any other stupid reason..

12. Using your partner as a ladder for growth instead of a support system and even failing to recognize and acknowledge..

13. Making fun of the weaknesses of your partner publicly instead of correcting him or her privately..

All the above mentioned acts of one of the partner result in resentment and in my personal opinion a kind of emotional abuse people do to their partners..

Dear readers,Please accept your partners with their weaknesses and strengths..Create enough space for both of the partners to flourish and prosper in a relationship..Disagreements on things can not or I should say must not be the reason of a failed relationship.. Disagreements are point of views..They are not judgements for parting ways..Opinion of both the partners should be equally valued..then only a healthy relationship can survive the ups and downs of life..This is actually the only way out for the prosperity and mental well being of both the partners and for the success of the relationship as a whole..Think about it..🤔😊💞